Abuse Thread

[rrford]

Eventually it is about to happen as "Into every life a little rain must fall."

At some point you are going to post and someone is going to repsond. You will feel as if you are being abused and want to retaliate. Well, this is the place. Tell us about how mean everyone is, how narrow minded they are, how they have attacked you without reason and just don't understand you.

Blame it on your childhood, your mother and father, the dog that hated you or the fact that you weere not born with a silver spoon in your mouth.

But always, always remember: "If one person says you have a problem, it could be that they are wrong. If a coulpe of people say you have a problem, it still could be that they are wrong. But if everyone starts saying you have a problem, guess what? You are the proud owner of a bonafide problem!"

Be blessed and tell us how you really feel. :D

[Ron]

I think everyone don't like me cuz I is Canadian!:rolleyes:




:D

[AmazingGrace]

I think everyone don't like me cuz I is Canadian!:rolleyes:




:D


Oh get over it!!!!!!!!!!! ROFL











:D

[Ronzo]

I think everyone don't like me cuz I is Canadian!:rolleyes:




:D
You're very observant.

[Ron]

You're very observant.

I wuz right!:eek:

Does it help if I had a little bit of redneck in me?:D

[rrford]

You're very observant.

Hey, good to see that you are here. I was in Austin a few weeks ago. Quick in and out trip. Thought about calling you but was pressed for time.

[Ronzo]

Think about it harder next time...

;)

[rgcraig]

Think about it harder next time...

;)

True abuse! Hey, let me rub it in that I think enough of you to think about NOT calling you.

[Sister Truth Seeker]

Eventually it is about to happen as "Into every life a little rain must fall."

At some point you are going to post and someone is going to repsond. You will feel as if you are being abused and want to retaliate. Well, this is the place. Tell us about how mean everyone is, how narrow minded they are, how they have attacked you without reason and just don't understand you.

Blame it on your childhood, your mother and father, the dog that hated you or the fact that you weere not born with a silver spoon in your mouth.

But always, always remember: "If one person says you have a problem, it could be that they are wrong. If a coulpe of people say you have a problem, it still could be that they are wrong. But if everyone starts saying you have a problem, guess what? You are the proud owner of a bonafide problem!"

Be blessed and tell us how you really feel. :D


I feel so abused by your thread....:(

Just kidding of course....

[rrford]

True abuse! Hey, let me rub it in that I think enough of you to think about NOT calling you.

And when NLYP calls you never know if it is abuse or kindness. :D

[Margies3]

I think everyone don't like me cuz I is Canadian!:rolleyes:




:D

I think everyone likes you in spite of the fact that you is Canadian.:friend

[Sister Truth Seeker]

I think everyone likes you in spite of the fact that you is Canadian.:friend

Yeah we can't hold it against him being a alien:dogkiss ...

[IAintMovin]

To me this should be in the Cry Room, hum???

[Ron]

Ah, it ain't abuse if they love you right??:banghead

[Apostolic Kitty]

Eventually it is about to happen as "Into every life a little rain must fall."

At some point you are going to post and someone is going to repsond. You will feel as if you are being abused and want to retaliate. Well, this is the place. Tell us about how mean everyone is, how narrow minded they are, how they have attacked you without reason and just don't understand you.

Blame it on your childhood, your mother and father, the dog that hated you or the fact that you weere not born with a silver spoon in your mouth.

But always, always remember: "If one person says you have a problem, it could be that they are wrong. If a coulpe of people say you have a problem, it still could be that they are wrong. But if everyone starts saying you have a problem, guess what? You are the proud owner of a bonafide problem!"

Be blessed and tell us how you really feel. :D

So, this thread is for the abused... What about the neglected? Shall we just continue to ignore them???

[AmazingGrace]

So, this thread is for the abused... What about the neglected? Shall we just continue to ignore them???



Well its their own fault if they are neglected because if you speak often enough and loud enough and have something to say that amounts to anything someone is gonna hear ya.... so I think if they are neglected they are just whining and then they need to be here at the abuse thread!!!!!!!!!!!!!:cheer

[BoredOutOfMyMind]

Well its their own fault if they are neglected because if you speak often enough and loud enough and have something to say that amounts to anything someone is gonna hear ya.... so I think if they are neglected they are just whining and then they need to be here at the abuse thread!!!!!!!!!!!!!:cheer


The intent is good. This is a thread that was not abused correctly back in Kansas.

That tornado that hit was abuse!

[AmazingGrace]

The intent is good. This is a thread that was not abused correctly back in Kansas.

That tornado that hit was abuse!



And you should be glad to know that even though my title stands strong..... I was on a self inflicted vacation :donuts and had nothing whatsoever to do with or involved in no way in the tornado!!!!! WHEW!!!!!!!!!!!:clap :clap :clap

[BoredOutOfMyMind]

And you should be glad to know that even though my title stands strong..... I was on a self inflicted vacation :donuts and had nothing whatsoever to do with or involved in no way in the tornado!!!!! WHEW!!!!!!!!!!!:clap :clap :clap

It was too abusive to even consider blaming you.

Then again....

[AmazingGrace]

It was too abusive to even consider blaming you.

Then again....



ROFL Now behave!!!!!!:dance :hypercoffee

[Charlie Brown]

That Lucy is always abusing me. pulling the football away when I try to kick it. Calling me names.

I am abused.

