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Originally Posted by Renee29
I will not be teaching my daughter that it's a sin to wear pants. My attitude is very similar to yours regarding the pants issue.
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I will say this, Renee: My husband and I come to an agreement
before our kids participate in anything, sports, extra-curricular, etc. If we can't reach an agreement, it doesn't happen. The kids can always take part in something else.
We make sure we discuss cost, scheduling (you know, some games may be on church nights--that's a big no-no around here), what they will wear, etc.,
out of the kids' earshot, and once we've made a decision, the kids find out one way or the other, without pinpointing the parent who made the "negative vote", if any. In other words, if my husband said no basketball, I wouldn't tell my kids, "Well, honey, I would let you play, but your Daddy said 'No' because he doesn't want you wearing shorts." (I'm not saying you would--just giving an example.) It's more along the lines of, "We discussed it and WE decided against it, but you can participate in __________ instead."
My husband has his own convictions, and I try my best to let him have the final say when we disagree. (It's NOT always easy!) I think it's a good lesson for our children to learn to respect authority, and realize their father has their best interests at heart, even when they may not like the decision. A much more important lesson than what they will learn from playing a few games of basketball. And, for that matter, you can always suggest that your husband take them to the park once every week or two and play a few games one on one or with some of their friends. Tag along, provide snacks, and make it fun.
I guess I'm just saying: I understand, been there, and if you can't agree, present a united front to your kids anyway--and let them find another, more appropriate or agreeable activity.