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Wilsonwas
01-23-2019, 07:49 PM
Has anyone ever been involved in one. This is now the suggestion....if no issues from others this may be our plan.

Esaias
01-23-2019, 08:37 PM
I don't see anything wrong with that, unless the two people had issues, or there are two families that have issues.

I'm very sorry for your losses. My wife lost her mother, then a few months later her dad. No double funeral, but still too close for comfort.

Wilsonwas
01-23-2019, 09:23 PM
Looks like that will be the plan.

Too many people spread out over too much distance.

CC1
01-28-2019, 07:18 AM
I kind of like the idea if it is two close family members and there will be no issues with how the service will be conducted (for example if one person were Roman Catholic and the other old time Pentecostal).

Wilsonwas
01-28-2019, 07:17 PM
Well,

One is UPC

The other something more like AoG

It's my wife's sisters husband, and my wife. I agreed, hope it does not go off the rails. Some of the personality s are.....well....bullish.

Evang.Benincasa
01-28-2019, 07:18 PM
Well,

One is UPC

The other something more like AoG

It's my wife's sisters husband, and my wife. I agreed, hope it does not go off the rails. Some of the personality s are.....well....bullish.

Will be keeping you all in prayer. That everything is led by the Holy Ghost.

hometown guy
01-28-2019, 08:03 PM
Well,

One is UPC

The other something more like AoG

It's my wife's sisters husband, and my wife. I agreed, hope it does not go off the rails. Some of the personality s are.....well....bullish.

That would be sad if someone “ goes off the rails “ while family’s are hurting.

Wilsonwas
01-28-2019, 08:12 PM
Yes...

Would not be intentional...it would be some off hand comment...

hometown guy
01-28-2019, 08:17 PM
Well i pray all goes well...


there was a situation in the city of Compton not far from where I live just a few days ago where a funeral got out of hand. So sad.

diakonos
01-28-2019, 08:26 PM
It’s Compton.

hometown guy
01-28-2019, 08:36 PM
It’s Compton.

True lol.... my friend started a church there a couple years ago and it’s a scary city to be in when it gets dark out lol.

Esaias
01-28-2019, 11:43 PM
It’s Compton.

In the cityyyyyyyyyyyyyy
City of Compton.....

lol

diakonos
01-29-2019, 05:30 AM
In the cityyyyyyyyyyyyyy
City of Compton.....

lol


Oh, no. :foottap

diakonos
01-29-2019, 05:30 AM
Lol

Evang.Benincasa
01-30-2019, 02:59 PM
Brother WW how are you doing?

Wilsonwas
01-30-2019, 09:48 PM
Hello Bro. EB

We did the local service here. I spoke.....

I feel I screwed it up. Wish I had someone there I trusted for honesty, rather than social kindness.

I overestimated my coping, underestimated the level of loss I feel. And broke down a bit getting started. The result of that was that I had to work to mentally hard to flow the words well. It was not as beautiful as it could have been. On the other hand my pastor could not hold it together either to close it out, and everyone said they loved it.

After the first 2 min, I suppressed the emotions by walking with the wireless Mike all over that church, but delivered with no further bobbles. Just not the delivery I wanted.

After our friends left on Sunday, I found myself back at day 2 or so _ reset to severe grief. This week was awful at work. Somebody said they wished I could get angry or something, so it would seem I still care about the job. I guess I was still suppressing and the result was a dead affect....if I do get angry _ it will be over the top _ so I just went dead.

Better by tonight, but ...this is going to be a longer road than I thought.

Wilsonwas
01-30-2019, 09:56 PM
Oh yeah, the senior pastor looked pretty weird at me once or twice.....especially when I mentioned that I met my wife at a Christian drive in....if you can imagine such a thing. And to get her attention....I stole her car...

She and another girl returned the favor a couple years later...took my brand new Fiero GT, and left me a ratty old Lincoln land yacht, to go drive about to find both them and my car......

Guess that was not standard southern apostolic funeral stuff....but then neither is calling it a Celebration of life....

So there is that

MawMaw
01-31-2019, 03:02 AM
I'm sure it all went well, Bro WW. Praying for you, that the Lord be a Great Comfort during the weeks ahead.

Wilsonwas
02-04-2019, 09:34 PM
Well,

I also made my brother in laws urn. So now I will be driving to MI. To deliver and seal it after it is filled.

