Dancing Question

[Esther]

What scripture does the organization use to teach against dancing?

I have always heard it taught, but for the life of me I can't remember what scripture they use?????

[FaithPreacher]

What scripture does the organization use to teach against dancing?

I have always heard it taught, but for the life of me I can't remember what scripture they use?????

What organization are you referring to ?

[RandyWayne]

What scripture does the organization use to teach against dancing?

I have always heard it taught, but for the life of me I can't remember what scripture they use?????

Assuming you are referring to the great U P of C, you are right, they have always taught against dancing. And there is no scripture other then taking something else (such as fornication) and making dance guilty by association of association of association.

And I personally (as a former competitive ballroom dancer) find it laughable for someone to speak evil of a formal waltz yet not bat an eye at something which looks like a Jamaican voodoo dance.

[*AQuietPlace*]

I've never heard a scripture against it. Just a general taboo. It's not just the UPC, though... old-time Baptists, etc. were against dancing.

[Esther]

I've never heard a scripture against it. Just a general taboo. It's not just the UPC, though... old-time Baptists, etc. were against dancing.

True.

[Cindy]

Never heard a scripture used against it. Just not a good idea for single people to slow dance together.

[Sam]

I've never heard a scripture against it. Just a general taboo. It's not just the UPC, though... old-time Baptists, etc. were against dancing.

and still are against dancing


One preacher said, "Just cause there's a band playing in the room doesn't give you a right to hug my wife.

I heard one Christian refer to it as "dry intercourse."

[mfblume]

What organization are you referring to ?

Come on. lol There's only ONE organization on this forum when addressed as "the organization."

[MissBrattified]

I doubt there's any particular scripture behind it. And it doesn't forbid "dancing"; it forbids going to "dances." :)

I see nothing wrong with dancing, if done for the right reasons and with the right people. Especially wedding dances, dances with kids and mothers, spontaneous outbursts of joy, etc. :D The sexy stuff should be reserved for your spouse. Intimate/sensual dancing with anyone except your spouse is inappropriate.

This is a practical matter; not a scriptural one.

[unitedpraise10]

My church is UPC, and we have dance team, sign team, mime team, drama team, etc. Our choir sways to the beat. It's ok to dance in church....

[Timmy]

My church is UPC, and we have dance team, sign team, mime team, drama team, etc. Our choir sways to the beat. It's ok to dance in church....

Is it ok to dance at a wedding reception?

[RandyWayne]

and still are against dancing


One preacher said, "Just cause there's a band playing in the room doesn't give you a right to hug my wife.

I heard one Christian refer to it as "dry intercourse."

Wow. Now there is a guy with zero confidence. LOL

And "dry intercourse"? So does that give me the right to call Jamaican voodoo dancing at the alter, "fake witchcraft!"?

[RandyWayne]

Is it ok to dance at a wedding reception?

Of course not. That is why nearly all UPC wedding receptions are held in the church basement. Not a dance floor to be seen in miles! And no DJ......

[Esther]

I doubt there's any particular scripture behind it. And it doesn't forbid "dancing"; it forbids going to "dances." :)

I see nothing wrong with dancing, if done for the right reasons and with the right people. Especially wedding dances, dances with kids and mothers, spontaneous outbursts of joy, etc. :D The sexy stuff should be reserved for your spouse. Intimate/sensual dancing with anyone except your spouse is inappropriate.

This is a practical matter; not a scriptural one.

Actually, you hit the nail on the head as to what started this conversation. A friends daughter wants to have a father daughter dance at her wedding.

[Timmy]

Of course not. That is why nearly all UPC wedding receptions are held in the church basement. Not a dance floor to be seen in miles! And no DJ......

Same in the AG. Or used to be, I should say. A lot of AG weddings use outside facilities, and a lot of them have dancing. I noticed this trend about 10 years ago, I think. How far behind is the UPC? :heeheehee

[Timmy]

Actually, you hit the nail on the head as to what started this conversation. A friends daughter wants to have a father daughter dance at her wedding.

Switch to AG. I've seen AG pastors dance with their daughters! Well. Once, anyway. :D

[Truthseeker]

Right next to the scripture about shooting up heroin.

