What women want::::::::::

[berkeley]

I asked my *friend*, what is it that women want?

she said:
"...it all depends on the woman. ...One common need/desire [is] to feel secure. Security covers a lot of things..."


I am not satisfied with this answer!!! It's time for the WOMEN to speak up!!!!!

[rgcraig]

To be accepted for who we are.

To be respected.

To be loved.

[berkeley]

To be accepted for who we are.

To be respected.

To be loved.

Thanks for your reply, Renda. I knew I could count on you!!

[berkeley]

To be accepted for who we are.


I think a lot of young women in the church become what they think the guy wants. That really irritates me. How can we accept her for who she is, if she's not herself?? Make sense?

[rgcraig]

I think a lot of young women in the church become what they think the guy wants. That really irritates me. How can we accept her for who she is, if she's not herself?? Make sense?

Yes, I know what you mean and girls don't get it.

The old saying:
Women marry hoping to change their husband and men marry hoping their wife stays the same.

[berkeley]

Yes, I know what you mean and girls don't get it.

Well, I blame it on their mentors!!

[Digging4Truth]

I think a lot of young women in the church become what they think the guy wants. That really irritates me. How can we accept her for who she is, if she's not herself?? Make sense?



All that can come from both sides of the fence too.

I remember teaching a SS Class one and were speaking of modest apparel and the girls were mostly in on the conversation but the guys had their little "that's right" comments along the way.

When we were nearing the end I turned to the guys and said "And don't let me catch you guys oogling over women in clothes that you just agreed that these ladies don't need to be wearing. What kind of a mixed signal does it send when we tell our girls that we shouldn't wear this or shouldn't wear that and then our guys go all nuts when someone else comes along wearing the same thing. Whatever you feel should be worn in modesty is the same standard that you should set for what you look for and show approval to. Anything else is confusing and disingenuous."

[berkeley]

Not a standards thread! Please don't tie that in here... PLEASE!!!

[berkeley]

Well, I'm real after a few meetings. Shy at first. But, I'm really growing out of that, thank the Lord!

[Digging4Truth]

Not a standards thread! Please don't tie that in here... PLEASE!!!

I apologize if it was taken as such...

The post was about how our attitudes can cause the very issues you were speaking of.

[rgcraig]

Not a standards thread! Please don't tie that in here... PLEASE!!!

That's a valid point Berk - There are mixed signals whether it's clothing or the way they act. The guy wants someone all experienced and "hot", but when it's time to marry he wants the pure perfect girl - - mixed signal.

[tbpew]

To be accepted for who we are.

To be respected.

To be loved.
rgcraig,
would you please shared what actions, or how you would interprete actions, of a male as exhibiting "respect".

thanks in advance.

[berkeley]

That's a valid point Berk - There are mixed signals whether it's clothing or the way they act. The guy wants someone all experienced and "hot", but when it's time to marry he wants the pure perfect girl - - mixed signal.

That is like second nature. I think every guy wants to sew his royal oats before he gets married. But, he wants his virgin bride.

[revrandy]

Is this a singles thread or can married folks post??

[berkeley]

I should have been more clear. I found it a common thing amongst the ladies to share their list of things that she thinks impresses the guy that she is trying to capture, maybe in hopes that he is the next rising star, err..I mean, the next great evangelist.

Time and time again.... it goes something like this...

"I just love the Lord. I never cut my hair. Church is so awesome. I pray xx amount of minutes a day..."

ETC.. ETC.. Stuff like that does not impress this guy. Yeah, important, but grief! The poor guy did not ask her to recite the AOF and her statement of faith.

[berkeley]

Is this a singles thread or can married folks post??

Post on....

[Digging4Truth]

That is like second nature. I think every guy wants to sew his royal oats before he gets married. But, he wants his virgin bride.

Then perhaps men should decide what they want as well. :)

[berkeley]

Then perhaps men should decide what they want as well. :)

They want both. Some of them do get both.

[Digging4Truth]

They want both. Some of them do get both.