[Apostolic Kitty]

Well its their own fault if they are neglected because if you speak often enough and loud enough and have something to say that amounts to anything someone is gonna hear ya.... so I think if they are neglected they are just whining and then they need to be here at the abuse thread!!!!!!!!!!!!!:cheer

Well considering the barbs you just threw at them, I would say they definitely have reason to speak here at the abuse thread because they are no longer neglected, but abused!!! Now that's the way to take care of this very serious, troubling issue... You go girl!!

:ty

[AmazingGrace]

Well considering the barbs you just threw at them, I would say they definitely have reason to speak here at the abuse thread because they are no longer neglected, but abused!!! Now that's the way to take care of this very serious, troubling issue... You go girl!!

:ty



Oh now AK I wouldnt throw Barb at them... she is such a nice sweet lady :) :tease :killinme

[The Kid]

Eventually it is about to happen as "Into every life a little rain must fall."

At some point you are going to post and someone is going to repsond. You will feel as if you are being abused and want to retaliate. Well, this is the place. Tell us about how mean everyone is, how narrow minded they are, how they have attacked you without reason and just don't understand you.

Blame it on your childhood, your mother and father, the dog that hated you or the fact that you weere not born with a silver spoon in your mouth.

But always, always remember: "If one person says you have a problem, it could be that they are wrong. If a coulpe of people say you have a problem, it still could be that they are wrong. But if everyone starts saying you have a problem, guess what? You are the proud owner of a bonafide problem!"

Be blessed and tell us how you really feel. :D

Thou shalt not covet...

:killinme

[Rhoni]

I feel I am abused because I am a woman. I think I am abused because I have a mind and don't need a man to think for me:tease

I think and feel I am only partially correct.:killinme

Blessings, Rhoni

[The Kid]

I feel I am abused because I am a woman. I think I am abused because I have a mind and don't need a man to think for me:tease

I think and feel I am only partially correct.:killinme

Blessings, Rhoni

Rhoni, how can you say that you don't need a man to think for you, then you say you believe that you are only partially correct?

It seems those two statements are proofs of one another. :D

[Rhoni]

Rhoni, how can you say that you don't need a man to think for you, then you say you believe that you are only partially correct?

It seems those two statements are proofs of one another. :D

:sad You caught it...yes I am only partially complete.:sad

I wonder if it would help if I lost 30 pounds, had lipo, and got a new pair of shoes?:dunno

Blessings, Rhoni

[BoredOutOfMyMind]

Thad, your thread is ready!

[The Kid]

:sad You caught it...yes I am only partially complete.:sad

I wonder if it would help if I lost 30 pounds, had lipo, and got a new pair of shoes?:dunno

Blessings, Rhoni

boy oh boy oh boy, you didn't read any of the material in my famous thread did you...maybe I need to start it up again.

:killinme

[Rhoni]

boy oh boy oh boy, you didn't read any of the material in my famous thread did you...maybe I need to start it up again.

:killinme

:heeheehee :heeheehee :heeheehee I read it...but I didn't believe much of it...:heeheehee :heeheehee :heeheehee

[rrford]

:sad You caught it...yes I am only partially complete.:sad

I wonder if it would help if I lost 30 pounds, had lipo, and got a new pair of shoes?:dunno

Blessings, Rhoni


But you still wouldn't have a man or be able to think. Then what? :killinme

[rgcraig]

boy oh boy oh boy, you didn't read any of the material in my famous thread did you...maybe I need to start it up again.

:killinme
Might just need to get more creative with the thread title this time.

[Rhoni]

But you still wouldn't have a man or be able to think. Then what? :killinme

I would be/am in pitiful shape I assure you:sad :sad :sad :sad

[Rhoni]

Coming up. I have a great idea that will be very fitting.


I gotta hear this:bliss

[rrford]

I gotta hear this:bliss

Actually, I changed my mind. A thread called "Carp's Thread About Coveting Sexy Things" just didn't sound in good taste. :killinme

[Garfield]

If there were NO preachers there would be no spiritual abuse.

[The Kid]

If there were NO preachers there would be no spiritual abuse.

Admin forgive me, but this is an ignorant statement.


If there were no pride and religious fear, there would be no spiritual abuse.

[The Kid]

:heeheehee :heeheehee :heeheehee I read it...but I didn't believe much of it...:heeheehee :heeheehee :heeheehee

YOU'VE GOTTA BE KIDDING ME!!!! :ranting


Shame on me, I bought all that feminine stuff hook line and sinker...see how you are??

[rrford]

Admin forgive me, but this is an ignorant statement.


If there were no pride and religious fear, there would be no spiritual abuse.

Carp, this is a new Forum and will take some getting used to as far as posters and their style.

I believe the man's comments were sarcastic. In other words, some folks think that only preachers committ spiritual abuse. hence, if we get rid of the preachers then by de facto spiritual abuse would disappear. He was saying it just ain't gonna happen. If I misse di there he can feel free to correct me.

Now, if a couple of other posters had made the same statment your repsonse would have been dead on. Why not copy and paste it somewhere as we will no doubt need it in the future. :heeheehee

[BoredOutOfMyMind]

Carp, this is a new Forum and will take some getting used to as far as posters and their style.

I believe the man's comments were sarcastic. In other words, some folks think that only preachers committ spiritual abuse. hence, if we get rid of the preachers then by de facto spiritual abuse would disappear. He was saying it just ain't gonna happen. If I misse di there he can feel free to correct me.