[Truthseeker]

Just left of the scripture about going to casinos.

[RandyWayne]

Actually, you hit the nail on the head as to what started this conversation. A friends daughter wants to have a father daughter dance at her wedding.

I've always assumed that the bride, and to a much lesser degree, the groom, have pretty much total say over how their wedding is to be done. I also realize that in-laws (and occasionally pastors) tend to butt in way too much as well.

She SHOULD have that dance if she wants other wise she will spend the rest of her life with that small regret in the back of her head for not doing it just to please someone who won't even remember having ever been there.

[Esther]

I've always assumed that the bride, and to a much lesser degree, the groom, have pretty much total say over how their wedding is to be done. I also realize that in-laws (and occasionally pastors) tend to butt in way too much as well.

She SHOULD have that dance if she wants other wise she will spend the rest of her life with that small regret in the back of her head for not doing it just to please someone who won't even remember having ever been there.

I do not know of a single UPC church that would allow that.

[Hoovie]

If both my daughter and I wanted a wedding dance, I don't think my pastor would protest at all.

[pelathais]

Come on. lol There's only ONE organization on this forum when addressed as "the organization."

AARP?

Okay... seriously...

Exodus 32:17-19 (Really all of Exodus 32, especially Exodus 32:6 - "ate and drank and rose up to play..."). Here, "dancing" that was not specifically dedicated to the worship of God lead to all manners of vice and idolatry...

This is then contrasted with Miriam leading the women in a dance of "worship" - Exodus 15:20, and David's "holy dance" in 2 Samuel 6:14-16.

Some wits will want to then add Michal's condemnation of David's behavior and the accusation that he "uncovered himself" in front of all the women of Israel (2 Samuel 6:14-16). The implication here being, that even a "holy dance" can lead to immodesty and nudity just as much as a "carnal dance" (compare Exodus 32:25).

I actually got drawn into a debate with one pastor once who taught it as a doctrine that David "danced right out of his clothes" and exhorted people to "dance" with the same fervor. Listening to this guy really made me squirm.

I pointed out that his "doctrine" was drawn exclusively from the words of Michal - a woman who was cursed by her husband and God for those very same words. I also pointed out that David was dressed in a linen ephod - this was a garment which was especially designed to keep its wearer modest while they moved about and even exerted themselves in their ministry (Exodus 28:42).

Lacking any actual commandments against dancing but still desiring to keep their children from "square dancing" in gym class so that they can brag about their "convictions" to others, most 'holiness' preachers will simply make things up as they go. The only real "standard" that's important here is the ability of the aforementioned preacher to boast of his or her "holiness."

There were even medieval Catholic monks and ascetics who denounced the dancing of the common folk. Oftentimes these folk dances did have roots in pagan religious celebrations like the May Pole (and as in Judges 21:19-21 - "Shiloh" was an ancient pagan grove before the Israelite invasion). Puritans were another notable example of those who denounced "dancing" and to dance was forbidden for a time in all of England during Cromwell's Protectorate (dictatorship).

[mfblume]

Some wits will want to then add Michal's condemnation of David's behavior and the accusation that he "uncovered himself" in front of all the women of Israel (2 Samuel 6:14-16). The implication here being, that even a "holy dance" can lead to immodesty and nudity just as much as a "carnal dance" (compare Exodus 32:25).

I actually got drawn into a debate with one pastor once who taught it as a doctrine that David "danced right out of his clothes" and exhorted people to "dance" with the same fervor. Listening to this guy really made me squirm.

I pointed out that his "doctrine" was drawn exclusively from the words of Michal - a woman who was cursed by her husband and God for those very same words. I also pointed out that David was dressed in a linen ephod - this was a garment which was especially designed to keep its wearer modest while they moved about and even exerted themselves in their ministry (Exodus 28:42).

Right. The EPHOD was a priestly garment, as well! David acted like a PRIEST. It's as though people sided with Michal and said he danced in his underwear, when in reality he was dressed as a priest ministering to God! David was the KING/PRIEST/PROPHET like unto Jesus!