As you might have already deciphered I don't subscribe to the "boys will be boys" mentality where this type of mindset is viewed as simply normal male thinking other than in the sense that it might be normal human un-regenerated male thinking.

I don't see it as acceptable among those who profess Christianity in the least.

But a severe lack of teaching in this area simply leaves the animal instinct to run the show. A sad state.

[revrandy]

Maturity plays as much into relationships as does age...

but when two folks fall in "love" it's not love until they been married for about 5 years...most folks don't understand this fall out of like and get divorced...

Concerning what Women want in a relationship is the same commitment from the other party they are commited too...

Love doesn't make it happen all the time so when Love is out on a break commitment steps in until love comes back...

[berkeley]

As you might have already deciphered I don't subscribe to the "boys will be boys" mentality where this type of mindset is viewed as simply normal male thinking other than in the sense that it might be normal human un-regenerated male thinking.

I don't see it as acceptable among those who profess Christianity in the least.

But a severe lack of teaching in this area simply leaves the animal instinct to run the show. A sad state.

I don't think it is right. It is almost very common. I am grieved to think that if the trend continues, it will be the norm.

[Digging4Truth]

Maturity plays as much into relationships as does age...

but when two folks fall in "love" it's not love until they been married for about 5 years...most folks don't understand this fall out of like and get divorced...

Concerning what Women want in a relationship is the same commitment from the other party they are commited too...

Love doesn't make it happen all the time so when Love is out on a break commitment steps in until love comes back...

Bravo.

[berkeley]

Maturity plays as much into relationships as does age...

but when two folks fall in "love" it's not love until they been married for about 5 years...most folks don't understand this fall out of like and get divorced...

Concerning what Women want in a relationship is the same commitment from the other party they are commited too...

Love doesn't make it happen all the time so when Love is out on a break commitment steps in until love comes back...

Mom has eight siblings. All have been divorced. Only 2 have not remarried.

Step dad has nine siblings. One is dead. He did not divorce. One other is still married to his first wife. One sister, her husband died. One brother lost his wife to cancer.

The rest have divorced and remarried. Two divorced, again. Blah.. it's hard to keep up with these people!!

Mom and step dad, well.. DIVORCE. She has been married and divorced twice!! And she did not marry my father...

This is all really sickening.

[Margies3]

We went to a marriage seminar a couple of years ago. They told us there that men want to be told that they are appreciated and admired. Women want to be told that they are loved.

If a woman says to her husband all day long "I love you", she won't get the same response as she will if she says to her husband, "thank you so much for fixing the plumbing. I could never have done that myself."

At the same time, if a man says to a woman "Thank you for doing laundry", it won't get as much response as if he says to her, "You are so beautiful and I just love you so much. I would give my life for you."

We came home and tried it and believe it or not, the guy was right!

[berkeley]

We went to a marriage seminar a couple of years ago. They told us there that men want to be told that they are appreciated and admired. Women want to be told that they are loved.

If a woman says to her husband all day long "I love you", she won't get the same response as she will if she says to her husband, "thank you so much for fixing the plumbing. I could never have done that myself."

At the same time, if a man says to a woman "Thank you for doing laundry", it won't get as much response as if he says to her, "You are so beautiful and I just love you so much. I would give my life for you."

We came home and tried it and believe it or not, the guy was right!

Taking notes:
tell future Mrs. V, or S... "baby, I love you... hey, I'm outta clean socks.."

[tbpew]

We went to a marriage seminar a couple of years ago. They told us there that men want to be told that they are appreciated and admired. Women want to be told that they are loved.

If a woman says to her husband all day long "I love you", she won't get the same response as she will if she says to her husband, "thank you so much for fixing the plumbing. I could never have done that myself."

At the same time, if a man says to a woman "Thank you for doing laundry", it won't get as much response as if he says to her, "You are so beautiful and I just love you so much. I would give my life for you."

We came home and tried it and believe it or not, the guy was right!

I now find myself in a pickle:
I can AMEN the part about the male (I are one)
But that means I :poloroidhave to consider the POV of the female (which I am married to one).

