Parenting: Money for good grades??

[Truthseeker]

Good or bad thing?

Some give certain amount for B's or A's.

[Titus2woman]

At our house it was $10 per A, $5 per B, Nothing else as a C is expected.

Today we have one Ph.D, one Masters, one B.S., one tradesman who did not go to college, and a third year at Texas A&M on the Dean's list.

We were very financially stretched while raising five boys and sometimes coming up with that money was tough but it was earned and deserved and paid gladly. I have never been sorry we gave it.

My boys are in their 30's so adjusted for inflation I would say an A today ought to be worth $20 at least. My kids have already put the grandkids on the pay for grades plan.

[Margies3]

when our boys were younger, we fell into the trap of discussing whether grades should be paid for or not. And then after lots of discussion with lots of people, for some reason, we decided not to. Now that our youngest is a Senior in high school, I wish we had NOT listened to those advised against paying for grades. If we had it to do all over again, I most certainly would have paid for the grades. Keith responds very well to money rewards and frankly, I am not above bribery to get the grades :)

[RandyWayne]

when our boys were younger, we fell into the trap of discussing whether grades should be paid for or not. And then after lots of discussion with lots of people, for some reason, we decided not to. Now that our youngest is a Senior in high school, I wish we had NOT listened to those advised against paying for grades. If we had it to do all over again, I most certainly would have paid for the grades. Keith responds very well to money rewards and frankly, I am not above bribery to get the grades :)

Shoot, people already do it to get visitors into church the first time. LOL

[Hoovie]

I Think it's important to discover and pursue each child's potential. While that may not always be an A, you do need to establish what is acceptable and within the child's reasonable limits. We don't pay money, but anything (exercise, test, or chapter) that is not mastered is repeated until they do get a B or above. With this knowledge going in they will generally give it a good shot up front.

[houston]

When I was in 2nd grade I got smacked for getting a B. That didn't exactly make me want to try harder.

[Truthseeker]

When I was in 2nd grade I got smacked for getting a B. That didn't exactly make me want to try harder.

Was cheaper then giving money! :)

[houston]

Was cheap giving money! :)

what?

[Truthseeker]

what?

oops. corrected.

[Timmy]

We gave our kids money for all grades. Grace, ya see. :lol

(j/k, btw ;))

[Jay]

My family would have been shocked at the concept of paying the children for grades. We were expected to do the best that we could, and if we failed to do so, then we were going to have trouble. When being graded, Mom flunked everything that was less than a C. Considering that we would have then had to do all the work again, it was just easier to do our best the first time around.

After a time, we were placed in a private school for a couple of years, and when we took the placement exams, we were told to answer the questions we could, and when we could no longer give answers, to stop. I answered questions, correctly I must add, that I had never seen before. This lead to me being placed a little ahead of grade level. My youngest brother goofed off and then had to do a lot of remedial work even though we all knew that he was better than that. To this day, I do not think he has ever made that mistake again.

[BrotherEastman]

I think paying for good grades is an exceptional idea, when my child gets into school I will probably pay him for good grades.

[jfrog]

The biggest thing in school is staying ahead of the curve and once you are there it is alot easier to maintain that place than it is to get there. Anything that helps a kid get ahead of that curve will help improve their grades for a long time.

[Nitehawk013]

I was going to bet paid $5 for every A and I think a dollar for the B's. My mom was on a very tight income though. When I brought home all A's, the system was changed. LOL.

I still was paid for good grades, just not as much. Mom wasn't banking on me getting straight A's pretty much right up to my sophmore year of High School.

I will pay my boy for good grades once they start using the ABCDF grading system.

[Timmy]

I just withhold food until the grades are good enough. :heeheehee

[Margies3]

I just withhold food until the grades are good enough. :heeheehee

that would work especially well for teenage boys.

[Timmy]

that would work especially well for teenage boys.

Yep. We had four of them! :lol

[Dalton]

I just withhold food until the grades are good enough. :heeheehee

If I may have everyones attention please...

I am collecting money for the "Timothy's Children" fund, any help appreciated.

http://images5.fanpop.com/image/photos/29100000/Auschwitz-holocaust-rememberance-29129136-412-305.jpg

[Timmy]

If I may have everyones attention please...

I am collecting money for the "Timothy's Children" fund, any help appreciated.

http://images5.fanpop.com/image/photos/29100000/Auschwitz-holocaust-rememberance-29129136-412-305.jpg

Well, the grades have come up, so it won't be necessary. :winkgrin

[Titus2woman]

With five children, four of whom were gifted, paying for grades was a major expense for us. Ken (the Ph.D.) tested post high school on the Stanford in the sixth grade. Straight A report cards were common. I felt that money is a primary motivator for seekng the higher education and better employment that can affect one's entire life. I never wanted to see our boys struggle the way Don and I did with our 8th grade educations and many very hard jobs and it has has worked.

