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Aquila
04-24-2012, 09:52 AM
In the book of Malachi we have a very powerful and moving prophesy that reads:

Malachi 4:5-6
English Standard Version (ESV)
5 “Behold, I will send you Elijah the prophet before the great and awesome day of the Lord comes. 6 And he will turn the hearts of fathers to their children and the hearts of children to their fathers, lest I come and strike the land with a decree of utter destruction.”

What I want to draw your attention to is the statement, “he will turn the hearts of fathers to their children and the hearts of children to their fathers”.

In today’s society broken homes are all around us. A great number of fathers have abandoned their partners and children. Due to this trend several generations of young people have been left fatherless. While this is a very terrible situation, it’s not much different in the church.

In ancient times the church gathered in homes forming smaller close-knit communities of believers. The terms “brother” and “sister” were not formal titles of those in membership, but were rather true terms of endearment that illustrated a spiritual reality. They actually saw each other as spiritual brothers and sisters, a family. The elders of the early church didn’t serve as CEO’s or managers of a religious organization. But rather they served as spiritual fathers in this family of God. The love and tenderness one would expect to see in an earthly father was spiritually manifest in the elders, the spiritual fathers of the church.

We can see this relationship and the depth of its tenderness and intimacy in the words of Paul as he writes about Timothy, his son in the Gospel:

Philippians 2:21-24
English Standard Version (ESV)
21 For they all seek their own interests, not those of Jesus Christ. 22 But you know Timothy's proven worth, how as a son with a father he has served with me in the gospel. 23 I hope therefore to send him just as soon as I see how it will go with me, 24 and I trust in the Lord that shortly I myself will come also.

You see, Timothy was Paul’s adopted son in the Gospel. Paul didn’t see himself as merely an evangelist that advised and served with Timothy. No. The relationship was deeper in Paul’s heart. It was a relationship wherein Paul accepted the responsibility of spiritual fatherhood and saw Timothy as a dear spiritual son. This is the kind of relationship that should exist between spiritual leaders in the church and those they serve. Paul wrote to the Corinthians:

1 Corinthians 4:14-16
English Standard Version (ESV)
14 I do not write these things to make you ashamed, but to admonish you as my beloved children. 15 For though you have countless guides in Christ, you do not have many fathers. For I became your father in Christ Jesus through the gospel. 16 I urge you, then, be imitators of me.

Paul recognized that the Corinthians had countless advisors and men of theological understanding. However, they were lacking spiritual fathers. And so the believers were spiritually fatherless. Paul illustrates that he became their spiritual father in Christ Jesus through the gospel. Paul urged them to be imitators of him. In other words, they were to open up and become spiritual fathers to the new believers in the church as he was a spiritual father to them.

With the growth of religious organizations throughout the world the church has become more of a corporate organization than a family. As a result elders serve more like CEO’s and business managers than spiritual fathers. This has stunted the growth of the church and caused spiritual immaturity to set into the body. Most don’t realize that it’s God’s desire that the entire church be active in ministry and service. However, most haven’t progressed beyond being a babe in Christ. They are still “on the milk” sitting on pews. They are not growing. Young people are taught and disciplined in the ways of life until they become young adults. It is here that they begin to spread their wings and find their way with their fathers and mothers at their side. Ultimately they will become adults who will in turn bear their own children. Spiritually speaking, we are not nurturing entire generations of believers to move beyond sitting in a pew and sucking down milk. Spiritually speaking, spiritual fathers must train up young men in the Lord to not only know the Bible (dissemination of facts), but to prepare for spiritual fatherhood themselves. Because if they are healthy, they will give birth to spiritual children. The entire “family structure” of the church has become so corporate the terms “brother”, “sister”, and “elder” are just formalities. They are no longer terms of endearment that speak to a spiritual reality. We’ll call a man “brother” because he attends our church…without even truly knowing him, or caring that we don’t.

Writing to the church the Apostle John stated:

1 John 2:12-14
King James Version (KJV)
12I write unto you, little children, because your sins are forgiven you for his name's sake.
13I write unto you, fathers, because ye have known him that is from the beginning. I write unto you, young men, because ye have overcome the wicked one. I write unto you, little children, because ye have known the Father.
14I have written unto you, fathers, because ye have known him that is from the beginning. I have written unto you, young men, because ye are strong, and the word of God abideth in you, and ye have overcome the wicked one.

Children, young men, and fathers. John saw the church as a family, not an organization. Where did this reality go? You’ll find that as congregations grew larger and larger intimacy faded. Now it’s safe to say that half of the average church doesn’t know the other half. Sometimes in even larger congregations any quarter of the church doesn’t know the other three quarters of the church. They come to church, shake hands, smile, maybe serve in a program, listen to the worship concert, hear a sermon, and then maybe go out to eat. After that… they go on their merry way into their individual lives. The church is more like a broken family of orphaned children than a strong, vibrant, and spiritual family.

TO BE CONTINUED...

Aquila
04-24-2012, 09:52 AM
CONTINUED:

But Malachi wrote,

And he will turn the hearts of fathers to their children and the hearts of children to their fathers

Enter the renewal of the house church/cell church movement. In house churches we are beginning to see a growing trend towards elders serving a “spiritual fathers” who are serving “spiritual children” in the Lord. They do not lord over God’s heritage, but rather they lovingly nurture them to spiritual maturity. A rebuke is often so tender and loving, you can’t help but thank the elder for speaking to you about something in your spiritual journey. A far cry from the shrill “hell fire” and “turn or burn” rants by men who are normally too busy to really sit down and be a spiritual mentor to you that we see in pulpits today. In fact, many of the things written in the Bible to fathers can be applied to being an elder. For example:

Colossians 3:21
English Standard Version (ESV)
21 Fathers, do not provoke your children, lest they become discouraged.