Wilsonwas
03-17-2019, 07:52 PM
Hi all,

Apologies that I have not called Jedi....very busy.

I got a new car in preparation for all the travel. It now has 10K more miles.

I took my BILs urn to MI. Then...

Went to my sister's FIL life celebration....third death this last 3 months. This was in FL.

Finally the double service in AR. Which went amazingly...

I am now home again. A small personality change is all that remains of all this.

Esaias
03-17-2019, 08:02 PM
Hope all is going well with you (as well as can be, considering the circumstances). Sorry you had to go through this much in such a short time.

jediwill83
03-18-2019, 02:50 AM
Hi all,

Apologies that I have not called Jedi....very busy.

I got a new car in preparation for all the travel. It now has 10K more miles.

I took my BILs urn to MI. Then...

Went to my sister's FIL life celebration....third death this last 3 months. This was in FL.

Finally the double service in AR. Which went amazingly...

I am now home again. A small personality change is all that remains of all this.


Hey man. Just as long as you're ok. Glad to hear you made it back safely.

Evang.Benincasa
03-18-2019, 05:15 AM
Hey man. Just as long as you're ok. Glad to hear you made it back safely.

Amen

Wilsonwas
03-18-2019, 10:09 AM
Hey man. Just as long as you're ok. Glad to hear you made it back safely.

OK is relative to before all this. Work has sent me to therapy. I am physically OK, thank you Jesus, but mentally not so much. I miss my wife in a multitude of unforeseen ways. And some of those show as this personality change. Which I cannot really describe outside of an intense desire to withdraw from everyone, retire _ and alter my entire life to interact with people less. I have no bandwidth to tolerate little crud that people cause. I have little joy as well. Just a sore of constant yearning to live as opposed to exist. Work seems pointless except as a method to earn. I seem to have lost more of me than just her....it's weird.

CC1
03-19-2019, 10:19 PM
OK is relative to before all this. Work has sent me to therapy. I am physically OK, thank you Jesus, but mentally not so much. I miss my wife in a multitude of unforeseen ways. And some of those show as this personality change. Which I cannot really describe outside of an intense desire to withdraw from everyone, retire _ and alter my entire life to interact with people less. I have no bandwidth to tolerate little crud that people cause. I have little joy as well. Just a sore of constant yearning to live as opposed to exist. Work seems pointless except as a method to earn. I seem to have lost more of me than just her....it's weird.

Grief is a process you just have to go through and during that process it is not unusual for you to not be yourself. I have had my share of it in life so I am not speaking words from a book but personal experience.

Some folks try to avoid the grieving process or abbreviate it but it is what it is and I am sure is different for each person. The grief never goes away but does stop being overhwhelming. I lost my dad when I was 13 years old and I am almost 60 now. There are days I grieve for him as badly as I did that first day but thankfully those days are few and far between and in their place I have a gratitude every day for having him in my life for the time I did. I don't think I could have survived if my grief had continued to be as powerful as it was that first year or two.

I will continue to pray for the Holy Spirit to truly be a comforter to you.

Oh, and while I did not know your wife I am betting she loved you and would not want to see you withdraw from people and life. Hopefully with time you won't.

jediwill83
03-20-2019, 10:44 AM
OK is relative to before all this. Work has sent me to therapy. I am physically OK, thank you Jesus, but mentally not so much. I miss my wife in a multitude of unforeseen ways. And some of those show as this personality change. Which I cannot really describe outside of an intense desire to withdraw from everyone, retire _ and alter my entire life to interact with people less. I have no bandwidth to tolerate little crud that people cause. I have little joy as well. Just a sore of constant yearning to live as opposed to exist. Work seems pointless except as a method to earn. I seem to have lost more of me than just her....it's weird.


You're still reeling from the shock...almost like an emotional vertigo...offbalance...like suddenly losing half of your body. Take your time. No pressure. We are if and when you need us.

Wilsonwas
03-20-2019, 08:32 PM
You're still reeling from the shock...almost like an emotional vertigo...offbalance...like suddenly losing half of your body. Take your time. No pressure. We are if and when you need us.

Thanks _ seems at least AF folk get it.

Wilsonwas
03-20-2019, 09:26 PM
You're still reeling from the shock...almost like an emotional vertigo...offbalance...like suddenly losing half of your body. Take your time. No pressure. We are if and when you need us.

Thanks _ seems at least AF folk get it.