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Originally Posted by Pragmatist
And there are probably others that would move her and her family in with them if necessary.
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That may be true. In the shelter, we see the people that can't get help elsewhere. Also, statistics say that it takes an abused woman leaving 7 times to finally leave altogether. Many people get tired of the back and forth cycle that happens before she does leave and even parents end up not supporting sometimes. This is what I mean when I say it is very complicated with many dynamics.
I didn't mean to come off harsh in my first post about loathing phariseeical people who tell women to stay....I have run across doctrines that say that divorce is not allowed in any situation and other ideas that most here would likely disagree with that some women have to live under while their husband plays the pious religious person.....all the while beating her up behind closed doors. I think the vast, vast majority of people are opposed to this which is why domestic violence shelters exist in the first place, supported by tax dollars. But, it is amazing the religious and spiritual platitudes that some people actually use to keep women in abusive situations.
Statistics show that women go to their pastors
first rather than a domestic abuse shelter. Pastors need training in this. They need to know the dynamics and what to expect. Since Christian women go to their pastors first, that means they come to us second (statistically speaking). Domestic abuse shelters are full of employees that are very liberal, generally speaking. I have seen many anti-Christian attitudes. But, as I see the women who walk in the door, I can see why people who don't know God and see the spiritual and religious abuse of these women turn from Christianity rather than to it. This is what I mean when God is blasphemed among the gentiles because of those who turn people away from God with unjust doctrines.
So, this is a call for Christians.....to be educated and know what to do and what to expect. I would rather that people got help from God's people and that we really would take care of our own....or that we could work in conjunction together, which would be a pretty good idea too. The downtrodden and poor need to see Christianity as a help to them.