Oh boy....is eye contact required ALSO!

[berkeley]

Back to the topic!! WOMEN... what do you want??? Come on!! Help a guy out!!!

[Digging4Truth]

Taking notes:
tell future Mrs. V, or S... "baby, I love you... hey, I'm outta clean socks.."

I would separate the first & the second parts of that statement by several hours. :)

Or even better.... clean your own socks. It's not that complicated really. :)

[berkeley]

I would separate the first & the second parts of that statement by several hours. :)

Or even better.... clean your own socks. It's not that complicated really. :)

:sly

[revrandy]

Back to the topic!! WOMEN... what do you want??? Come on!! Help a guy out!!!

What answer are you looking for Berk?

[berkeley]

What answer are you looking for Berk?

I don't really know. :hmmm But, I want the input of every active female poster!!!!

[WordPreacher]

The old saying:
Women marry hoping to change their husband and men marry hoping their wife stays the same.

Amen on that Sister!!! My wife has tried to change me, but of course, she never has been able to do that, but God has been changing some things in and that is of course, happening.

I will admit here that my wife is right many times on some things that she has said.

[revrandy]

Somebody said go into marriage with both eyes OPEN...


and after your married....CLOSE ONE!!

:D

[berkeley]

Yes, I know what you mean and girls don't get it.

The old saying:
Women marry hoping to change their husband and men marry hoping their wife stays the same.

That is true! The man stays the same.... the wife changes!! ugh!!!

[Praxeas]

I think a lot of young women in the church become what they think the guy wants. That really irritates me. How can we accept her for who she is, if she's not herself?? Make sense?


Right, they should be honest and just admit all they want is a dude with money! :sly

[revrandy]

Right, they should be honest and just admit all they want is a dude with money! :sly

Every woman's dream.....:lol

[berkeley]

Right, they should be honest and just admit all they want is a dude with money! :sly

Every woman's dream.....:lol

If country music has taught me anything, it is this:

A high maintenance woman don't want no maintenance man....

[WordPreacher]

Right, they should be honest and just admit all they want is a dude with money! :sly

Amen Bro!!!!

[Monkeyman]

Well, thankfully my wife wanted a monkey-like dude with a bad attitude!

[Praxeas]

http://www.cartoonstock.com/newscartoons/cartoonists/mba/lowres/mban125l.jpg

[tbpew]

It is a true sign of the times when a phrase like "she is HIGH maintenance" is actually considered complementary by many who are called that.

Can anyone say "worshipping an image"?

[rgcraig]

I now find myself in a pickle:
I can AMEN the part about the male (I are one)
But that means I :poloroidhave to consider the POV of the female (which I am married to one).

Oh boy....is eye contact required ALSO!

LOL....does help reinforce your efforts! :lol

[rgcraig]

rgcraig,
would you please share what actions, or how you would interprete actions, of a male as exhibiting "respect".

thanks in advance.

Sorry - been a busy day.

Respect.......
.........show me you care about my opinions, my ideas.
.........no "wife" jokes to your friends
.........be proud of me when I am with you
.........back me in a decision I've made (previously discussed of course)

[rgcraig]

Right, they should be honest and just admit all they want is a dude with money! :sly

Not true. One that at least works and makes more than I do, but not rich.

[Subdued]

Not true. One that at least works and makes more than I do, but not rich.

Hmmm... I seem to recall you having a different opinion the other day! LOL :lol :sshhh

[Pragmatist]

One that makes enough money that with careful budgeting, I can stay home.

And loves me for who I am.

And is a spiritual leader.

[tbpew]

Sorry - been a busy day.

Respect.......
.........show me you care about my opinions, my ideas.
.........no "wife" jokes to your friends
.........be proud of me when I am with you
.........back me in a decision I've made (previously discussed of course)
does the above insight come on laminated magnetic shaving mirror 3x5 cards?

[tbpew]

One that makes enough money that with careful budgeting, I can stay home.

And loves me for who I am.

And is a spiritual leader.