Now, if a couple of other posters had made the same statment your repsonse would have been dead on. Why not copy and paste it somewhere as we will no doubt need it in the future. :heeheehee

Trolls will be trolls.

Then they boast on other boards when we ban them.

[rrford]

Trolls will be trolls.

Then they boast on other boards when we ban them.

Okay. Reckon I read this one wrong. Thanks BOOM.

[BoredOutOfMyMind]

Okay. Reckon I read this one wrong. Thanks BOOM.

I did not ban this one, but fits the slot.

Look at the avatar and the posting style.

BTW Is this a blog thread?

[rrford]

I did not ban this one, but fits the slot.

Look at the avatar and the posting style.

BTW Is this a blog thread?

Not sure if this is a blog thread. Sure hope not.

[BoredOutOfMyMind]

Not sure if this is a blog thread. Sure hope not.

Some claimed the blog threads were abusive....

[rrford]

Some claimed the blog threads were abusive....

Those folks need to go to the Cry Room. :sad

[BoredOutOfMyMind]

Those folks need to go to the Cry Room. :sad

Those who pen blogs, or those who called me to complain?

(Insert Point At You smiley here)

[AmazingGrace]

Those who pen blogs, or those who called me to complain?

(Insert Point At You smiley here)



Know what id tell em???????????



GET OVER IT!!!!!!!!!! :sad :killinme :killinme

[Felicity]

I have no clue what you guys are talking about here. Maybe it's just as well? :killinme

[Truly Blessed]

Carp, this is a new Forum and will take some getting used to as far as posters and their style.

I believe the man's comments were sarcastic. In other words, some folks think that only preachers committ spiritual abuse. hence, if we get rid of the preachers then by de facto spiritual abuse would disappear. He was saying it just ain't gonna happen. If I misse di there he can feel free to correct me.

Now, if a couple of other posters had made the same statment your repsonse would have been dead on. Why not copy and paste it somewhere as we will no doubt need it in the future. :heeheeheeI have known cases where it was not the pastor, but other members of the congregation who were being spiritually abusive towards both their pastor and others. Because of their influence no one dared deal with them.

[rrford]

Felidilly and TB, good to see ya'll.

[Felicity]

Felidilly and TB, good to see ya'll. Thank you!

I haven't been abused yet! LOL! But I'm posting on this thread anyhow just to say HI to you! :bliss

[rrford]

Thank you!

I haven't been abused yet! LOL! :bliss

Just stick around awhile. It will happen. I guarantee it! :highfive

[Felicity]

Just stick around awhile. It will happen. I guarantee it! :highfiveWell thankfully this thread is here then. And then there's the Crying thread too of course! :thumbsup

Ha! :)

[Rhoni]

I have no clue what you guys are talking about here. Maybe it's just as well? :killinme

Hey Felicity! Good to see you. :highfive Don't worry you'll catch on quickly and find out we don't really know what we're talking about anyway!:dunno

Love & Blessings, Rhoni

[Rhoni]

I have known cases where it was not the pastor, but other members of the congregation who were being spiritually abusive towards both their pastor and others. Because of their influence no one dared deal with them.

TB, Good to see you! And I have seen the kind you are talking about here...usually the "Old Pillars of the Church" who have been in the way for more years than we are old! LOL:heeheehee


Blessings, Rhoni

[Falla39]

TB, Good to see you! And I have seen the kind you are talking about here...usually the "Old Pillars of the Church" who have been in the way for more years than we are old! LOL:heeheehee


Blessings, Rhoni

I am not particularly addressing this to Rhoni or anyone, but for the

sake of more understanding.


In I Cor. 12: Paul speaking to the church at Corinth about the Body of

Christ being one, with many members. In verse 18 we are told, "But now

hath God set the members every one of them in the body as it hath

pleased HIM.

When God calls a man and woman to a city to build a work for God,

does He not have it planned before hand. If God is in control and that

couple are sensitive to the Spirit, I believe they will receive instructions

from God as to how to set it up. My dad and mom were called to a town

near the city where my dad held a good job. It was eight years before

dad started the work of God as he felt he had to provide for his family

first. That he did and as God provided for his family a home of their own,

the family was growing and we children were also growing in age and in

stature. My brother and I who received the Holy Ghost not too long

before Dad started the work, still remain in place as "Old Pillars" of this

work began by our earthly father, being instructed by his Heavenly Father.

We were placed no doubt at an early age as ".... God hath set the

members every one of them in the body , as it hath pleased HIM".

It is not always easy to "stay put where God planted us in the be-

ginning because of others that feel you don't have a right to be there.

Or that you have outlived your purpose. Where God planted me is where

I plan to stay until HE "transplants" me otherwise. Transplanting is

needful sometimes as lives depend on it but it is not the most desirable

way to live. We are in a day of transplants and I thank God that two of

my younger siblings are alive today because of God's mercy in making

it possible for them to live longer. Thank God for His mercy and grace.

We might like to rethink our "Old Pillars" as they just might be what is

holding up the "building". If you are going to remove or replace the

old supports. old pillars, you best make sure there is something se-

curing the building until they are replaced because it might just come

down on some heads that didn't discern or understand the "body of

Christ". What God puts in place we had better let remain until He re-

moves or replaces it, at His Will!!! We best let (allow, permit) GOD to

do the replacing. He usually takes care of that with time and age!

