Maybe, I am not conveying what I am really thinking. I think that there should be an environment created where people who have problems can voice them in the right setting. It is very wrong for kids to be violated and no one ever being dealt with about it. Yes, that is definitely wrong. I believe in a family kids should know just what they need to do if they are violated. In a church setting there should be procedures in place and it should be known what the process is if a person is violated. There should be safeguards in place so that it cannot happen that a person...child or adult would get to a place where he/she has no one to turn to in that kind of crisis. My heart does ache for situations like the ones you describe and the ones I am aware of. I still think that we can make our children and others aware of the steps they should follow should they need to without allowing so much tabloid talk that winds its way into our everyday life.
I am a firm believer in being able to take everything to God in prayer. When we do and we don't get the answer we sometimes are tempted to go to a person to find out what they would say, aren't we telling God that we no longer have faith in Him or no longer want to wait on Him. I am not saying we never go to another person, but God does know our every step and can direct us in any situation. It is possible that he could direct us to go to another person.