I shared the original blog "Pornication's Dirty Little Secret" here at AFF quite some time ago.
I have written an addendum here:
https://votivesoul.wordpress.com/201...cret-addendum/
Please be advised, the blog is for mature readers only. I address a very specific sin in very specific ways, not graphically, or inappropriately, but, due to the nature of the sin, some readers may have difficulty.