Ken's dissertation was on leadership. I am still reading it... but even I had no idea my kid was THAT smart. :)

[Michael Phelps]

With five children, four of whom were gifted, paying for grades was a major expense for us. Ken (the Ph.D.) tested post high school on the Stanford in the sixth grade. Straight A report cards were common. I felt that money is a primary motivator for seekng the higher education and better employment that can affect one's entire life. I never wanted to see our boys struggle the way Don and I did with our 8th grade educations and many very hard jobs and it has has worked.

Ken's dissertation was on leadership. I am still reading it... but even I had no idea my kid was THAT smart. :)

Good for you and your husband, you obviously did something very right!!!!:highfive

We always paid our kids for A's and B's.......just like you, we never paid for C's. I think it's a great concept to prepare them for life. I get a bonus on my job if I get an A rating for performance, which is over and above my regular salary - why not do the same thing for our kids?

[AreYouReady?]

I did not pay my children for good grades, though I am not opposed for anybody else to do so.

I figured that since offering to pay them to do work around the house did not work well...

My oldest son likes to work with his hands and he likes mechanics...so he went and got an AS degree in Auto Mechanics. That was all the schooling he wanted.

My other son likes the finer things in life...so we told him he better make good grades and graduate with at least a BS degree. God willing ...that will happen in 3 weeks with a bio-chemistry major. Graduate school starts in one month.

[bbyrd009]

...Graduate school starts in one month.

Woo-hoo! I am happy for you.
My parents promised money for grades, and then reneged; or forgot.
Same diff to a kid. The whole concept actually seems kind of ridic,
and I would prolly go with Timmy's method, lol.

Ha, so easy to postulate when you're childless.
If it took $100 an A to motivate a kid, I'd call it money well spent.
I might cry over the fact that it takes $ to motivate them--after graduation.

[AreYouReady?]

Thanks bbyrd. We are proud of his accomplishments. He is an honor student. I attribute his secret to staying in school and being an honor student is staying away from serious relationships with girls. ;)

He even said that he doesn't want to marry until he accomplish his goals so....

[bbyrd009]

Thanks bbyrd. We are proud of his accomplishments. He is an honor student. I attribute his secret to staying in school and being an honor student is staying away from serious relationships with girls. ;)

He even said that he doesn't want to marry until he accomplish his goals so....
Ha, cool. I recently had this vision that the best time to have kids, counter to the way we do it, is when you're like, 60, lol.

[AreYouReady?]

I have noticed that so many young people do not seem to know the steps they should take when growing up. I've seen so many write on their Myspace that after graduation, they are going to live with their boyfriend, have a baby, then get married in a big wedding. :blink

[AreYouReady?]

I was always taught the opposite.

The generation gap I had with my parents seem pale to today's generation gap.

[Jay]

I would not call it a generation gap but rather a morality gap.

[AreYouReady?]

Not all of my generation live by moral ideals.

We were the generation that burned bras, free love, Woodstock is a good example, having a good time in the bars and dance halls, drugs and alcohol. I'm afraid that many of our generation did not teach our children those needed morals. We were the detriment to our children. The sixties and seventies were volatile years with psychedelic music and visual "trips".

However, there are many of us who do teach our children, but peer pressure lures them away.

It is the grace of God that many young people do have morals and love God in this generation. I want them to grow up to be our leaders in this country and for God.

[Jay]

I agree with you entirely (missed the whole bra burning stunts by being born twenty years afterward).


I believe that the militant feminist movement is the reason that so many of our young men are gay. There have always been those who were homosexual, however they were far fewer than they are today. This rise also appears to correspond with the rise of militant feminists who claimed that men were the problem for everything that has ever occured. In fact, the militant feminist movement is very active in pushing the pro-homosexual agenda.

[bbyrd009]

I agree with you entirely (missed the whole bra burning stunts by being born twenty years afterward).


I believe that the militant feminist movement is the reason that so many of our young men are gay. There have always been those who were homosexual, however they were far fewer than they are today. This rise also appears to correspond with the rise of militant feminists who claimed that men were the problem for everything that has ever occured. In fact, the militant feminist movement is very active in pushing the pro-homosexual agenda.

I have to agree.

[AreYouReady?]

I agree with you entirely (missed the whole bra burning stunts by being born twenty years afterward).

Be glad. You did not miss anything of real importance.


I believe that the militant feminist movement is the reason that so many of our young men are gay. There have always been those who were homosexual, however they were far fewer than they are today.

Perhaps.

I would also say that the chemicals in our food and especially in the plastic containers likewise play a role in it. It is said that the chemical in plastic containers called Bisphenol A has synthetic estrogen properties in it which can accumulate in a male's blood stream and tissues. While this cannot be blamed for people being gay in the past, it may be one causative for the increase in the present. It's considered to be just a theory at the moment...why would any male want to willingly be a subject for testing this theory?

There is also the theory that given the explosion of breast cancer in women, that this might be counted as a cause?

http://www.thedailygreen.com/environmental-news/latest/bisphenol-a-47091707




This rise also appears to correspond with the rise of militant feminists who claimed that men were the problem for everything that has ever occured. In fact, the militant feminist movement is very active in pushing the pro-homosexual agenda.

