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Old 07-30-2018, 02:33 PM
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Old 07-30-2018, 03:32 PM
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If spouse commits fornication. If the unbeliever departs.
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If spouse commits fornication. If the unbeliever departs.
While those may give the right to divorce, that doesn't necessarily give you the right to remarry. The passage is unclear on that part.
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I have one certain conviction on this. It should NEVER be allowed in ministry regardless of “grounds”.
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I have one certain conviction on this. It should NEVER be allowed in ministry regardless of “grounds”.
Ok what about the normal saints?
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* Divorce is contrary to the will of God (Mark 10:8-9)
* Divorce disqualifies one from ministry (Titus 1:5-9)
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* divorce is contrary to the will of god (mark 10:8-9)
* divorce disqualifies one from ministry (titus 1:5-9)
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* Divorce is contrary to the will of God (Mark 10:8-9)
* Divorce disqualifies one from ministry (Titus 1:5-9)

Define ministry as in the context of the scripture used.


Does it mean that you're disqualified from ever being used by God to minister or does it keep you from holding specific positions of authority?


Why should I be punished for something an unfaithful spouse did?


I'm not trying to be snappy or angry...please..if I have come across that way it wasn't my intention.

Is it possible that when Paul says that an Elder must be husband of one wife...that it may be referring to polygamy?


Was there an issue at the time in that region with people with more than one wife in a polygamous relationship being converted?


No idea what Greek, Roman or other Pagan norms existed at the time when it came to marriage....just was wondering....


What about if the divorce happens when you aren't in any kind of church and you attend church after?
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Define ministry as in the context of the scripture used.


Does it mean that you're disqualified from ever being used by God to minister or does it keep you from holding specific positions of authority?


Why should I be punished for something an unfaithful spouse did?


I'm not trying to be snappy or angry...please..if I have come across that way it wasn't my intention.

Is it possible that when Paul says that an Elder must be husband of one wife...that it may be referring to polygamy?


Was there an issue at the time in that region with people with more than one wife in a polygamous relationship being converted?


No idea what Greek, Roman or other Pagan norms existed at the time when it came to marriage....just was wondering....


What about if the divorce happens when you aren't in any kind of church and you attend church after?

I should have specified Elders.

I feel that scripture teaches that divorced/remarried men should not be elders, they should be above reproach. The husband of one wife. Being divorced makes it harder to do marriage counseling, makes it harder to take a strong stand against divorce. Elders need to rule their household well, and have children that are under control. Divorce/remarriage makes this all more difficult.

There are many other things that they can do to minister to the body. And I'm positive that God is using you to minister in many ways.

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Re: Divorce and Remarriage

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Bringing this over from the Debate section for more exposure and discussion. A poster wrote this:
I was wanting to get some feedback on remarriage after divorce. There was someone I know who made a statement that if you are remarried with a living spouse then you must leave your second(third, fourth, etc.) and either be reconciled to the first or remain single. Although I dismissed this on the grounds of it being illogical especially when children are involved.

I don't have any scriptural guidelines to give definitive answers on the subject. Jesus did say it was adultery to remarry those divorced or put away. Does their second marriage cease being adultery when the person repents or does repentance require termination of the adulterous relationship? Also, Paul makes reference that it is better to marry than to burn. That being said if a divorcee is struggling in their flesh with being single wouldn't it be better to be living in fidelity than to be tempted to fornicate.

What if there spouse leaves them because of their Christian conversion? Are they to remain unmarried throughout the remainder of their life? Some of this seems a bit harsh to me. Although, I understand that God does not want us to have license to divorce... but as a preacher/teacher I want to lead people to live godly lives.

Appreciate any input

To which I replied:

Difficult subject. However, about being reconciled to the first spouse:
Deuteronomy 24:1-4 KJV When a man hath taken a wife, and married her, and it come to pass that she find no favour in his eyes, because he hath found some uncleanness in her: then let him write her a bill of divorcement, and give it in her hand, and send her out of his house. (2) And when she is departed out of his house, she may go and be another man's wife. (3) And if the latter husband hate her, and write her a bill of divorcement, and giveth it in her hand, and sendeth her out of his house; or if the latter husband die, which took her to be his wife; (4) Her former husband, which sent her away, may not take her again to be his wife, after that she is defiled; for that is abomination before the LORD: and thou shalt not cause the land to sin, which the LORD thy God giveth thee for an inheritance.
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There is the argument that Jesus disallowed all divorce with one exception. However, there is the counter argument that Jesus disallowed "putting away", which is technically separate from "divorce".