There are certainly abuses, whether it be the pastor or saints. And

God knows where the problem lies. He KNOWS ALL things, including

man's thoughts and motives. He SEES the heart (inside) of man.

And sometimes it can be MISUNDERSTANDING as to what the Will

of God is. Rehoboam caused Israel to be divided because he listened

to inexperience and the lack of God given wisdom. He wouldn't listen

to the ones who had been faithful to his father, Solomon. The Bible

is full of examples for us to follow. We could well listen to the prayer

of the Son of God who did only what His Father instructed Him to do

and say. He listened, grew in wisdom and in stature, and in time He

was "old" enough and able to inherit the Kingdom of God! He became

obedient unto death, even the death of the Cross!!!

I believe it would be best to wait until the Father gives us our in-

heritance!!! FATHER REALLY DOES KNOW BEST!!!

This is not to offend or put anyone down. It is just some thoughts

of a senior sister, who was once young, but am now older. I love

everyone on this forum and those NOT on this forum. IF we have

GOD we should have enough love to go around to the whole family!!

Blessings,

Falla39

[Falla39]

Felidilly and TB, good to see ya'll.

yes, it is great to see Sis. Felicity and Truly Blessed here!

You both were missed!:highfive

Blessings,

Falla39

[Chan]

But always, always remember: "If one person says you have a problem, it could be that they are wrong. If a coulpe of people say you have a problem, it still could be that they are wrong. But if everyone starts saying you have a problem, guess what? You are the proud owner of a bonafide problem!"

Be blessed and tell us how you really feel. :DI don't agree with your claim that if everyone starts saying you have a problem that you are the one who is wrong. TRUTH is not based on majority consensus. Essentially "everyone" in this wicked world that rejects Christ believes Christians are wrong but, quite obviously, that doesn't make it so. Jesus said the world would hate Him. "The world" is essentially the same as your "everyone." If we follow your premise, Jesus is the One with the problem and not the world.

God hates sin. Yet "everyone" claims to have "free will" and, thus, the RIGHT to do whatever one pleases. If we follow your premise, God is the one with the problem (He hates sin).

If I say, "God does not call women to the five-fold ministry" and just about everyone here stupidly interprets that statement to mean that I hate women, that doesn't make "everyone" right. If the Apostle Paul, under the inspiration of the Holy Ghost, says "I do not allow a woman to teach" and "everyone" says "Paul is a male chauvanist pig" does that mean "everyone" is right?

There was a time when "everyone" insisted the world was flat. Were those who claimed the world was round (well, spherical) wrong just because "everyone" disagreed with them?

[Ferd]

Chan has a problem.

[Apostolic Kitty]

Oh now AK I wouldnt throw Barb at them... she is such a nice sweet lady :) :tease :killinme

Hehehe... I don't think I'd want to see her tossed about the room either... :heeheehee

[rrford]

I don't agree with your claim that if everyone starts saying you have a problem that you are the one who is wrong. TRUTH is not based on majority consensus. Essentially "everyone" in this wicked world that rejects Christ believes Christians are wrong but, quite obviously, that doesn't make it so. Jesus said the world would hate Him. "The world" is essentially the same as your "everyone." If we follow your premise, Jesus is the One with the problem and not the world.

God hates sin. Yet "everyone" claims to have "free will" and, thus, the RIGHT to do whatever one pleases. If we follow your premise, God is the one with the problem (He hates sin).

If I say, "God does not call women to the five-fold ministry" and just about everyone here stupidly interprets that statement to mean that I hate women, that doesn't make "everyone" right. If the Apostle Paul, under the inspiration of the Holy Ghost, says "I do not allow a woman to teach" and "everyone" says "Paul is a male chauvanist pig" does that mean "everyone" is right?

There was a time when "everyone" insisted the world was flat. Were those who claimed the world was round (well, spherical) wrong just because "everyone" disagreed with them?

Chancellor, I think you would argue with a sign if you painted it.

Saying the world is flat is not akin to someone saying you have a problem. I am speaking in the realm of knowns not unknowns.

[Chan]

Chancellor, I think you would argue with a sign if you painted it.

Saying the world is flat is not akin to someone saying you have a problem. I am speaking in the realm of knowns not unknowns.Yes, and "everyone" back then just knew the world was flat. What you're really doing is you're trying to justify claiming that your "perception" of someone is fact.

[rrford]

Yes, and "everyone" back then just knew the world was flat. What you're really doing is you're trying to justify claiming that your "perception" of someone is fact.

What I am actually doping is trying to make someone see the forest but their view is blocked by the trees.

Chancellor, you do realize that statements such as I made are not blanket statements, right? You do understand that the statement really is correct in the overall, right?

[Chan]

What I am actually doping is trying to make someone see the forest but their view is blocked by the trees.

Chancellor, you do realize that statements such as I made are not blanket statements, right? You do understand that the statement really is correct in the overall, right?I understand that you believe it is generally correct (or, as you put it, "correct in the overall"); I just happen to disagree with that belief. Perception is not fact.

[BoredOutOfMyMind]

What I am actually doping is trying to make someone see the forest but their view is blocked by the trees.

Chancellor, you do realize that statements such as I made are not blanket statements, right? You do understand that the statement really is correct in the overall, right?