[RandyWayne]

I do not know of a single UPC church that would allow that.

I know of some now, but when we were attending during the bulk of the 80's I cannot imagine any that would have allowed it.

[unitedpraise10]

Is it ok to dance at a wedding reception?

I personally think it's ok!

[unitedpraise10]

I do not know of a single UPC church that would allow that.

A particular church has no say so over wedding details.

[Truthseeker]

A particular church has no say so over wedding details.

If it's done at the church and by the preacher it does.

[unitedpraise10]

If it's done at the church and by the preacher it does.

If a pastor starts ruling over a wedding, it's time to find a different venue.

[NotforSale]

Kind of surprised, no one has mentioned the feast, when the Prodigal Son came home.

But the father said to his servants, Bring forth the best robe, and put it on him; and put a ring on his hand, and shoes on his feet:

And bring hither the fatted calf, and kill it; and let us eat, and be merry:

For this my son was dead, and is alive again; he was lost, and is found. And they began to be merry.

Now his elder son was in the field: and as he came and drew nigh to the house, he heard musick and dancing.

[Theophil]

Kind of surprised, no one has mentioned the feast, when the Prodigal Son came home.

But the father said to his servants, Bring forth the best robe, and put it on him; and put a ring on his hand, and shoes on his feet:

And bring hither the fatted calf, and kill it; and let us eat, and be merry:

For this my son was dead, and is alive again; he was lost, and is found. And they began to be merry.

Now his elder son was in the field: and as he came and drew nigh to the house, he heard musick and dancing.

Hmmmm. Good one.

[Truthseeker]

Yeah, but they weren't doing the tootsie roll. :)

[freeatlast]

A particular church has no say so over wedding details.

You'd never believe it BUT I was rebuked over the pulpit because I did not use the florist that the pastor suggested.

This was 39 years ago, and I was a young Christian who did not have enough sense to take a walk back then, from such a control freak of a pastor.

[unitedpraise10]

You'd never believe it BUT I was rebuked over the pulpit because I did not use the florist that the pastor suggested.

This was 39 years ago, and I was a young Christian who did not have enough sense to take a walk back then, from such a control freak of a pastor.

hahaha....somehow they think they can be like that!

[RandyWayne]

You'd never believe it BUT I was rebuked over the pulpit because I did not use the florist that the pastor suggested.

This was 39 years ago, and I was a young Christian who did not have enough sense to take a walk back then, from such a control freak of a pastor.

In other words when you say he suggested this florist, what you really meant is that he "SUGGESTED!" this person.

[Cindy]

You'd never believe it BUT I was rebuked over the pulpit because I did not use the florist that the pastor suggested.

This was 39 years ago, and I was a young Christian who did not have enough sense to take a walk back then, from such a control freak of a pastor.

That is just not right, was the florist he suggested a member of the church, relative, or friend of the pastor?

[Cindy]

Kind of surprised, no one has mentioned the feast, when the Prodigal Son came home.

But the father said to his servants, Bring forth the best robe, and put it on him; and put a ring on his hand, and shoes on his feet:

And bring hither the fatted calf, and kill it; and let us eat, and be merry:

For this my son was dead, and is alive again; he was lost, and is found. And they began to be merry.

Now his elder son was in the field: and as he came and drew nigh to the house, he heard musick and dancing.

What kind of dancing can you hear?:icecream

[RandyWayne]

What kind of dancing can you hear?:icecream

Ever see any River dancing or tap?

[houston]

*breaks out with Dancing Queen*

[Esther]

A particular church has no say so over wedding details.

They do if it is in their church.

[Esther]

*breaks out with Dancing Queen*
:heeheehee

[unitedpraise10]

They do if it is in their church.

You must come from an ultra conservative UPC church. A wedding is yours...not your pastors. If you want dancing, a dj, lights, cameras, etc.....a pastor should have no say so.

[RandyWayne]

They do if it is in their church.

That is true. The pastor and/or board really do have a say in what goes on in their physical building. However he doesn't have a say in the wedding itself should it occur in a different location. He can say he won't officiate it, but other than that he has zero authority.

