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Originally Posted by IsolatedSaint
Ah....that's one reason why we need to marry that person whom God has ordained for us to be married to because that is indeed the one that can fulfill all of our needs(including the emotional ones).
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Most of the books I've read on marriage and relationships would disagree with you on the point that our mate can meet all of our emotional needs and that we shouldn't expect them to meet them all and we should be more realistic in this area.
Which causes me to think, ok, if these are NEEDS and not mere preferences (thus they MUST be met in order for us to maintain emotional health and stability and we WILL find a way to meet them no matter what) then what does a person do if their mate doesn't meet their emotional needs? How does a person deal with this situation.
I read one book that said that emotional affairs, while not appropriate, can have a stabilizing effect on a marriage because the one person is getting their emotional needs met and thus is less likely, in some cases, to leave the marriage. This is a Christian book btw.
I'm not saying I agree with all this, just posing the questions.