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I can remember back in the 70's and 80's when I was still ULTRA CON and attending a church that was part of the super ultra con organization. If someone left the UPC, ALJC, PAW, or any other org and wanted to come to them they did not ask questions and they did not ask them to tell their pastor why they were leaving or to t least leave on good terms. They simply accepted them in.

When I left that group and went to an ALJC church the pastor told me that if I wanted to attend where he pastored I needed to make sure I told my former pastor why I was leaving. He said to do it in person if possible, if not by phone. In my circumstances he advised I could also write a letter if I felt it best but it had to be done and be read by the pastor before I could attend. He also wanted me to state where I was going to go. I did so and life was horrible for my family for several months. See my brother had been my pastor and it was not just a church thing but we had to be able to see each other at family get togethers. He did not talk to me for 6 months and then when he did it as because I forced him and he was nasty. Took him 3 years to get through it and finally understand why I did what I did.

Now that all said to say this.

I had a friend that had not being going to church for 5 years. If he did it was only a visit from time to time but not regular. His wife still went to that church I had left. After about 2 years of going there and still being in touch with him and his family he told me that he had been thinking of coming to visit with us but wanted his wife to come with him. He did not want his family going to different churches. She refused. Two more years and his dad passed away and he again expressed desire to attend with us. I looked at his wife and told her he was the leader of his family and to be biblically correct she should go where he said. She said she had a church and was not going to leave it. I told her then that when her marriage was distroyed and they were both not serving God she only was going to have herself to blame. If he wanted to go some place else where he felt he could serve God she should go with him no matter where it was as long as it taught truth. Well today they are divorced and both live with out people and neither of them go to church.

To bring to a close. I was accused of proslytizing. This boy did not even go to church there only his wife did. You would think that they would be happy about him going to church ANYWHERE just so he was going. Not so.

proselytize
intransitive verb
1 : to induce someone to convert to one's faith
2 : to recruit someone to join one's party, institution, or cause
transitive verb
: to recruit or convert especially to a new faith, institution, or cause

If you are trying to get people to join your church you obviously think that the church they go to is wrong. Does it make it right to do so? Well from my experience the general mind set is that it is okay for me to do it to you but not for you to do it to me.