And on the subject of pastors and weddings I sat under two very different men. The first one would often hold a wedding on Saturday night and praise the couple the next morning for sitting sitting in the congregation. He told everyone how proud he was of their commitment. The other pastor told newly weds "I do NOT want to see you in church Sunday morning <hint hint nudge nudge wink wink Say no more!>". Both extremes told me a lot of their views on the family versus the church structure.

[houston]

...holdme closa tiny dansa...

[Sherri]

Ok, I'm going to throw in my opinion here. We haven't been UPC for 20 years now - most of you would say we've "gone Charismatic", whatever in the world that means. I love dancing in church, if it's in worship to the Lord. We don't have a lot of it, but it's totally fine if people want to do it. I move with the music alot.

BUT.......we do not allow dancing of any sort at functions in our Gathering Place (fellowship hall). If a bride wants a dance at her wedding, that's totally up to her, but it won't be done here on church property. The reason is that we don't want to start something that could go way further than we are comfortable with as lead pastors. If we allow a slow father/daughter dance, then the next person will want to follow with more dancing, etc. etc. I have seen some dancing at weddings that I would not be comfortable with in my church at all.

Also, if you allow dancing at weddings in your church, then you would have to allow dancing at teenage parties who use your facilities, etc. It's just not something we want to get started. So, we don't teach people that dancing is a sin; it's one of those things that we think should be left up to individual discretion. But we don't allow it on church property.

AND.......we DO teach our teenagers to be careful and to stay away from slow suggestive dancing anywhere!

[houston]

*legalist*

[Sherri]

*legalist*Well, now that's a title I don't get thrown at me everyday! Lol!

[houston]

Well, now that's a title I don't get thrown at me everyday! Lol!

figerd I'd beat Hoovie to the punch...

[Esther]

You must come from an ultra conservative UPC church. A wedding is yours...not your pastors. If you want dancing, a dj, lights, cameras, etc.....a pastor should have no say so.

After reading a book where a woman was saved out of witchcraft, told how many churches open their doors to anyone that wants to have a wedding and even stipulate that since they are renting the church they don't want anyone from the church at the wedding.

Then they have a bride in a brides dress. Her groom his satan, whom she is there to marry, in a christian church. They laugh at christians stupidy in not paying attention to what is going on in their church.

So that is another reason the pastor needs to be involved in what's going on.

[MawMaw]

Ok, I'm going to throw in my opinion here. We haven't been UPC for 20 years now - most of you would say we've "gone Charismatic", whatever in the world that means. I love dancing in church, if it's in worship to the Lord. We don't have a lot of it, but it's totally fine if people want to do it. I move with the music alot.

BUT.......we do not allow dancing of any sort at functions in our Gathering Place (fellowship hall). If a bride wants a dance at her wedding, that's totally up to her, but it won't be done here on church property. The reason is that we don't want to start something that could go way further than we are comfortable with as lead pastors. If we allow a slow father/daughter dance, then the next person will want to follow with more dancing, etc. etc. I have seen some dancing at weddings that I would not be comfortable with in my church at all.

Also, if you allow dancing at weddings in your church, then you would have to allow dancing at teenage parties who use your facilities, etc. It's just not something we want to get started. So, we don't teach people that dancing is a sin; it's one of those things that we think should be left up to individual discretion. But we don't allow it on church property.

AND.......we DO teach our teenagers to be careful and to stay away from slow suggestive dancing anywhere!

I compliment you and your church's stance on that matter.

[unitedpraise10]

After reading a book where a woman was saved out of witchcraft, told how many churches open their doors to anyone that wants to have a wedding and even stipulate that since they are renting the church they don't want anyone from the church at the wedding.

Then they have a bride in a brides dress. Her groom his satan, whom she is there to marry, in a christian church. They laugh at christians stupidy in not paying attention to what is going on in their church.

So that is another reason the pastor needs to be involved in what's going on.

I was more or less referring to when we (Apostolics) get married. I don't agree with us opening our churches for outsiders. All it is is a money making scheme.

