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Originally Posted by Rhoni
The place an affair begins is in the seat of emotions. The person reaches out to you in an area not being met by your spouse.
The Bible tells us that it begins with a thought, then another thought, then a feeling, and before it is finished it becomes sin.
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In this process it appears that action (sin) flows out of emotion. When repairing a damaged relationship is the reverse true? Do you believe that feelings follow action? Thus if a person does something long enough that the emotion associated with that action will come later.
In the context of relationships we generally do things because of emotion, like give our girl flowers because we feel warm and fuzzy feelings about her. We express our emotions through actions that way.
In the context of the aftermath of an emotional affair or the rebuilding of a damaged relationship most books say that you should do the 'loving' things even though you don't feel it and that eventually you will feel it. Thus, even though you don't feel positive emotions toward your mate that you should do loving and romantic things for them and eventually you will feel the warm and fuzzies again. I wonder about that.
What do you think?