Yeah. I don't ascribe to that mentality that those women have. The problems facing the genders are a result of both genders going against God's will and powerful outside forces propagating the problems for the sake of social engineering to what they want society to be.

Speaking from a woman's point of view, I do believe though, that women should be self-sufficient because there are many variables that can happen in one's lifetime. We cannot always count on someone human to be there for us.

[Jay]

Be glad. You did not miss anything of real importance.




Perhaps.

I would also say that the chemicals in our food and especially in the plastic containers likewise play a role in it. It is said that the chemical in plastic containers called Bisphenol A has synthetic estrogen properties in it which can accumulate in a male's blood stream and tissues. While this cannot be blamed for people being gay in the past, it may be one causative for the increase in the present. It's considered to be just a theory at the moment...why would any male want to willingly be a subject for testing this theory?

There is also the theory that given the explosion of breast cancer in women, that this might be counted as a cause?

http://www.thedailygreen.com/environmental-news/latest/bisphenol-a-47091707






Yeah. I don't ascribe to that mentality that those women have. The problems facing the genders are a result of both genders going against God's will and powerful outside forces propagating the problems for the sake of social engineering to what they want society to be.

Speaking from a woman's point of view, I do believe though, that women should be self-sufficient because there are many variables that can happen in one's lifetime. We cannot always count on someone human to be there for us.



I am not going to disagree with anything that you have posted. I believe that there are many factors, and that millitant feminism is only one of them, although doubtless a major one.

On the issue of women being able to support themselves, there is no disagreement. I would say that there are certain positions that a woman should not hold, but they are actually rather few in comparison to what was available years ago. Having said this, I have found through my study of history that it is late 20th century myth (perpetuated by the feminist movement) that women have been bound to their homes, husbands, and children with no opportunities to improve herself or her situation. Though recorded history, there are women owning businesses, workiing out side of the home, farming, ranching, preaching, to name only a very few things.

[AreYouReady?]

Having said this, I have found through my study of history that it is late 20th century myth (perpetuated by the feminist movement) that women have been bound to their homes, husbands, and children with no opportunities to improve herself or her situation. Though recorded history, there are women owning businesses, workiing out side of the home, farming, ranching, preaching, to name only a very few things.

I can agree with this. Even Proverbs 31 talks about the virtuous woman.

I wonder how the myth that women were stuck at home got started? Never mind...I know. I lived during those years when hollywood made movies, commercials on television, and pop songs sang about women being able to be superwomen.

Reality is...they did not tell us that while we can have a career, home, children, pay taxes, the latest fashions, have wall-to-wall carpet and two late model cars in the double garage...that some quality of life will suffer in exchange for all that. Most of us had to learn that the hard way, by experience.

Those who are the movers and shakers of social engineering don't care because they are the ones who gain monetarily and the homes and children are the ones to suffer for the movers and shakers of social engineering's monetary gain.

[Jay]

I can agree with this. Even Proverbs 31 talks about the virtuous woman.

I wonder how the myth that women were stuck at home got started? Never mind...I know. I lived during those years when hollywood made movies, commercials on television, and pop songs sang about women being able to be superwomen.

Reality is...they did not tell us that while we can have a career, home, children, pay taxes, the latest fashions, have wall-to-wall carpet and two late model cars in the double garage...that some quality of life will suffer in exchange for all that. Most of us had to learn that the hard way, by experience.

Those who are the movers and shakers of social engineering don't care because they are the ones who gain monetarily and the homes and children are the ones to suffer for the movers and shakers of social engineering's monetary gain.


I believe that even the radical feminist Gloria Steinem settled down for a number of years with a husband, and yet claimed that other women who would do so were being enslaved. Funny, they want one thing for themselves, but something else for the rest of us. It is really a sad and pathetic world that we live in.

When I was growing up, I would occasionally be glared at if I held the door open for a woman. I understood even as a young teenager what was really going on (I still hold the door open for ladies, most seem to appreciate it now).

[berkeley]

I believe that even the radical feminist Gloria Steinem settled down for a number of years with a husband, and yet claimed that other women who would do so were being enslaved. Funny, they want one thing for themselves, but something else for the rest of us. It is really a sad and pathetic world that we live in.
When I was growing up, I would occasionally be glared at if I held the door open for a woman. I understood even as a young teenager what was really going on (I still hold the door open for ladies, most seem to appreciate it now).:smack

Steinem had in the past been critical of the institution of marriage, stating that "marriage was the model for slavery law in this country".[6] She explained her change in attitude toward marriage, saying 'I didn't change. Marriage changed. We spent 30 years in the United States changing the marriage laws. If I had married when I was supposed to get married, I would have lost my name, my legal residence, my credit rating, many of my civil rights. That's not true anymore. It's possible to make an equal marriage'.[7]

[Jay]

She has no clue as to what she is talking about. Ask Fanny J. Crosby about all of that.

[berkeley]

what?