[RandyWayne]

Ok, I'm going to throw in my opinion here. We haven't been UPC for 20 years now - most of you would say we've "gone Charismatic", whatever in the world that means. I love dancing in church, if it's in worship to the Lord. We don't have a lot of it, but it's totally fine if people want to do it. I move with the music alot.

BUT.......we do not allow dancing of any sort at functions in our Gathering Place (fellowship hall). If a bride wants a dance at her wedding, that's totally up to her, but it won't be done here on church property. The reason is that we don't want to start something that could go way further than we are comfortable with as lead pastors. If we allow a slow father/daughter dance, then the next person will want to follow with more dancing, etc. etc. I have seen some dancing at weddings that I would not be comfortable with in my church at all.

Also, if you allow dancing at weddings in your church, then you would have to allow dancing at teenage parties who use your facilities, etc. It's just not something we want to get started. So, we don't teach people that dancing is a sin; it's one of those things that we think should be left up to individual discretion. But we don't allow it on church property.

AND.......we DO teach our teenagers to be careful and to stay away from slow suggestive dancing anywhere!

I agree with this! However I just hate it when wedding receptions are held in church basements. Not only does it eliminate dancing but it also eliminates any wine at the tables (for REAL toasts)..... Another reason Las Vegas was put on the map. LOL

[NorCal]

Seems like ya'all have a problem with a line being drawn in the sand. Please stay over there Sons of Korah.

In all seriousness though, have you seen any modern dancing that does not involve any sexual (provocative) act?

In my Collage days I would be the DD for buddies. Basically any dance/bar I picked them up from was pretty much like an orgy with out actual intercourse.

Why would a Christian want to involve themselves in that, especially at their wedding symbolizing a Union between Man, Wife and God?

[Truthseeker]

Seems like ya'all have a problem with a line being drawn in the sand. Please stay over there Sons of Korah.

In all seriousness though, have you seen any modern dancing that does not involve any sexual (provocative) act?

In my Collage days I would be the DD for buddies. Basically any dance/bar I picked them up from was pretty much like an orgy with out actual intercourse.

Why would a Christian want to involve themselves in that, especially at their wedding symbolizing a Union between Man, Wife and God?

"modern" is a key point. In our culture music/dancing is a sensual thing mostly. Some cultures music and dancing is used to celebrate joyous occasions in life that is not sensual in nature. The prodical son was received with music/dancing but sure it wasn't sensual and sinful like on DWTS and such.

[MissBrattified]

Ok, I'm going to throw in my opinion here. We haven't been UPC for 20 years now - most of you would say we've "gone Charismatic", whatever in the world that means. I love dancing in church, if it's in worship to the Lord. We don't have a lot of it, but it's totally fine if people want to do it. I move with the music alot.

BUT.......we do not allow dancing of any sort at functions in our Gathering Place (fellowship hall). If a bride wants a dance at her wedding, that's totally up to her, but it won't be done here on church property. The reason is that we don't want to start something that could go way further than we are comfortable with as lead pastors. If we allow a slow father/daughter dance, then the next person will want to follow with more dancing, etc. etc. I have seen some dancing at weddings that I would not be comfortable with in my church at all.

Also, if you allow dancing at weddings in your church, then you would have to allow dancing at teenage parties who use your facilities, etc. It's just not something we want to get started. So, we don't teach people that dancing is a sin; it's one of those things that we think should be left up to individual discretion. But we don't allow it on church property.

AND.......we DO teach our teenagers to be careful and to stay away from slow suggestive dancing anywhere!
:thumbsup

Very reasonable stance, IMO. I do think that "dances" are something that, generally speaking, aren't going to be Christian in nature. There are some [rare] exceptions, which have probably already been mentioned.

[RandyWayne]

"modern" is a key point. In our culture music/dancing is a sensual thing mostly. Some cultures music and dancing is used to celebrate joyous occasions in life that is not sensual in nature. The prodical son was received with music/dancing but sure it wasn't sensual and sinful like on DWTS and such.

One of the descriptions for the three main variations of Tango is the following:

Argentine Tango: Represent a couple of just met and are flirting outrageously.

American Standard: The couple have finally gotten married and a form of normalcy and predictability has set in.