There are two things to consider: putting away, and divorce. Putting away is when a husband send his wife out of the house and says "I am no longer your husband, I am no longer responsible to or for you." Moses required a "writ of divorce" or "bill of divorcement" in such cases. Thus, in order to put away his wife, a man had to give her a paper stating he had dissolved the marriage contract. This would prove that she was divorced, and would allow her to re-marry without the new husband being accusable of adultery with her first husband's wife. This of course enabled women who were put away to find another husband and have someone to take care of them so they didn't starve as a homeless vagabond or spend the rest of their years at Mom and Dad's house in artificial widowhood.

Jesus said Moses allowed a bill of divorce because of the hardness of people's hearts. Apparently, he knew there would be men who were buttheads and kick their wives to the curb, so he made an allowance to protect the woman in such cases by requiring a written proof of divorce, rather than just a separation ("putting away").

There are some who say that Jesus did not actually say all divorce results in adultery, but rather that putting away (without the divorce paper) would. The difference hinges on the meaning of two Greek words, which in the KJV were given the same English translation, thus (they say) obscuring the actual issues.
Matthew 5:32 KJV But I say unto you, That whosoever shall put away his wife, saving for the cause of fornication, causeth her to commit adultery: and whosoever shall marry her that is divorced committeth adultery.
The words "put away" and "divorced" are actually the same Greek word, apoluo, which literally means "loosed from" and refers to the separation. There is another, different Greek word for "divorce" which refers to being put away with a divorce writ. So, the argument goes, Jesus is condemning "putting away" as causing adultery, not necessarily divorce. the exception clause is "for fornication" which means a man discovers his bride is not a virgin. He may then put her away (annul the marriage) without requiring a divorce writ (which involves witnesses) and neither incurs nor causes any guilt. Joseph was minded to put away Mary privately when she was discovered to be pregnant, because ... well, for obvious reasons. (Of course, Mary had not been guilty of fornication, but Joseph had no way of knowing that until the angel told him the facts.)

This interpretation results in the following:

1. The law of God is not suddenly changed by Jesus' statement. If Jesus had suddenly disallowed all divorce as resulting in adultery, people who were not in sin prior to His statement suddenly found themselves in sin. All divorcees who had remarried and all who had married divorcees were now all of a sudden committing adultery, whereas prior to His statement they were not. This also prevents the accusation that Jesus had changed or abolished the law on the subject of divorce and adultery, which Jesus said He did not come to do. (It is one thing to expand the law to highlight the spiritual aspects, it is another thing to make unlawful what was explicitly lawful previously.)

2. Paul's statements that a person who is "loosed from a spouse" may marry without committing sin is in keeping with both Moses and Christ (1 Cor 7:27-29).

3. It provides for mercy for those who were divorced by their spouses. It is a fact that just as in Bible times, so today, there are hard-hearted people, and by requiring a divorce writ for those who would put away their spouses the one put away is protected. God obviously does not like or prefer divorce, but knowing what jerks humans can be He put in place a mechanism where the put away spouse's future was protected, so that divorce wasn't the end of life.

4. The exception clause is limited to premarital fornication. One who expects to marry a virgin, and then finds out she is not, is not bound to marry her. (If, of course, he is pleased to dwell with her anyway, then he cannot come back some time later and use it as an excuse to get rid of her.) EDIT: the exception clause is limited to "porneia" or fornication, which would include premarital immorality but also any forbidden relations (incest, heathens, etc).

5. The exception clause rules out adultery. Under the law there was no mechanism for getting a divorce on the grounds your spouse cheated on you. Rather, if adultery could be proven, the result was capital punishment, not divorce. And if a charge was levied, and could not be proven according to the law, then the one making the charge could potentially be liable to execution themselves for being a "false witness". Nobody under the law ever sought divorce on the grounds of adultery, at least not publicly. (However, a man might for example divorce his wife for "other reasons" so as not to publicly accuse the woman of adultery, creating the need for a felony investigation.)

There are, however, some problems with this approach:

1. It makes Jesus providing no new information about the command and law of God on the subject of marriage and divorce except that a man might put away his espoused wife if he discovered she was not a virgin. But arguably this was already the way things were, hence Jesus provided no new information about divorce at all. (It may, however, be argued he was saying that once betrothed nothing could end the betrothal except the fornication exception, in contrast to certain Pharisaic teachings on divorce.)

2. It makes Jesus not actually answer the question He was asked. He was not asked about putting away during the betrothal, but about divorce. This is not insurmountable, though, as Jesus often answered His adversaries in ways they did not expect or desire. But it is a definite objection that would need to be addressed.

3. It tends to give wiggle-room for divorce, and would tend to encourage - rather than discourage - divorce. If divorce is seen as a possible and lawful option, it is more likely to be taken than if it is believed to be utterly disallowed.

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