What do you look for in a spiritual leader?

[rgcraig]

does the above insight come on laminated magnetic shaving mirror 3x5 cards?

I'm sure I could arrange for one......:poloroid

THe advice does come free - - lol!

[WordPreacher]

I think a lot of young women in the church become what they think the guy wants. That really irritates me. How can we accept her for who she is, if she's not herself?? Make sense?



I would think that women would want what God wants them to have. Example: having God pick your spouse.

[Timmy]

Sorry - been a busy day.

Respect.......
.........show me you care about my opinions, my ideas.
.........no "wife" jokes to your friends
.........be proud of me when I am with you
.........back me in a decision I've made (previously discussed of course)

Some women don't mind wife jokes. I mean, take my wife. Please! :lol

[rgcraig]

......we look at your shoes, so nice shoes guys - - LOL!!!!

[rgcraig]

Some women don't mind wife jokes. I mean, take my wife. Please! :lol

LOL.....that coming from the guy that want "A LITTLE RESPECT".......lol!

[Subdued]

Hmmm... I seem to recall you having a different opinion the other day! LOL :lol :sshhh

Bumping for Renda. :D

[berkeley]

I would think that women would want what God wants them to have. Example: having God pick your spouse.

Oh please! *POOF* and the guy falls out of the sky!! I think not!

[Pragmatist]

What do you look for in a spiritual leader?

Strong relationship with God

Willing and able to stand up to me and say this is in the best spiritual interest of our family and that's what we'll do

Secure enough in himself that he isn't controlling

[rgcraig]

Bumping for Renda. :D

YOUR dream about my future husband doesn't count.....:sly

[WordPreacher]

Oh please! *POOF* and the guy falls out of the sky!! I think not!

You don't believe in God sending a woman her spouse?

BTW, sometimes it takes years before it happens and I have never seen any sent by God by Poofing them there right then. I never said the guy would fall out of the sky either.

[Evang.Benincasa]

I asked my *friend*, what is it that women want?

They want to preach and pastor churches.

[berkeley]

They want to preach and pastor churches.

:lol

[Evang.Benincasa]

I asked my *friend*, what is it that women want?

They want to be the church prophetess, and do tongues and interpretations at the end of every service.

[berkeley]

They want to be the church prophetess, and do tongues and interpretations at the end of every service.

:sly

[berkeley]

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[berkeley]

Tomorrow I am sending her this, If I remember.... and I am hoping she does not get it till the weekend is over with.. :lol


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[berkeley]

but seriously.. I'd like more input from the women!!! I know there's more women members than the few that responded!!

[Felicity]

but seriously.. I'd like more input from the women!!! I know there's more women members than the few that responded!!Just read this thread.

Perhaps I'll chime in later with my own thoughts.

[berkeley]

Just read this thread.

Perhaps I'll chime in later with my own thoughts.

Okay, I appreciate it!

[Trouvere]

Go and buy the book Love Languages.Different women want and need
different things.If you can figure out how the person you care for receives love then you have it.You can do those things and it works.
For instance I feel like my husband loves me when he does things for me
and buys me small gifts and cards.For some women that is a big thing.
Some need to hear how you feel.Some need words of encouragement.
Do yourself a favor.Read the book I suggested.


BTW women want men who pray and lead the family without stamping out
their identity.They want real men to use the words of Sister Carson
who sweat right and spit white.lol...no girly men.

[ILG]

To be accepted for who we are.

To be respected.

To be loved.

Amen. This means respecting our feminine feelings and not expecting us to be men in a woman's body. ;)

[Pragmatist]

Go and buy the book Love Languages.Different women want and need
different things.If you can figure out how the person you care for receives love then you have it.You can do those things and it works.
For instance I feel like my husband loves me when he does things for me
and buys me small gifts and cards.For some women that is a big thing.
Some need to hear how you feel.Some need words of encouragement.
Do yourself a favor.Read the book I suggested.


BTW women want men who pray and lead the family without stamping out
their identity.They want real men to use the words of Sister Carson
who sweat right and spit white.lol...no girly men.

