[Margies3]

My church would tell her to take whatever measures she has to in order to put as much distance as possible between him and her and the children. She and the children must be protected at all costs.

I had a pastor one time who explained that the Bible gives the ok for divorce only in the case of infidelity. In his way of thinking tho, infideility was not just a sexual thing. He explained it saying that when a man marries a woman (and vice versa), they make a vow to love that person above all others (except God). When they put something like drugs or alcohol above the spouse, they've committed adultery with that thing. In my mind, that's a bit of a stretch, but I could see what he was saying. Not saying I totally agreed.

HOWEVER, any spouse who would abuse the other partner in any way, has definately put something or someone ahead of their spouse (like drugs, etc. Or even putting themselves above the spouse!!)