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Originally Posted by Trouvere
ILG exactly what kind of book is that and could you give a few exerpts?
I invited my friend to read this thread.
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It is not a Christian book (I hope that is okay) but I think it has very good advice.
As far as excerpts is has parts like Why Marriage Counseling Fails, Why Treatment Made it Worse, Why Anger-Management Didn't Work and Why Abuser Groups didn't work. It talks about appreciating your core value (meaning you have worth because you ARE rather than because of what you can do for someone else). Then, the second half of the book is what is called Boot Camp for men.
IF a man will do the steps, I think it would be great, but she can't do it for him. He has to have the want to.....and he might not want to. Too often, women try to fix the man rather than focusing on what they can do for themselves....which is what they really need to do. So, if he doesn't want to....she can focus on her part and that can also make a difference for her....and she needs to do this for herself too.
If this person is using drugs.....I think that has to be addressed before abuse could be. There is another good book (not Christian) called
Women Who Love Too Much by Robin Norwood, helping women who always seem to be attracted to men who are emotionally unavailable, like on drugs. This book teaches her to quit investing herself emotionally in him for little to no return and how begin to invest in herself, which can also have a beneficial effect whether she stays or leaves.