I second the suggestion of the book. I think it's by Gary Chapman.

I couldn't care less about cards and gifts. I tell my husband not to waste the money. I need him to tell me he loves me and that I'm beautiful.

It really is a good book and makes a lot of sense when you figure out what a person's love language is.

[ILG]

Strong relationship with God

Willing and able to stand up to me and say this is in the best spiritual interest of our family and that's what we'll do

Secure enough in himself that he isn't controlling

Some guys really get these two mixed up.

[Sheltiedad]

What women want?

They say they don't know, and why don't you suggest something... then when you do, they shoot your suggestions down and tell you what they want... try it, it works every time! :D

[ILG]

What women want?

They say they don't know, and why don't you suggest something... then when you do, they shoot your suggestions down and tell you what they want... try it, it works every time! :D

This isn't because women are trying to manipulate necessarily (some might be, I guess). Sometimes women need to explore who they are and who you are and the dialogue is what brings things out.

[Sheltiedad]

This isn't because women are trying to manipulate necessarily (some might be, I guess). Sometimes women need to explore who they are and who you are and the dialogue is what brings things out.

I'm just talking about where to go for lunch though... :D

[Emma Bontrager]

I'm just talking about where to go for lunch though... :D

You should not be going anywhere for lunch. She should be making it at home for you.

[Emma Bontrager]

I was asked to come over here and give my expert, holy advice. What do women want? A man, of course. Duh.

[Sheltiedad]

You should not be going anywhere for lunch. She should be making it at home for you.

I know, I need to have Stephen Hoover come talk to my wife... I want home-made pies every night! (just kidding, Stephen - I know you aren't that way in real life).

[Emma Bontrager]

I know, I need to have Stephen Hoover come talk to my wife... I want home-made pies every night! (just kidding, Stephen - I know you aren't that way in real life).

Stephen went English. What does he know.

[Sheltiedad]

Shun him!!!!!

[Hoovie]

I know, I need to have Stephen Hoover come talk to my wife... I want home-made pies every night! (just kidding, Stephen - I know you aren't that way in real life).

On the second peach Pie this week. Yes, she made them!

[Trouvere]

I know, I need to have Stephen Hoover come talk to my wife... I want home-made pies every night! (just kidding, Stephen - I know you aren't that way in real life).

ummm....yes Stephen is an all America knows it now..:killinme
She makes the pies and he Sweeps Up.

[Hoovie]

ummm....yes Stephen is an all America knows it now..:killinme
She makes the pies and he Sweeps Up.

Thats about it!:sshhh I'm off to sweep chimneys for the day.

[Trouvere]

Thats about it!:sshhh I'm off to sweep chimneys for the day.

I knew it was a clean affair.

[Emma Bontrager]

On the second peach Pie this week. Yes, she made them!

Yeah. ENGLISH peach pies. Hmmph.

[ForeverBlessed]

feeling secure and provided for in most everything is important... to me anyway... that is not just financial.. goes much deeper than that.

Spiritual leadership in home and personality is a must for me.. I am kinda quiet and serious most of the time... somebody has to make me laugh.

[berkeley]

Amen. This means respecting our feminine feelings and not expecting us to be men in a woman's body. ;)

Right,

but she can sit and watch the Red Sox beat the Yankees, and still be a woman. :lol

[berkeley]

What women want?

They say they don't know, and why don't you suggest something... then when you do, they shoot your suggestions down and tell you what they want... try it, it works every time! :D

oh wow...hahaha.. yeah, that's annoying...

[berkeley]

I just want to clarify, my *friend* is not like the type of girl that I was complaining about in the start of this thread. :)
I just go from one thought to the next.... anyway...

[Evang.Benincasa]

I just want to clarify, my *friend* is not like the type of girl that I was complaining about in the start of this thread. :)
I just go from one thought to the next.... anyway...

