[Jermyn Davidson]

If I were a betting man...

DB's close friend probably didn't say and do what he did to be accusatory or a tale-bearer or a gossip. He was being loyal. Friends do look out for each other.

If I were DB's close friend in this situation, I would have said and done the same thing.

Why would you let your friend walk blindly into a potentially bad situation?

What kind of friend would do that?

I am glad DB's 30 years late friend decided to rather reconnect the relationship and maybe grow the friendship than to try to "line him up".

It may have been his plan, but he could have WISELY changed his mind. There are times, when people come up with bad ideas and then change their minds before they actually carry out their bad ideas.

There really isn't a bad guy in this story. A little misplaced zeal wisely not acted on does not make the 30 years late guy a bad person.

A loyal friend being loyal is not a sign of being a bad person.

Starting a thread about the whole interaction does not make DB wrong either. DB keeps everything anonymous. Where is the harm in this?

Maybe there is something to this whole interaction that all of us can learn from.