International Tango: All passion has left and the marriage only exists for the sake of the kids.


Basically this tells the tale of ballroom. It is so structured and "proper" that most forms of flirting are the last thing on the couples mind.

[RandyWayne]

Seems like ya'all have a problem with a line being drawn in the sand. Please stay over there Sons of Korah.

In all seriousness though, have you seen any modern dancing that does not involve any sexual (provocative) act?

In my Collage days I would be the DD for buddies. Basically any dance/bar I picked them up from was pretty much like an orgy with out actual intercourse.

Why would a Christian want to involve themselves in that, especially at their wedding symbolizing a Union between Man, Wife and God?

Well, it was my wife.... I would!

[MissBrattified]

Actually, you hit the nail on the head as to what started this conversation. A friends daughter wants to have a father daughter dance at her wedding.

And no others? It seems odd to have a father/daughter dance, but no other dancing.

[Sam]

I agree with this! However I just hate it when wedding receptions are held in church basements. Not only does it eliminate dancing but it also eliminates any wine at the tables (for REAL toasts)..... Another reason Las Vegas was put on the map. LOL

does it also eliminate the father/bride dance?
and the garter removal ritual?
and the throwing up down the tuxedo front?

[RandyWayne]

does it also eliminate the father/bride dance?
and the garter removal ritual?
and the throwing up down the tuxedo front?

All of the above. Just another church-basement-potluck.

[NorCal]

does it also eliminate the father/bride dance?
and the garter removal ritual?
and the throwing up down the tuxedo front?

Did not do the Garter or Flower toss. Do I really need to go up my wife's dress in public? Modesty in all accounts.

[Esther]

And no others? It seems odd to have a father/daughter dance, but no other dancing.

I'm with you on that, but that is all she mentioned.

[Sherri]

If we lived in another culture/nation, I would probably look at this issue differently. Dancing in some other cultures is just a part of all celebrations, and it is not sensual at all - just fun and joyful. I think that's totally fine. We just don't want to get something started in our church that ends up being way out of control.

[Timmy]

If we lived in another culture/nation, I would probably look at this issue differently. Dancing in some other cultures is just a part of all celebrations, and it is not sensual at all - just fun and joyful. I think that's totally fine. We just don't want to get something started in our church that ends up being way out of control.

Kinda like this?

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DY_DF2Af3LM

[Sherri]

Kinda like this?

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DY_DF2Af3LMThat was a REALLY funny episode.

[Hoovie]

Where does it end? Why are we so interested in being more holy than Jesus and the culture he was a part of?

[RandyWayne]

Can I assume that anyone who would not allow dancing would also not allow a DJ?

[*AQuietPlace*]

I love the kind of dancing they did on Pride and Prejudice. It looks so joyful. :)

[Truthseeker]

Can I assume that anyone who would not allow dancing would also not allow a DJ?

Nope

[Timmy]

Nope

A DJ, with no dancing. That. Would. Be. Weeeeeird. :lol

[Timmy]

A DJ, with no dancing. That. Would. Be. Weeeeeird. :lol

Who's going to stop kids from moving to the music? Oh, of course. This lady:

http://blogyourfaith.com/wp-content/uploads/church-lady.jpg

[RandyWayne]

A DJ, with no dancing. That. Would. Be. Weeeeeird. :lol

I also think it would be safe to assume that this would preclude the use of any lighting effects or fog machine.

[Timmy]

I also think it would be safe to assume that this would preclude the use of any lighting effects or fog machine.

Next Apostolic in-church wedding reception, somebody, pleeease, put up one of these!

http://www.djcraig.net/mirrorball.jpg

:D

[Timmy]

And post videos. I can see it now. A DJ, pumping music, mirror ball, stobes, and NOBODY DANCING! :toofunny

[Sam]

How about dancing like this?

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4tq426WEKUA&feature=related

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YaP6iVuLpuE&feature=related


when the Bible speaks about praising the Lord in the dance, I picture something like these videos

[RandyWayne]

We didn't have any dancing at our wedding either. There were a ton of slot machines and blackjack tables around though.