No, your friend wants to be a female pastor and tell other women's husbands and children what to do. :)

In Jesus name

Brother Benincasa

www.OnTimeJournal.com

[berkeley]

No, your friend wants to be a female pastor and tell other women's husbands and children what to do. :)

In Jesus name

Brother Benincasa

www.OnTimeJournal.com

Man, you are nuts! Go start a femi-nazi thread or something. :lol

[Pragmatist]

Right,

but she can sit and watch the Red Sox beat the Yankees, and still be a woman. :lol

Or watch the Rockies beat the Red Sox; GO ROCKIES!

[berkeley]

Or watch the Rockies beat the Red Sox; GO ROCKIES!

:club

[OP_Carl]

I asked my *friend*, what is it that women want?

she said:
[SIZE="4"]"...it all depends on the woman. ...One common need/desire [is] to feel secure. Security covers a lot of things..."

Women want more chocolate, but they want to stay thin.

Women want to look better than their peers, but they don't want perverts to follow them home from the grocery store.

Women want to be in charge of as much of their spouse's life as they can without feeling guilty.

Women want to feel needed, but they don't want to feel suffocated.


In other words, they're just like men!


All of you questioning, concerned, and outraged people will cope with life a whole lot better once you come to the understanding, and fully accept, that everybody is crazy.

[berkeley]

:lol

[Rachel]

Women want to be secure .. yes.. loved.. yes.. treasured.. yes. They don't want to be treated like your buddy or another one of the guys. Of course they want a man with a secure and stable job - but that doesn't mean that we all 'want' to eventually stay home. If a woman wants to work, she wants her husband to support her efforts and her dreams.. Her dreams are not separate from her - she probably had them long before the man.. She wants to be cherished.. not coddled.. treated gently but at the same time, not like she's going to break. Respect her, confide in her - don't make her feel as if she's trying to pull teeth to have you talk to her. Make her laugh.. Be real - women see phony and insincerity and dismiss it.. Be honest.. be straightforward...

[berkeley]

Women want to be secure .. yes.. loved.. yes.. treasured.. yes. They don't want to be treated like your buddy or another one of the guys. Of course they want a man with a secure and stable job - but that doesn't mean that we all 'want' to eventually stay home. If a woman wants to work, she wants her husband to support her efforts and her dreams.. Her dreams are not separate from her - she probably had them long before the man.. She wants to be cherished.. not coddled.. treated gently but at the same time, not like she's going to break. Respect her, confide in her - don't make her feel as if she's trying to pull teeth to have you talk to her. Make her laugh.. Be real - women see phony and insincerity and dismiss it.. Be honest.. be straightforward...
Thank you!!!!! This is a WINNER!!!

[WordPreacher]

Women want money. Lots and lots of money, where they can buy anything that they want.

[Rachel]

We don't want money.. we want to not have to worry about money. Difference.

[berkeley]

We don't want money.. we want to not have to worry about money. Difference.

Excellent!

Reminds me of a song... :: clears throat ::

"I ain't sayin she a gold digga, (but) she ain't messin' with no broke (muffled sound)

and it repeats a few times...

[Rachel]

lol - Seriously though.. if women want security (financially), don't date a man who is obviously not a good steward of his money.

Women want men who will step up.. who don't bail when times are tough.. Women want more than a partner.. they want a best friend in their husband.

[berkeley]

lol - Seriously though.. if women want security (financially), don't date a man who is obviously not a good steward of his money.

Women want men who will step up.. who don't bail when times are tough.. Women want more than a partner.. they want a best friend in their husband.
Excellent post!!

[berkeley]

I joke a lot, but In reality, I find it offensive that a man wouldthink that a woman is only good for gratification, raising children, cook/clean, and being his humble servant.

[Ferd]

What do women want? they want to be HEARD! A LOT! ALL THE TIME! EVEN WHEN YOU WANT THEM TO JUST SHUT UP!

[berkeley]

What do women want? they want to be HEARD! A LOT! ALL THE TIME! EVEN WHEN YOU WANT THEM TO JUST SHUT UP!

