Well, thanks, but don't you feel there's more to it than sexual incompatibility? There's usually a reason behind the incompatibility that would be considered the root of the problem. Anyone can have sex. But, the reasons they don't want to have sex with someone is the real problem. Does that make sense?
Yes, I've heard that it's really sad. Good ole Beasley Rd. - - the apts on Beasley Rd. was were I started out my marriage - - wow, that was a long, long time ago.
Sure it makes sense!! And there is very little available data to arrive at an overwhelming conclusion on couples who have waited till marriage and/or married at a young (17-20) age!
I wasnt joking! It was a crude remark but there is a lot of truth in it. Sexual incompatibly is a major cause for indescretions.
How would 2 people know they are incompatible unless they were already promiscuous? How would they know unless they already had the experience?
Can't that really be about one persons experience verses another's inexperience? In which case the problem is not compatibility but either one persons unwillingness to learn and grow in that area or another persons unwillingness to change?
How much of the later "indiscretions" are really due NOT to sexual incompatibility but to a lack of affection later in the marriage...something that could not be discovered by premarital sex?
Could this actually just be a problem of a sex hungry society that sees sex as more important than any other aspects of a relationship?
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How would 2 people know they are incompatible unless they were already promiscuous? How would they know unless they already had the experience?
Can't that really be about one persons experience verses another's inexperience? In which case the problem is not compatibility but either one persons unwillingness to learn and grow in that area or another persons unwillingness to change?
How much of the later "indiscretions" are really due NOT to sexual incompatibility but to a lack of affection later in the marriage...something that could not be discovered by premarital sex?
Could this actually just be a problem of a sex hungry society that sees sex as more important than any other aspects of a relationship?
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All good points!! But what happens when its a couple in thier 40's or 50's on their 2nd or 3rd marriage?? And I do agree with the sexual society! Do you realize that studies have shown the desire to reproduce is stronger than hunger at points of time in the life cycle? Even without a sexual society (mass media) there will be a stong desire to have sex! The guys in Sodom didnot have TV or Porn to inform them how to cross dress to trick men!!
You know, that is one thing that I wonder if God didn't get the formula just a little bit off. I know he wanted the earth to be replenished, but sex is pretty nifty already - - a strong drive wasn't THAT necessary was it?
It seems to have caused more problems with promiscuity.
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We live in a new day. One in which the very definition of morality is being rewritten. With that in mind, do you believe the traditional Christian view concerning premarital sex is old-fashioned and outdated?
I hear many educators and social physicians say that sex before marriage is a natural function of adolescence. Popular culture views premarital sex favorably. In fact, there is an EXPECTATION that kids will have sex before they're married.
What do you think? Do you believe premarital sex is okay? Is there any reason teens or unmarried adults should abstain?
Of course premarital sex isn't okay. There are many reasons to abstain, the most important one being that God objects to premarital sex.
However, I think it's important to note that God punished premarital sex differently than adultery by requiring a marriage and/or payment.
Premarital Sex:
Exodus 22:16 And if a man entice a maid that is not betrothed, and lie with her, he shall surely endow her to be his wife. Exodus 22:17 If her father utterly refuse to give her unto him, he shall pay money according to the dowry of virgins.
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Deuteronomy 22:28 If a man find a damsel that is a virgin, which is not betrothed, and lay hold on her, and lie with her, and they be found; Deuteronomy 22:29 Then the man that lay with her shall give unto the damsel's father fifty shekels of silver, and she shall be his wife; because he hath humbled her, he may not put her away all his days.
Adultery:
Leviticus 20:10 And the man that committeth adultery with another man's wife, even he that committeth adultery with his neighbour's wife, the adulterer and the adulteress shall surely be put to death.
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Well sex before marriage is a sin!! But it is a god idea to do it! Who would buy a car without test driving it???!
Surely you aren't serious....
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