Something to Consider

[Rev Dooley]

Is it wrong for someone who is still married to have a boyfriend/girlfriend while they go through a divorce from their spouse?
Just want to hear your thoughts on this important issue.

[dizzyde]

Is it wrong for someone who is still married to have a boyfriend/girlfriend while they go through a divorce from their spouse?
Just want to hear your thoughts on this important issue.

Yes. On many levels.

[Rev Dooley]

Yes. On many levels.While I agree with you, can you please explain your position, especially with regards to "many levels"?

[dizzyde]

Yes. On many levels.

I am now quoting myself. sad.

To clarify, not just for religious reasons, I don't think anyone who is ending a marriage is in any position to be starting a new one until they have had time to heal and gain some perspective on life and what has happened to them.

If you enter marriage as a Christian, and you are seeing it as a permanent union, to then go through a divorce, these are earth shattering events, and you are in no position to start involving yourself in a new relationship until you have had time to heal and deal with all of the fall-out.

Not to mention if there are children involved. I think any divorced parent should think long and hard before entering another relationship.

[simplyme]

I am now quoting myself. sad.

To clarify, not just for religious reasons, I don't think anyone who is ending a marriage is in any position to be starting a new one until they have had time to heal and gain some perspective on life and what has happened to them.

If you enter marriage as a Christian, and you are seeing it as a permanent union, to then go through a divorce, these are earth shattering events, and you are in no position to start involving yourself in a new relationship until you have had time to heal and deal with all of the fall-out.

Not to mention if there are children involved. I think any divorced parent should think long and hard before entering another relationship.

Wow I completely agree with this post., glad to know I'm not the only one whom believes like this ;)
Haste makes waste can take on new meaning, I've seen too many marriages go from divorce, to remarriage like within a few months, and seen it also just go down HARD almost as quickly., not saying that ALL situations do, but its that slim 'hope' there, that it will be just the right one this time, that compells some to jump from the frying pan into the fire, and possibly wind up getting burned. *sigh*
The children invariably suffer more than the parents ever even think., even IF they seem okay with it, and what is done cannot be undone.
Worse even, non christians seeing that even christians allegedly with all truth, can do this too, may work in either direction to seek salvation, or stay lost.

[Rhoni]

Is it wrong for someone who is still married to have a boyfriend/girlfriend while they go through a divorce from their spouse?
Just want to hear your thoughts on this important issue.

Anyone who dates while still married, last time I checked was an adulterer. If you are legally separated you are not being prayerful and open for a reconcilliation or restoration when you get emotionally involved with another.

Coming out of a relationship despite the trouble or hurt, one is in no way healed enough to not carry baggage into the next relationship.

[Rhoni]

I am now quoting myself. sad.

To clarify, not just for religious reasons, I don't think anyone who is ending a marriage is in any position to be starting a new one until they have had time to heal and gain some perspective on life and what has happened to them.

If you enter marriage as a Christian, and you are seeing it as a permanent union, to then go through a divorce, these are earth shattering events, and you are in no position to start involving yourself in a new relationship until you have had time to heal and deal with all of the fall-out.

Not to mention if there are children involved. I think any divorced parent should think long and hard before entering another relationship.

:friendExactly!

[Rev Dooley]

Anyone who dates while still married, last time I checked was an adulterer. If you are legally separated you are not being prayerful and open for a reconcilliation or restoration when you get emotionally involved with another.

Coming out of a relationship despite the trouble or hurt, one is in no way healed enough to not carry baggage into the next relationship.I agree with you here. I was curious to see if there were others who felt the same as me regarding this issue.

Concerning what dizzyde wrote, I do agree that it takes time for healing. Much emotional damage is done which leads to divorce and must be addressed before any new relationship should be started.

In my counseling through the years, I have found that regardless of the healing process, there is still a lot of baggage that is carried into the new relationship. Often it seems that the issues were never truly dealt with and the new relationship may be doomed from the outset due to these factors.

Thanks for all of the responses. These show that there are some out there who still believe the Bible.

[Pressing-On]

I am now quoting myself. sad.

To clarify, not just for religious reasons, I don't think anyone who is ending a marriage is in any position to be starting a new one until they have had time to heal and gain some perspective on life and what has happened to them.

If you enter marriage as a Christian, and you are seeing it as a permanent union, to then go through a divorce, these are earth shattering events, and you are in no position to start involving yourself in a new relationship until you have had time to heal and deal with all of the fall-out.

Not to mention if there are children involved. I think any divorced parent should think long and hard before entering another relationship.
Best post!!!! Amen!

[OneAccord]

Great posts, Dizzyde, Simplyme and Rhoni. You folks are right on target.

[dizzyde]

Well, it looks like great minds (tic) think alike!!! :friend