This of course depends on who "here stupidly interprets that statement"

[Barb]

Oh now AK I wouldnt throw Barb at them... she is such a nice sweet lady :) :tease :killinme

LOL!! I just saw this...:heeheehee

[Barb]

Hehehe... I don't think I'd want to see her tossed about the room either... :heeheehee

Thank you...it wouldn't be a pretty sight I can assure you...:heeheehee

[BoredOutOfMyMind]

Abuse, abuse, abuse.

[Bryan]

someone deleted my thread.. oh, my bad! It wasn't my thread. someone deleted a thread that I started!! no explanation!! geeze.. at least give an explanation!! and I'd be happy twinkling on my toes like this feller ---> :bliss

hahaha

[Rhoni]

Speaking of abuse....Someone took the liberty to help me out with my issues in relation to my son's upcoming wedding. We women post all our grievances and concerns on Dear Gabby's for prayer and advice and seeking the counsel of many...and I participated.

Someone took it a step farther though...went to three forums, cut and pasted all my posts and sent them to my children. My ex-husband's wife has been posting here under a psuedo name and trying to cause trouble.

To the person who thought they were helping...shame on you. To me for posting my problems here...shame on me. The definition of an idiot is: " When a person continues to do the same thing, in the same way, hoping to get a different result. This is me. I am an idiot.

The abuse against myself has to stop. So it is stopping here. To those who don't like my profession and think it against God...well, you are welcome to your opinion, Chancellor in particular.

To those who like contacting Pastors and children with the intent to cause trouble... bless you. To the administrative staff trying to deal with it...I appreciate all your efforts but this is something I will have to handle.

I have enjoyed my postings on the past three forums and it has kept me sane, for the most part...now it is time to move on. For my own sake.

Love & Blessings, Rhonda

[whollyHis]

Speaking of abuse....Someone took the liberty to help me out with my issues in relation to my son's upcoming wedding. We women post all our grievances and concerns on Dear Gabby's for prayer and advice and seeking the counsel of many...and I participated.

Someone took it a step farther though...went to three forums, cut and pasted all my posts and sent them to my children. My ex-husband's wife has been posting here under a psuedo name and trying to cause trouble.

To the person who thought they were helping...shame on you. To me for posting my problems here...shame on me. The definition of an idiot is: " When a person continues to do the same thing, in the same way, hoping to get a different result. This is me. I am an idiot.

The abuse against myself has to stop. So it is stopping here. To those who don't like my profession and think it against God...well, you are welcome to your opinion, Chancellor in particular.

To those who like contacting Pastors and children with the intent to cause trouble... bless you. To the administrative staff trying to deal with it...I appreciate all your efforts but this is something I will have to handle.

I have enjoyed my postings on the past three forums and it has kept me sane, for the most part...now it is time to move on. For my own sake.

Love & Blessings, Rhonda


Rhoni...this breaks my heart...how low can a person get????
I am so sorry, and I will miss reading your posts..
God bless you, and know that I am praying for you...

[freeatlast]

Speaking of abuse....Someone took the liberty to help me out with my issues in relation to my son's upcoming wedding. We women post all our grievances and concerns on Dear Gabby's for prayer and advice and seeking the counsel of many...and I participated.

Someone took it a step farther though...went to three forums, cut and pasted all my posts and sent them to my children. My ex-husband's wife has been posting here under a psuedo name and trying to cause trouble.

To the person who thought they were helping...shame on you. To me for posting my problems here...shame on me. The definition of an idiot is: " When a person continues to do the same thing, in the same way, hoping to get a different result. This is me. I am an idiot.

The abuse against myself has to stop. So it is stopping here. To those who don't like my profession and think it against God...well, you are welcome to your opinion, Chancellor in particular.

To those who like contacting Pastors and children with the intent to cause trouble... bless you. To the administrative staff trying to deal with it...I appreciate all your efforts but this is something I will have to handle.

I have enjoyed my postings on the past three forums and it has kept me sane, for the most part...now it is time to move on. For my own sake.

Love & Blessings, Rhonda

Whoever did this is ignorant or evil beyond beleif. If the guilty person ever hopes to make heaven some serious confession and repentance are in order.

So sad. Sorry this happened to you Rhoni.

[Nahum]

Speaking of abuse....Someone took the liberty to help me out with my issues in relation to my son's upcoming wedding. We women post all our grievances and concerns on Dear Gabby's for prayer and advice and seeking the counsel of many...and I participated.

Someone took it a step farther though...went to three forums, cut and pasted all my posts and sent them to my children. My ex-husband's wife has been posting here under a psuedo name and trying to cause trouble.

To the person who thought they were helping...shame on you. To me for posting my problems here...shame on me. The definition of an idiot is: " When a person continues to do the same thing, in the same way, hoping to get a different result. This is me. I am an idiot.

The abuse against myself has to stop. So it is stopping here. To those who don't like my profession and think it against God...well, you are welcome to your opinion, Chancellor in particular.

To those who like contacting Pastors and children with the intent to cause trouble... bless you. To the administrative staff trying to deal with it...I appreciate all your efforts but this is something I will have to handle.

I have enjoyed my postings on the past three forums and it has kept me sane, for the most part...now it is time to move on. For my own sake.

Love & Blessings, Rhonda

You are not alone. Since NFCF I have received all sorts of weird pms that are threatening in nature. I don't get it. I wouldn't hurt a fly.

