Quote:
Originally Posted by pelathais
This does bring up a touchy range of issues that are often difficult to objectify and discuss impassionedly. I appreciate "Dan just being Dan", but in the FWIW department- the dynamic of the father-son and/or father-son-in-law relationship can also be very bruising and abusive.
If I could bill some of my "family" for services I have given to them over the years I would have a real wad of dough right now. If I could just get the last 3 paychecks from ... that he has owed me for over 10 years I would be driving a new car right now.
The UPC in general has a dynamic that inhibits the development of young ministers. I could give you quite a list of the wounded, disfellowshipped and even the dead.
There's a new church starting services tomorrow in my city- the younger minister is branching off because he has been forbidden to preach in the church he helped to found many years ago - over a "control" issue involving the current pastor's wife and her self esteem problem.
Most of the churches in our area have some sort of bitterness involved in their founding. Fortunately my current pastor/superintendent has the vision to allow the young men to start something of their own. He bucks the evil trend that I have tried to describe.
"Where have all the young men gone...?" They got real educations and wised up.
|
Did the young man leave the UPC?