Ephesians 6:4
English Standard Version (ESV)
Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger, but bring them up in the discipline and instruction of the Lord.

Notice, fathers are admonished not to provoke spiritual children. Why? Because they become discouraged, feeling like they can never please their spiritual fathers? How many times have we heard a spiritually abused child of God explain that they felt like they could never please their elder? They felt like they were never good enough in the eyes of ministry. They felt like they were never allowed to grow spiritually, they were never given wings to grow into all that God was calling them to be? Elders are to be spiritual fathers… not lords of their own personal tiny kingdoms, sheltered and protected from criticism by religious organization and hierarchy. As I attend house churches and speak to so many sincere Holy Ghost filled believers I hear story after story of misunderstandings, abuse, disillusionment, and discouragement. These things need not be! Where are those willing to serve as spiritual fathers??? Oh, like the Corinthians we have many guides and theologians among us… but we have not many fathers! We don’t have enough spiritual dads! We are a broken family. Not every church can be a house church. And house churches aren’t for everyone. However, churches need to do far more to cultivate the spiritual family. Rather they be cell groups, house churches, or fellowship groups (whatever we want to call them), we need a setting where spiritual fathers can speak to spiritual children and young people about maturing into the image of Jesus. A place that’s safe for confession because it is full of grace and restoration, a place where real spiritual and emotional healing can take place.

Note the beautiful words of Paul written to the Thessalonians:


1 Thessalonians 2:10-12
English Standard Version (ESV)
10 You are witnesses, and God also, how holy and righteous and blameless was our conduct toward you believers. 11 For you know how, like a father with his children, 12 we exhorted each one of you and encouraged you and charged you to walk in a manner worthy of God, who calls you into his own kingdom and glory.

How beautiful. “Like a father with his children”. Paul didn’t come into town beating a drum and screaming hellfire into the microphone. Paul, came to them as a spiritual father. And they received him as his own spiritual children.

Paul writes to Timothy about how spiritual children are to treat their spiritual elders,

1 Timothy 5:1-3
English Standard Version (ESV)
5 Do not rebuke an older man but encourage him as you would a father, younger men as brothers, 2 older women as mothers, younger women as sisters, in all purity.
3 Honor widows who are truly widows.

Look at how we are to treat our elders. We are to treat elders in the Lord as fathers. We are to see younger men as brothers. We are to see older women as mothers. And we are to see younger women as sisters. The terms father, mother, brother, and sister are not meant to be formalities… but spiritual realities. Religious organization and business model as blinded us from the realities of the family of God.

Speaking of Onesimus, Paul refers to his becoming a father. If Paul adopted Timothy in the Lord, Paul birthed Onesimus:


Philemon 1:8-11
English Standard Version (ESV)
8 Accordingly, though I am bold enough in Christ to command you to do what is required, 9 yet for love's sake I prefer to appeal to you—I, Paul, an old man and now a prisoner also for Christ Jesus— 10 I appeal to you for my child, Onesimus, whose father I became in my imprisonment. 11 (Formerly he was useless to you, but now he is indeed useful to you and to me.)

I am having faith that God is seeking to restore this vital relationship to the church. Perhaps you can, like Paul, adopt a Timothy, a son in the Gospel. You can build a relationship with him, take him into your home, nurture him spiritually. Be a spiritual father. Perhaps you can take a young lady and be a spiritual mother, teaching her the things of biblical womanhood. And children and young men/women… you have to get beyond the pain of the abusive elders you’ve had. You have to confide and learn to trust again. You have to allow those called of God to be your spiritual mothers and fathers to enter your life. God desires to turn the hearts of the fathers towards their children, and the hearts of their children to their fathers once more.

And think of the legacy. Who will be your spiritual grandchildren? I read a story about a man who opened up his farm for a Bible study for teenagers. He spiritually fathered one of the young men who grew up to go to Bible college and enter the pastorate. That young man become a pastor spiritually fathered a man from Africa who in turn launched a missionary revival reaching thousands of his fellow Africans. Ever been to a family reunion and watched the grandparents and great grandparents shine as they see their progeny? Imagine what Heaven will be like for this man who thought he was merely teaching a Bible study on his farm! He isn’t a no-body. Like Abraham….he is a father of many nations! That’s his spiritual family.

It’s time to be a family once again. Who will fight to save this spiritual family?

Jay
04-24-2012, 09:48 PM
I do not know that I will wholly agree or disagree with you on this one. I do believe that the older saints in the church should seek to aid the youth in becoming actively involved in the life of the church. Everyone has their place. I have heard of churches where the sound and computer men were actually youths in their mid-teens.

I was actively involved in teaching Sunday School, ushering, and greeting before I was 17 years old. I was also used occasionally in Youth Service to read a portion of Scripture. All of these things helped to ground and involve me in the life of the church. I was also privileged to spend some time with the Song Leader and his wife, and the Youth Pastor and his wife.

berkeley
04-24-2012, 10:06 PM
Fulfilled by John the Baptist.

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