[AmazingGrace]

Speaking of abuse....Someone took the liberty to help me out with my issues in relation to my son's upcoming wedding. We women post all our grievances and concerns on Dear Gabby's for prayer and advice and seeking the counsel of many...and I participated.

Someone took it a step farther though...went to three forums, cut and pasted all my posts and sent them to my children. My ex-husband's wife has been posting here under a psuedo name and trying to cause trouble.

To the person who thought they were helping...shame on you. To me for posting my problems here...shame on me. The definition of an idiot is: " When a person continues to do the same thing, in the same way, hoping to get a different result. This is me. I am an idiot.

The abuse against myself has to stop. So it is stopping here. To those who don't like my profession and think it against God...well, you are welcome to your opinion, Chancellor in particular.

To those who like contacting Pastors and children with the intent to cause trouble... bless you. To the administrative staff trying to deal with it...I appreciate all your efforts but this is something I will have to handle.

I have enjoyed my postings on the past three forums and it has kept me sane, for the most part...now it is time to move on. For my own sake.

Love & Blessings, Rhonda



OMG Rhoni!!

I cannot believe someone would stoop that low! It is sickening and rediciulous. I will so be praying for you as I know you have enough on your heart and mind already without this added pain.. Please know my heart goes out to you and you are in my prayers!

[Ron]

Speaking of abuse....Someone took the liberty to help me out with my issues in relation to my son's upcoming wedding. We women post all our grievances and concerns on Dear Gabby's for prayer and advice and seeking the counsel of many...and I participated.

Someone took it a step farther though...went to three forums, cut and pasted all my posts and sent them to my children. My ex-husband's wife has been posting here under a psuedo name and trying to cause trouble.

To the person who thought they were helping...shame on you. To me for posting my problems here...shame on me. The definition of an idiot is: " When a person continues to do the same thing, in the same way, hoping to get a different result. This is me. I am an idiot.

The abuse against myself has to stop. So it is stopping here. To those who don't like my profession and think it against God...well, you are welcome to your opinion, Chancellor in particular.

To those who like contacting Pastors and children with the intent to cause trouble... bless you. To the administrative staff trying to deal with it...I appreciate all your efforts but this is something I will have to handle.

I have enjoyed my postings on the past three forums and it has kept me sane, for the most part...now it is time to move on. For my own sake.

Love & Blessings, Rhonda

Are you kidding?
That is ridiculous! Not to mention downright sleazy.
Rhoni, know this, not all of us are like that.
Please consider that before you leave.

[AmazingGrace]

Are you kidding?
That is ridiculous! Not to mention downright sleazy.
Rhoni, know this, not all of us are like that.
Please consider that before you leave.

Amen!!!

[whollyHis]

Whoever did this is ignorant or evil beyond beleif. If the guilty person ever hopes to make heaven some serious confession and repentance are in order.

So sad. Sorry this happened to you Rhoni.


Scary to think that at least one of the folk involved is a PASTOR'S wife...

[Esther]

Speaking of abuse....Someone took the liberty to help me out with my issues in relation to my son's upcoming wedding. We women post all our grievances and concerns on Dear Gabby's for prayer and advice and seeking the counsel of many...and I participated.

Someone took it a step farther though...went to three forums, cut and pasted all my posts and sent them to my children. My ex-husband's wife has been posting here under a psuedo name and trying to cause trouble.

To the person who thought they were helping...shame on you. To me for posting my problems here...shame on me. The definition of an idiot is: " When a person continues to do the same thing, in the same way, hoping to get a different result. This is me. I am an idiot.

The abuse against myself has to stop. So it is stopping here. To those who don't like my profession and think it against God...well, you are welcome to your opinion, Chancellor in particular.

To those who like contacting Pastors and children with the intent to cause trouble... bless you. To the administrative staff trying to deal with it...I appreciate all your efforts but this is something I will have to handle.

I have enjoyed my postings on the past three forums and it has kept me sane, for the most part...now it is time to move on. For my own sake.

Love & Blessings, Rhonda


Rhoni you know that anyone that comes to you with gossip is a gossiper. Anyone that tries to start trouble as this person obvisiously is, is an extremely small person, probably lacking self respect.

This person is sowing discord and that is something that God hates.

It makes me angry also!:drawguns

[Esther]

Whoever did this is ignorant or evil beyond beleif. If the guilty person ever hopes to make heaven some serious confession and repentance are in order.

So sad. Sorry this happened to you Rhoni.

Usually people that do this think they wear a halo.

Very sad indeed.

Who does it help?

Not one person!

[Chan]

Scary to think that at least one of the folk involved is a PASTOR'S wife...
Why is it scary to think that a pastor's wife is involved as opposed to the wife of one of the saints in the pew? Why must she be held to a higher standard than other wives? Why is it not equally "scary" regardless of who was involved?

[LadyChocolate]

Why is it scary to think that a pastor's wife is involved as opposed to the wife of one of the saints in the pew? Why must she be held to a higher standard than other wives? Why is it not equally "scary" regardless of who was involved?

probably because the ministry is to be the example of what saints are supposed to be.....That is why they are in the position of leadership because God has called them to "lead" the way .....

[Chan]

probably because the ministry is to be the example of what saints are supposed to be.....That is why they are in the position of leadership because God has called them to "lead" the way .....
But the pastor's wife is not part of "the ministry" and the Bible doesn't really say that the saints in the pews are allowed to meet a lower standard (you did, after all, say the ministry was to be an example of what the saints are supposed to be).