[Pendragon]

Did not do the Garter or Flower toss. Do I really need to go up my wife's dress in public? Modesty in all accounts.

Hmm, we did this at my wedding. I totally didn't even think about it offending anyone; in fact this is the first time it even crossed my mind.

And it was a UPC wedding, btw.

[NorCal]

Hmm, we did this at my wedding. I totally didn't even think about it offending anyone; in fact this is the first time it even crossed my mind.

And it was a UPC wedding, btw.

Yeah, it was not even something that the Pastor brought up. It was a decision by my wife and I. When you look at the history of the Garter Belt, it was actually pretty crude, medieval practice.

[BeenThinkin]

Yeah, it was not even something that the Pastor brought up. It was a decision by my wife and I. When you look at the history of the Garter Belt, it was actually pretty crude, medieval practice.


NorCal, you didn't remove her garter belt at the reception, did you? :heeheehee :happydance

Been Thinkin

[Sam]

Yeah, it was not even something that the Pastor brought up. It was a decision by my wife and I. When you look at the history of the Garter Belt, it was actually pretty crude, medieval practice.

garter belt?

usually it's just one garter (usually blue for the "something blue") and not worn very far up the leg since the long gown covers it anyway. The ceremony is over so it's OK for the groom to go there. Then the one who catches it can just symbolically put it on the ankle of the one who catches the bouquet.

It can get pretty crude with the guy pulling the dress over his head, shoulders, and upper body while he burrows around and searches for the garter.

Did you do the dance with the bride thing where you come up and cut in and hand her a dollar for a dance? That helps the new couple a little financially. I was at an ALJC church where the bride put on an apron and you could use a squeeze type clothes pin to pin money on it to help them out financially.

[RandyWayne]

As a former DJ, this is the most popular song played during the whole garter removal process.

http://randyandgail.com/Music/OhYea.mp3

[pelathais]

And post videos. I can see it now. A DJ, pumping music, mirror ball, stobes, and NOBODY DANCING! :toofunny

I attended a couple of company dinner parties over the past holiday season that were like that. At one party in Oklahoma, the DJ kept playing disco songs to an empty dance floor. Then he'd play a country song and the floor would fill up. Then more disco while everyone sat it out. You'd think that he would get in sync with his audience.

A far as a "father-daughter" dance at a wedding - who cares? If they want a moment, let them have it. I probably won't have a chance to do that with my daughter because of the way she's been inculcated. But then again, it's not really a big deal for me. I just think it's wrong to try and force these opinions upon others.

[Timmy]

I attended a couple of company dinner parties over the past holiday season that were like that. At one party in Oklahoma, the DJ kept playing disco songs to an empty dance floor. Then he'd play a country song and the floor would fill up. Then more disco while everyone sat it out. You'd think that he would get in sync with his audience.

Good point. So a DJ at a UPC wedding ought to play things like this:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6vd_C5KX_lk
:party:party:party


A far as a "father-daughter" dance at a wedding - who cares? If they want a moment, let them have it. I probably won't have a chance to do that with my daughter because of the way she's been inculcated. But then again, it's not really a big deal for me. I just think it's wrong to try and force these opinions upon others.

:thumbsup

On the other hand, I (believe it or not) tend to agree that a church should be able to set any policy they want to for receptions on the property. I don't think they should forbid dancing, but, hey, whatever floats their boat. :dunno And, if they do have a no-dance policy, they definitely shouldn't give anyone grief for going elsewhere for the reception. (And dancing their hearts out!)

[Sherri]

Good point. So a DJ at a UPC wedding ought to play things like this:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6vd_C5KX_lk
:party:party:party



:thumbsup

On the other hand, I (believe it or not) tend to agree that a church should be able to set any policy they want to for receptions on the property. I don't think they should forbid dancing, but, hey, whatever floats their boat. :dunno And, if they do have a no-dance policy, they definitely shouldn't give anyone grief for going elsewhere for the reception. (And dancing their hearts out!)

Wow! I agree with Timmy!:faint

[Timmy]

Wow! I agree with Timmy!:faint

:heeheehee :highfive