:lol

[Rachel]

Oh and if you're curious (say in one woman in particular) about what she wants, ask her. Don't assume.. Assumptions do not lead anywhere fast. Don't try and read her mind because you can't.. She can't read yours either - so if there's a problem, tell her. Don't pout. (This works for BOTH men and women). Be mature. Challenge her. It's not necessary to degrade or demean her in order to do so. Encourage her to be all she can be and everything that God wants her to be - her husband is not her world, a very important priority yes, but she is not defined by him. She is a child of God first, a woman second, a wife and mother after that. Do not relegate her to the position of housekeeper and caretaker of your, not just her, children.

[Ferd]

Among other things, I married my wife because I felt like we could have a 50 year conversation.

I just didnt know she wanted to have a fifty year conversation in the first six months.

[Ferd]

Oh and if you're curious (say in one woman in particular) about what she wants, ask her. Don't assume.. Assumptions do not lead anywhere fast. Don't try and read her mind because you can't.. She can't read yours either - so if there's a problem, tell her. Don't pout. (This works for BOTH men and women). Be mature. Challenge her. It's not necessary to degrade or demean her in order to do so. Encourage her to be all she can be and everything that God wants her to be - her husband is not her world, a very important priority yes, but she is not defined by him. She is a child of God first, a woman second, a wife and mother after that. Do not relegate her to the position of housekeeper and caretaker of your, not just her, children.

Right because women arent in to assumptions and stuff like that.


is that why when I ask my wife what she wants for her birth day she says "nothing" but when i get her what she wants, she is upset because I didnt get the hint?

[WordPreacher]

We don't want money.. we want to not have to worry about money. Difference.

Well, that is why women want to marry rich men.

[Rachel]

Now that's funny.

[Ferd]

BTW, the above are jokes. they do not reflect real life.

but they are funny

[WordPreacher]

What do women want? they want to be HEARD! A LOT! ALL THE TIME! EVEN WHEN YOU WANT THEM TO JUST SHUT UP!

Amen Brother!!!! Preach it!!!!

[Rachel]

Which is why Ferd I said it works both ways.. I despise it equally as much when women assume things and then pout as when men do. It accomplishes zip. Plus then you have adults acting as if they had returned to grade school instead of perfectly competent adults (we hope!) that should be able to carry on a conversation.

[Rachel]

BTW, the above are jokes. they do not reflect real life.

but they are funny

I know.. *shrugs* But hey.. even if you were serious.. it's neither here nor there for me. It's the internet.

[Rico]

Maybe someone has already offered this up, but, Berk, what women want is for you to be yourself!

[Sheltiedad]

Right because women arent in to assumptions and stuff like that.


is that why when I ask my wife what she wants for her birth day she says "nothing" but when i get her what she wants, she is upset because I didnt get the hint?

LOL! Our anniversary is in 2 weeks and about a week ago my wife made a point to tell me that she had made a folder with gift ideas and put it in the file cabinet... hmmmmm!

[WordPreacher]

I joke a lot, but In reality, I find it offensive that a man wouldthink that a woman is only good for gratification, raising children, cook/clean, and being his humble servant.

They're not? Actually, I wouldn't want to have a woman like that. I don't need a woman to cook for me, because I cook.

[Rico]

a woman is only good for gratification, raising children, cook/clean, and being his humble servant.

That's Bible! Matteratchu? :D

[Rico]

They're not? Actually, I wouldn't want to have a woman like that. I don't need a woman to cook for me, because I cook.


You call that cooking? Brother, you'd starve if it weren't for the microwave and Tyson! :lol

[Monkeyman]

We don't want money.. we want to not have to worry about money. Difference.Easy for you to say....DOCTOR!!!!! You'll have enough money!!!! he he

[berkeley]

Easy for you to say....DOCTOR!!!!! You'll have enough money!!!! he he

Rachel is a doctor?

[Rachel]

No not quite.. lol @ Monkeyman.

I have a degree in science. I've applied for medical school and will do so again this year (and perhaps law school)..

[berkeley]

No not quite.. lol @ Monkeyman.

I have a degree in science. I've applied for medical school and will do so again this year (and perhaps law school)..