[LadyChocolate]

But the pastor's wife is not part of "the ministry" and the Bible doesn't really say that the saints in the pews are allowed to meet a lower standard (you did, after all, say the ministry was to be an example of what the saints are supposed to be).

But they are an example.....Someone has to lead...someone has to show others how to be...It isn't that saints are allowed to meet a lower standard, but not everyone that comes into the church knows exactly what is expected, therefore they look to the leaders as their examples....and many times saints who sit on the pews have a lot to learn and they look to the leaders..... And yes there are still those who pretty much line up to the Word of God and can carry on with living for God and they are pillars in the church that reflect the leadership....As for the "pastor's wife" here that is accused of doing this stuff, I find it very immature....I wouldn't want my pastor's wife acting like that......The elders are to be teaching the younger....and most of what we learn isn't by what is told to us, but by what is seen...

[The Kid]

But they are an example.....Someone has to lead...someone has to show others how to be...It isn't that saints are allowed to meet a lower standard, but not everyone that comes into the church knows exactly what is expected, therefore they look to the leaders as their examples....and many times saints who sit on the pews have a lot to learn and they look to the leaders..... And yes there are still those who pretty much line up to the Word of God and can carry on with living for God and they are pillars in the church that reflect the leadership....As for the "pastor's wife" here that is accused of doing this stuff, I find it very immature....I wouldn't want my pastor's wife acting like that......The elders are to be teaching the younger....and most of what we learn isn't by what is told to us, but by what is seen...

What happens when the elders are completely out of touch, complaining about the smut on radio theater and such? :D

[Chan]

But they are an example.....Someone has to lead...someone has to show others how to be...It isn't that saints are allowed to meet a lower standard, but not everyone that comes into the church knows exactly what is expected, therefore they look to the leaders as their examples....and many times saints who sit on the pews have a lot to learn and they look to the leaders..... And yes there are still those who pretty much line up to the Word of God and can carry on with living for God and they are pillars in the church that reflect the leadership....As for the "pastor's wife" here that is accused of doing this stuff, I find it very immature....I wouldn't want my pastor's wife acting like that......The elders are to be teaching the younger....and most of what we learn isn't by what is told to us, but by what is seen...I agree that leaders are to lead and that their example is to match their leadership but there is a tendency among many saints in the pew to hold leadership to a higher standard that the saints themselves would not want to be held to. As for the "pastor's wife," she's just another saint in the pew.

[LadyChocolate]

I agree that leaders are to lead and that their example is to match their leadership but there is a tendency among many saints in the pew to hold leadership to a higher standard that the saints themselves would not want to be held to. As for the "pastor's wife," she's just another saint in the pew.

I agree..Those are usually the ones who just wanna get by but don't really sincere a closer walk with God..(referring to those who hold leadership to a higher standard)

I can see where you would say that she is just another saint, but then again....she's got a lot more weight on her shoulders than just the average lady saint......And she does teach the ladies...at least our pastors wife did...there are things that she can help ladies with that I personally don't want a man dealing with.LOL

[Chan]

I agree..Those are usually the ones who just wanna get by but don't really sincere a closer walk with God..I disagree. I think there are plenty of godly women genuinely seeking a closer walk with God and who just happen to be married to pastors.

I can see where you would say that she is just another saint, but then again....she's got a lot more weight on her shoulders than just the average lady saint......And she does teach the ladies...at least our pastors wife did...there are things that she can help ladies with that I personally don't want a man dealing with.LOLIF she has more weight on her shoulders, it is not because God put it there: it's because the saints in the pews put it there. She doesn't have any God-given responsibilities that other Christian wives don't have.

The Bible gives specific guidance with regard to women in the Church and that guidance has nothing to do with whether a woman is married to the pastor. It does, however, have to do with such things as age.

[BoredOutOfMyMind]

But the pastor's wife is not part of "the ministry" and the Bible doesn't really say that the saints in the pews are allowed to meet a lower standard (you did, after all, say the ministry was to be an example of what the saints are supposed to be).

Chan, your views of zero use of ladies in a church are well known.

Not all of us agree, and having witnessed my Godly Mother-in-law do a great job inspiring other ladies for over 25 yrs, I think there is a great need for the same in the church today.

Proverbs 31 applies.

[LadyChocolate]

I disagree. I think there are plenty of godly women genuinely seeking a closer walk with God and who just happen to be married to pastors.
IF she has more weight on her shoulders, it is not because God put it there: it's because the saints in the pews put it there. She doesn't have any God-given responsibilities that other Christian wives don't have.

The Bible gives specific guidance with regard to women in the Church and that guidance has nothing to do with whether a woman is married to the pastor. It does, however, have to do with such things as age.

I was thinking more of those who sit on the pew and just hold the ministry to a higher standard and not themselves... not just women...

And I can see that we have a different view on women in the church so I won't go there....But you are right...God didn't put that weight on her, mostly its the care and concern that goes along with having husband in the ministry. Whether a minister's wife wants to be or not, she is going to be scrutinized in all that she does...doesn't mean it's right but it's going to happen and no one can change that....

:winkgrin

[Chan]

I was thinking more of those who sit on the pew and just hold the ministry to a higher standard and not themselves... not just women...I thought you were referring to pastors' wives. In any event, there are also men who just sit on the pew and hold the ministry to a higher standard.

