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Originally Posted by ronharvey
I leave it to personal conviction.
Ron
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Really, that is what threads like these boil down to. Ultimately, families have to determine what is best for their children based on their belief/value system.
My only concern would be that in families where the husband and wife disagree, they make sure they reach an agreement. My husband and I have a "no-vote-wins" rule. That is, if one of us feels terribly uncomfortable with something, or thinks its unsafe or inappropriate, the no-vote wins, because I wouldn't want to have my children involved in something that violates my husband's convictions, beliefs, or that he feels will place them in harm's way, and vice versa.
That said, when we disagree, we do try to persuade the other one to come around...lol...but out of the kids' earshot, AND we don't wield the "no-vote" as a weapon.
It's more important for parents to be seen as a team by their kids than for their kids to play on a team and disrespect the wishes of one of their parents.
I don't think this should turn into a pants vs. no-pants argument. Renee and her husband need to come to an agreement based on
their beliefs, and make a decision regarding
their children accordingly. We can all give our opinions, but decisions like these are personal.
One thing that hasn't been brought up (I don't think) is what the church teaches. I think it's important to keep your family's activities in line with church teachings, both for the sake of submitting to authority, and also for the sake of not alienating your children from other families in the assembly. If the church you attend has rules you can't reasonably comply with, you should either let your pastor know your conflicts, and be up front about it, OR attend a church whose views more closely match your own.
I'm always of the opinion that certain lessons are more important than others, and submission to authority AND
respecting authority are good lessons for children to learn--from their parents' example.