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Re: How long would AFF survive if like JP...

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Originally Posted by MissBrattified (Post 685544)

Rhoni,

My main reason for using a pseudonym was so I could post anything that comes to mind, even if it isn't entirely in line with what my pastor or local church believes. (Without embarrassing anyone or getting anyone into "trouble")

Ditto.

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I use the name Sam but also include my real name, Jim Ellis.
My web site address is given in my signature so people can find out more about me if they wish.
I do not attend a UPC or other Oneness type Church and do not fear being "exposed" for my opinions. My pastor knows that I am from a Oneness Apostolic background. I doubt if my effectiveness in the ministry or in fellowship would be damaged if my posts/opinions were distributed publicly.

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I think AFF would survive just fine if real names were required, however there wouldn't be as many members because many people wouldn't register using their real names for privacy or safety reasons.

I use my first name only, because I am female and choose not to use my full name for safety sake. Several of my posts have mentioned my church and pastor's name so if anyone really wanted to know all they have to do is go find it in my posts.

I've been a victim of an online stalker (local neighbor) before and choose for that to not happen again.

When I feel I know someone well enough online to trust them, I will share more info with them. Otherwise, I think the first name is enough for any type of online communication.

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I decided to use my real name ,to keep me from saying or doing anything I might regret later.
I was believer on the old FCF,but when webby asked me to be an admin my cover was blown anyways.

Re: How long would AFF survive if like JP...

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Originally Posted by MissBrattified (Post 685557)

I don't see how withholding my real name is living in a world of "pretend." :) I still have the same opinions--I just don't let people respond to them, except in the format of this forum. It keeps the conversation right here, unless I personally want it to go somewhere else.

I have no problem with accountability. There are people who know me (real life) who read my posts on a regular basis. My pastor knows I post here, and could read if he wanted to, although I doubt he does. It's just that I don't need to be accountable to the entire worldwide web--I'm accountable to God, my husband, and my leaders. I don't need to be accountable to every other pastor or minister or husband or woman who might dislike me and might NOT have my best interests at heart.

We don't have to be accountable to everyone. I'm accountable to the people I trust.

And, I pretty much speak my mind in person as well as online. Just PM "BHILL" and ask him about it. :D

just curious, are you related to bhill?

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Think about:
* What is your purpose for remaining anonymous?

1. My opinions belong to me and are not a reflection of my church, family and friends. There are people that do know my name here.
2. A friend has a friend has a friend.....
3. I was raised not to ask personal questions of people that have not been offered voluntarily.
4. I also have a circle drawn around my life - have always been a private person - and I only allow those that I want inside my circle to cross that line. I'm very sure I cannot change that aspect of my personality.
5. Being the history of several forums that went debunk in the past, I can walk away and have no attachments that I haven't chosen for myself.
6. I'd hate to call my lawyer for defamation of character. :D :toofunny

* Would you post what you are going to post if everyone knew who you were? Yes.

* What angers you the most about certain posters,i.e., their personality?

An intrusive question. :D I would keep these opinions to myself and possibly only discuss with close friends and not on open Board. We've posted enough where people can be pegged without posting their name. Not going there.

*Because they challenge your belief system?

It is not the issue of a belief system being critiqued/challenged. It's the manner in which the critique/challenge is being presented. When someone tells me that I'm involved in a "cult" or if someone seems to continually misunderstand my posts and comes at me in a rude and caustic manner, I feel the conversation is boorish and I will generally walk away. The poster loses a degree of respect from me at that point and the conversation can only digress.

* Can you love those who disagree with you?

Of course, it's Bible.

Re: How long would AFF survive if like JP...

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Originally Posted by Theresa (Post 685816)

just curious, are you related to bhill?

No--just friends with him and his wife! :)

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Originally Posted by Sister Alvear (Post 685599)

I enjoy posts better when I know who I am talking to but if someone chooses something else that is fine with me. Whatever....

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Originally Posted by Margies3 (Post 685615)

It used to bother me a little that I didn't know people here by their real names. But I've become so accustomed to the names we all use now that I'm not even sure I'd like it if we all switched over to real names.

When TexasGranny changed to Cindy, it took me a while to make the adjustment in my mind. Same with LaVonne. And Jeannie will always be Jeannie in my mind, I guess. I'm having a real hard time thinking of her as Elizabeth.

I suppose it's all in what we get used to to start with.

One thing I really do like tho is when people use their first names. I don't need a last name. But I'd rather call someone George than to call them BugsEYe or something like that. You know what I mean?

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Originally Posted by edjen01 (Post 685637)

I think AFF would be fine. I believe most of the posters here believe what they post...but are open to and accept discussion....and I enjoy that.

I have not been posting long....but I really don't care for the sites where you have to call everyone brother/pastor/apost./evan./proph./teacher/elder...just so they feel like you are giving them the honor they are due.

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Originally Posted by TRFrance (Post 685648)

"Emotional exhibitionism".
Quite a mouthful... but that's a good term. I'll keep that one in my memory bank. :)

I think it would exist, but it would probably be a kinder, gentler AFF. There would be a lot less bomb throwing, that's for sure.

I understand why some would prefer to be anonymous, and I have no problem with that per se.

But I do know that some of the the mud-throwers, who like to sling their mud under cover of anonymity, wouldn't post some of the stuff they've posted here if their real name were attached to each post.

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Originally Posted by Tina (Post 685806)

Like sister Alvear, I prefer to know to whom I am speaking, and like Margie3, I get so used to calling everyone by their AFF name that even if I did know their real name...I have probably forgotten them...except for those I knew prior to FCF. Like edjen01, Tina, & TR France, there would be much less antagonism, harsh remarks, and insincere platitudes if people were posting under their own names.

My knee-jerk reaction is that when people choose to hide behind a name and try to intimidate another I just think they are just an insecure bully.:nutso

Blessings, Rhoni

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A number of years back, I posted everything under my own name and now I don't believe what I wrote back then. I wish I could remove my name from all of it. :)

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Originally Posted by Rhoni (Post 685846)

My knee-jerk reaction is that when people choose to hide behind a name and try to intimidate another I just think they are an insecure bully.:nutso
Blessings, Rhoni

A very small percentage of people do that. There are people - here - who use their real name and also have pseudo user name/names in order to give out knee-jerk reactions. What's the difference?