[Margies3]

Originally Posted by n david

Sorry to throw a wet blanket on your quest ... but this forum, or any other, is the last place you should seek advice about the above. Especially regarding the bolded part.
I disagree. Where else could this gentleman go to ask this kind of question? To his pastor? Let's be honest. If he did that, he might as well forget about being put in positions where he can be used in any capacity within the church (at least in many churches. Not all. But many) If he goes to friends within the church then he is "stirring up trouble." I'm willing to bet that he and his wife have already had many discussions about this. So who else does that leave for him to go to?


If you don't agree with the standards your church leadership has set for church leaders, then the answer is simply to speak with your pastor or church board and either work to change, conform to, or simply don't become a leader in the church. If you don't agree with what's required to simply be a member of the church, then you should again, either work to change membership standards by speaking with your pastor or church board or simply find another church.
Wait! He shouldn't come here looking for advice or input, but you are still free to give it anyway?


The forum's opinion on standards are heavily tilted and biased against outward standards ... though there are a few who disagree with the majority.

My opinions about standards are simply that...my opinions. Personally I don't agree with outward standards as being a heaven/hell issue, but don't take my opinion for yourself, study and pray about it. Others opinions are theirs as well and shouldn't be applied to your situation.

Any unbiased, good advice given would be to talk with your pastor or church board.

A Quiet Place, you gave some good input.