Pelathais, what terrible experiences you have had. I hope you have found some sort of healing. I will pray for you. This man that you speak of..I don't believe he is truly a disciple of Jesus Christ according to
John 13:35.
35 By this all will know that you are My disciples, if you have love for one another.”
This is how the world will know if we are truly disciples of Christ. All this other "hogwash" will still be hogwash. Hopefully the man in question has repented. God's grace is great enough for all of us.
I too have seen men who deemed themselves spiritual giants, act in immoral and unethical ways. It is so disheartening, disappointing, and can be depressing. We have to keep our focus on Jesus Christ and what He did for us and leave the rest of it to God. Truly, organizations are mostly for the birds. The local church is what really matters. Being accountable to the body of Christ where you are. If most of these folks spent a tenth of the time, money, and energy going to the plethora of conferences that now exist..(which is a joke)...if they spent that time ministering to the lost and hurting in their own community, and caring for those in their own church, they would not feel the need to go get refreshed at yet another conference. Things would be so exciting around their local church that "yet another conference" wouldn't have so much appeal.
That is my two cents anyway.