[ILG]

Originally Posted by CC1

It is because she is no novice, was a pastors wife AND has had YEARS to get beyond the hurt of the past enough to plug into a church that can feed her now that I have said what I have said. ILG and I go back a lot of years on this forum and the forum we were on prior to this one. She knows that for years I have had compassion on her past situation and understand what transpired. As a friend I am saying that at some point in time you have to stop letting the past dictate your future and be an excuse not to be in a church where you can be encouraged, discipled, taught, loved, etc. I have no apologies for what I have said.

If you have been run over by a truck, you might have years to recover and yet be in pain for the rest of your life. You simply cannot relate to what I went through so maybe you should save yourself some energy and quit judging it. At this point in my life, I am not planning to ever be a church member again. I wish I could because I would like to be a part of a community but it feels impossible. This forum is as close as I can get and most of the time I end up wanting to run away from here too. I show up and I talk about some of my past experiences and people get out their baseball bats and beat me to death. The only way to heal is get away where I am not being beaten. That's why I don't come around too much and why I stay away from church.