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we make any major decisions together and I will not have the kind of marriage where my decision carries more weight than hers.
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Amen and amen. Neither of us act as a dictator to the other and I can't think of an instant where I put my foot down and demanded something. I never HAD to because she is usually willing to do something I feel strongly about, and if she ISN'T then there is always a good reason that I need to look at. (I actually voted "No one!" in the poll since I didn't quite agree with the first one and absolutely did not agree with the 2nd... nor the 3d -but have seen all three)
There are a few small things that I wish she would do, but also know how much she hates to, so I will never force the issue. And this goes both ways.
I have seen my share of male dictators where men take the whole "head of the household" literally and proclaim that their word is law. It makes me very uncomfortable to see and be around.... The only thing that is worse when it is the woman who wears the pants in the family and acts like the dictator. lol