And I can see that we have a different view on women in the church so I won't go there....But you are right...God didn't put that weight on her, mostly its the care and concern that goes along with having husband in the ministry. Whether a minister's wife wants to be or not, she is going to be scrutinized in all that she does...doesn't mean it's right but it's going to happen and no one can change that....

:winkgrinYes, we do have a different view: mine is the biblical one. :) I think it is sin the way many saints in the pew scrutinize the pastor's wife but would object to be scrutinized the same way.

[Blubayou]

Speaking of abuse....Someone took the liberty to help me out with my issues in relation to my son's upcoming wedding. We women post all our grievances and concerns on Dear Gabby's for prayer and advice and seeking the counsel of many...and I participated.

Someone took it a step farther though...went to three forums, cut and pasted all my posts and sent them to my children. My ex-husband's wife has been posting here under a psuedo name and trying to cause trouble.

To the person who thought they were helping...shame on you. To me for posting my problems here...shame on me. The definition of an idiot is: " When a person continues to do the same thing, in the same way, hoping to get a different result. This is me. I am an idiot.

The abuse against myself has to stop. So it is stopping here. To those who don't like my profession and think it against God...well, you are welcome to your opinion, Chancellor in particular.

To those who like contacting Pastors and children with the intent to cause trouble... bless you. To the administrative staff trying to deal with it...I appreciate all your efforts but this is something I will have to handle.

I have enjoyed my postings on the past three forums and it has kept me sane, for the most part...now it is time to move on. For my own sake.

Love & Blessings, Rhonda

So- Sorry that someone had to stoop this low- I hope you can come back in the future. I enjoy your perspective. Praying for you.

[LadyChocolate]

I thought you were referring to pastors' wives. In any event, there are also men who just sit on the pew and hold the ministry to a higher standard.

Yes, we do have a different view: mine is the biblical one. :) I think it is sin the way many saints in the pew scrutinize the pastor's wife but would object to be scrutinized the same way.


Hey, you used a smiley!!! way to go!!:heeheehee And you are right about how saints would object if they were scrutizied the way some of them do the ministry....:heeheehee

[Chan]

Chan, your views of zero use of ladies in a church are well known. You base this statement on what?

That you appear to be accusing me of believing in "zero use of ladies in a church" is evidence that you don't have even the remotest clue about my views.

Show me where I said in any AFF thread even remotely resembling "zero use of ladies in a church." What part of my statement, "The Bible gives specific guidance with regard to women in the Church and that guidance has nothing to do with whether a woman is married to the pastor. It does, however, have to do with such things as age" says "zero use of ladies in a church"? Show me where "But the pastor's wife is not part of 'the ministry'" is the same thing as "zero use of ladies in the church."

If you do not show me where I said anything on AFF that causes you to conclude that I believe in "zero use of ladies in a church," then everyone reading this post should take your failure to show it as evidence that you are merely taking your own perceptions and things you read into what I've said (considering the relatively few posts I've made in AFF) and are projecting them onto me. Further, everyone reading this post should view your accusation that I believe in "zero use of ladies in the church" as bearing false witness because your perceptions and interpretations are not witnesses to my thoughts or beliefs.

Not all of us agree, and having witnessed my Godly Mother-in-law do a great job inspiring other ladies for over 25 yrs, I think there is a great need for the same in the church today.

Proverbs 31 applies.What part of "The Bible gives specific guidance with regard to women in the Church and that guidance has nothing to do with whether a woman is married to the pastor. It does, however, have to do with such things as age" did you not understand that you disagree with: 1) That the pastor's wife is not part of "the ministry" (as in pastors and elders); 2) That the Bible doesn't really say the saints in the pews are allowed to meet a lower standard; or 3) That LadyChocolate said that the ministry was to be an example of what the saints are supposed to be?

[Charlie Brown]

With all this abuse going on, I figured someone was gonna need this thread soon. :D

[ILG]

Originally Posted by Rhoni
Speaking of abuse....Someone took the liberty to help me out with my issues in relation to my son's upcoming wedding. We women post all our grievances and concerns on Dear Gabby's for prayer and advice and seeking the counsel of many...and I participated.

Someone took it a step farther though...went to three forums, cut and pasted all my posts and sent them to my children. My ex-husband's wife has been posting here under a psuedo name and trying to cause trouble.

To the person who thought they were helping...shame on you. To me for posting my problems here...shame on me. The definition of an idiot is: " When a person continues to do the same thing, in the same way, hoping to get a different result. This is me. I am an idiot.

The abuse against myself has to stop. So it is stopping here. To those who don't like my profession and think it against God...well, you are welcome to your opinion, Chancellor in particular.

To those who like contacting Pastors and children with the intent to cause trouble... bless you. To the administrative staff trying to deal with it...I appreciate all your efforts but this is something I will have to handle.

I have enjoyed my postings on the past three forums and it has kept me sane, for the most part...now it is time to move on. For my own sake.

Love & Blessings, Rhonda

If someone sent my posts to my children, I would be livid! It's just the principle of the thing. And I'm not divorced either.

[nathan_slatter]

If someone sent my posts to my children, I would be livid! It's just the principle of the thing. And I'm not divorced either.

My children are too young to understand everything I post, but I agree -- the lack of Christianity is quite apparent.