Education!! AWESOME!!!!

[Rachel]

haha .. I think so.

[berkeley]

haha .. I think so.

That's really great! There's nothing wrong with staying at home... but I think a woman should want to stimulate her mind!! Way to go!!

[ILG]

Right,

but she can sit and watch the Red Sox beat the Yankees, and still be a woman. :lol

Of course! :)

[ILG]

No, your friend wants to be a female pastor and tell other women's husbands and children what to do. :)

In Jesus name

Brother Benincasa

www.OnTimeJournal.com

Good Grief, EB. What have you got stuck in your craw? :search

[ILG]

Women want more chocolate, but they want to stay thin.

Women want to look better than their peers, but they don't want perverts to follow them home from the grocery store.

Women want to be in charge of as much of their spouse's life as they can without feeling guilty.

Women want to feel needed, but they don't want to feel suffocated.


In other words, they're just like men!


All of you questioning, concerned, and outraged people will cope with life a whole lot better once you come to the understanding, and fully accept, that everybody is crazy.

LOL! That was good. :lol

[ILG]

We don't want money.. we want to not have to worry about money. Difference.

Very good point!

[ILG]

Among other things, I married my wife because I felt like we could have a 50 year conversation.

I just didnt know she wanted to have a fifty year conversation in the first six months.

LOL! Felling a little annoyed, Ferd??:killinme

[ILG]

No not quite.. lol @ Monkeyman.

I have a degree in science. I've applied for medical school and will do so again this year (and perhaps law school)..

Uh-Oh. Now you've given Evag. Ben. something to actually write about!! :)

[Rachel]

What? lol - Education? So not of God..

I'm being sarcastic. ;)

[berkeley]

huh

[Monkeyman]

Rachel, that's one thing I love about this area, I see a lot of positive role models for educated apostolic women, my wife being one of them. I now see our neice following her footsteps and she makes us proud how she maintains her Christian example.

I know your family must be proud of you and your sis!

[berkeley]

This thread is not about women's lib!! NOW take your monkey self and git...

[Rachel]

Thanks MM - That's lovely of you to say.. We appreciate the support of CCC and always have. :) But I agree with you.

[Monkeyman]

mmmkay...whatever dude! Go take a nap! he he

[berkeley]

No,seriously... I think everyone male should serve one term in the military, and everyone, male and female should go to college before they are 35. :)

[Sheltiedad]

No,seriously... I think everyone male should serve one term in the military, and everyone, male and female should go to college before they are 35. :)

I second the motion!

[AQUANETTA]

I think it is great that women have an education. I do myself encourage our young people male and female to get educated

[berkeley]

Is that your real name? :hmmm

[AQUANETTA]

why

[Praxeas]

why
Wow...two whole posts. You are on a streak :killinme

[rgcraig]

Is Aquanetta Thad's sister in law?

[berkeley]

Be Nice, guys! That is a common name in the African American community. :)

[Trouvere]

I second the suggestion of the book. I think it's by Gary Chapman.

I couldn't care less about cards and gifts. I tell my husband not to waste the money. I need him to tell me he loves me and that I'm beautiful.

It really is a good book and makes a lot of sense when you figure out what a person's love language is.

The way you communicate love then must be through encouraging words.It would then hurt the relationship if he constantly criticized you.

I have to share this.My husband likes to do things for me.His love language is service.He went out and bought me some rose bushes and planted them in the front yard.He also waters and feeds my herb garden and does the lawn.I used to do the lawn when I was a stay at home mom and he worked alot
more.He knows how important that is to me.

So its safe to say different people not just women want different things.
Its not cut and dry.

[AQUANETTA]

The Language of Love is an excellent book. Try some of Dr. Laura's books reguarding marriage. I am new to this forum "And yes I like my name" Or maybe this is just my screen name...What a women wants is someone to provided, protect, and to love them!

[Trouvere]

Hi A,
I admit I used to like Dr.Lauras radio show but I have never read her
books.I felt she was a bit harsh to some of the callers.