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Originally Posted by RandyWayne
There are several men here who's wives have never broke from the Svengali control of their pastors, and even though they (the men) wish to leave, remain in the UPC because of their better halfs.
I will repeat again that scripture does NOT say "Wives, submit to your pastor!", rather it says husband, and even then it is not a Master/Servant relationship. I have no idea what advice to give since I have a very independent wife who I do not need to show false doctrine too. Rather she usually points it out even before I see it.
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Randy
you are very right wives are to submit to their husbands, but I don't beleive they remain in UPC primarily because of the control of the pastors. It is hard to leave something that has been drilled into you. It is a sort of brain washing. Sometimes the best one can hope for is the set the stage for the next generation.
I have four daughters and one son. When I first saw the flaws in standards 20 years ago I began to speak of this in my home. for the next 15 years my daughters still wore dresses did not cut their hair and all the rest. My eldest even went CLC in Stockton for a year and half. My children drew away first and they helped my wife make the change. Today none of my family are in any UPC church yet my children are stronger in God than they ever were in a legalistic church. That goes for my childrens spouses too. And it gets better all my grandchildren are sensitive to God at a tender age.
If 192281 will be patient God will in the right time give his wife strength to leave friends, and family to lead instead of follow.