Re: Single Apostolic Men -VS-Single Apostolic Moth
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Originally Posted by missdkendall
This is what she told me. She was born and raised Apostolic. When she was in school she started hanging around the wrong people, and I guess she became a backslider. She just got refilled with the Holy ghost in a revival at our church. When she was out in the world, she made some bad choices, and now has a child. She is a great girl, just lost her way I guess you could say..
What prompted the questions is, we had a young lady in our church
In the choir, singing specials, very much "In church", slept with a young man from a neighboring church.
Lied her way out of it ... still "in church", singing in choir, on the platform, etc
couple of years later was actually caught in the act of the same thing
3rd time around she was pregnant ...... NO DON"T marry her
** Hypothetical
Girl goes off to college, quits going to church, lives a sinful life, gets pregnant
Comes back home, gets right with God and proves herself, YES I could see marrying her
***Another angle
No matter which way it was ...... there will always be in the back of the husbands mind .... will she go out and do this again
Re: Single Apostolic Men -VS-Single Apostolic Moth
Ya reap what you sew. A child is a reminder of your mistakes. I bet many who 'down' a young girl for having a child out of wedlock have greater things in their closets. Thing is, we don't see a result of their sin.
Anyway, I've given this a lot of thought. Could I, would I marry a woman with child(ren)? Yeah, if I knew she was 'right' and has been 'right' for a really long time now. Also, the father would have to be gone, out of the picture completely.
Re: Single Apostolic Men -VS-Single Apostolic Moth
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Originally Posted by Berkeley
Ya reap what you sew. A child is a reminder of your mistakes. I bet many who 'down' a young girl for having a child out of wedlock have greater things in their closets. Thing is, we don't see a result of their sin.
Anyway, I've given this a lot of thought. Could I, would I marry a woman with child(ren)? Yeah, if I knew she was 'right' and has been 'right' for a really long time now. Also, the father would have to be gone, out of the picture completely.
Other than that...
Oh Lord, this guy doesn't even live in Florida! Never even knew the girl was pregnant!!!!!
Re: Single Apostolic Men -VS-Single Apostolic Moth
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Originally Posted by missdkendall
Oh Lord, this guy doesn't even live in Florida! Never even knew the girl was pregnant!!!!!
That makes it easier. Don't tell the guy. Some might cry out "he has the right to know." Whatevah! What are the odds that he'll do his part? Telling the guy will give him the 'right' to pop in every few yrs and cause turmoil. Never send a christmas card or a birthday card.. just pop in and cause some drama.
Re: Single Apostolic Men -VS-Single Apostolic Moth
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Originally Posted by Berkeley
That makes it easier. Don't tell the guy. Some might cry out "he has the right to know." Whatevah! What are the odds that he'll do his part? Telling the guy will give him the 'right' to pop in every few yrs and cause turmoil. Never send a christmas card or a birthday card.. just pop in and cause some drama.
Re: Single Apostolic Men -VS-Single Apostolic Moth
I haven't read all the above posts. Just answering the question. If I were single I wouldn't have any problem marrying someone w/kid(s), all things being equal. I'd be more concerned about the ex, if there is one. If he's a crazed killer just on on parole from San Quentin, I'm prolly gonna keep on fishin', if you know what I mean. Lots of variables in a deal like this.
Question is, would she want to take on raising my three kids?
Where's the blender? I feel a smoothie comin' on!
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Re: Single Apostolic Men -VS-Single Apostolic Moth
As someone who has children who's father wants nothing to do with them, they have the right to be told who their father is, regardless.
Writing the father out of the picture is a bad move. The mother will deal with the consequences of that action. Many times, it results in the child eventually finding the father and going to live with him, having nothing further to do with the mother.
Nothing good comes out of cutting the father out of the picture, regardless of his involvement in the child's life.
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