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Originally Posted by Timmy
IMO, none of this proves that the problems should just be ignored, or those who want to talk about it should be hushed and shooed away. If nobody is allowed to get things like this out in the open, then everyone that it happens to will think they're alone. That there's something wrong with them. That the abusers are right!
I guarantee you there are lurkers on this very thread, and many others, who may never post, but who draw some strength and encouragement from finding out that they are not alone. That others have been through what they have been through. That maybe they're not wrong!
The very nature of the kind of abuse we are talking about is such that the victims very often feel that they have no option other than to "take it". By definition, it blames the victim. Pounds it home! This takes a toll. Sometimes the message "takes", and very well.
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No, no, no! Perhaps I am not making myself plain...
I never said anyone should keep silent. Today I have written a 13 page letter to not only be sent TO the elder involved in our family deal, but also TO the outside board members.
So no, I don't believe in holding it in.
My posts were in reference to ILG not liking that PO disagreed with her analogy, thinking that disagreement denotes unconcern.
Then I responded to you...others may not want to know about your pain, and my response to that...
Rain on 'em! Why bemoan their inability to get it? So my point...get over it. Not everyone is going to agree with us.
Yes, I understand her her pain and have for years.