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Michael Phelps
07-28-2007, 05:58 PM
Today my son and I were driving, listening to XM Radio, and a secular love song began to play. I said, "Your mom and I had this in our wedding". He seemed very surprised, and said, "You mean you guys were actually allowed to have secular love songs in your wedding?" I replied "yes", and he said, "But, how come you couldn't listen to it any other time?

THis got me to thinking about some of the inconsistencies with the way we were raised.

For instance, beards and mustaches were not allowed when I was growing up, but we could grow them or apply fakes ones for Easter and Christmas plays.

As mentioned above, we were not allowed to listen to secular music, but in nearly every wedding we attended, secular love songs were sung.

We were taught that a woman's hair was to be long and uncut because it was her glory, but all of the women were strongly encouraged to wear their hair piled high on their heads, not allowing it to hang down.

Anyone else want to discuss these, or add to the list?

Felicity
07-28-2007, 06:00 PM
No secular love songs at our wedding because 1) to me that would be inconsistent and 2) not approved by the majority of church people or pastors in our area -- at that time anyhow and I'm talking 1973.

Barb
07-28-2007, 06:05 PM
Today my son and I were driving, listening to XM Radio, and a secular love song began to play. I said, "Your mom and I had this in our wedding". He seemed very surprised, and said, "You mean you guys were actually allowed to have secular love songs in your wedding?" I replied "yes", and he said, "But, how come you couldn't listen to it any other time?

THis got me to thinking about some of the inconsistencies with the way we were raised.

For instance, beards and mustaches were not allowed when I was growing up, but we could grow them or apply fakes ones for Easter and Christmas plays.

As mentioned above, we were not allowed to listen to secular music, but in nearly every wedding we attended, secular love songs were sung.

We were taught that a woman's hair was to be long and uncut because it was her glory, but all of the women were strongly encouraged to wear their hair piled high on their heads, not allowing it to hang down.

Anyone else want to discuss these, or add to the list?
:sshhh Don't tell anyone, but I always thought those folks who did that were just carnal!! :sshhh

Michael Phelps
07-28-2007, 06:08 PM
:sshhh Don't tell anyone, but I always thought those folks who did that were just carnal!! :sshhh

Lol, seriously, or TIC?

Barb
07-28-2007, 06:10 PM
Lol, seriously, or TIC?

No, hon...seriously!! I thought they were carnal...of course I was as arrogant as the day is long so there ya go.

But it is inconsistent thinking, I agree...

Michael Phelps
07-28-2007, 06:11 PM
No, hon...seriously!! I thought they were carnal...of course I was as arrogant as the day is long so there ya go.

But it is inconsistent thinking, I agree...

The funny thing is, I never thought anything at all about it until my 18 year old son asked me today!

Barb
07-28-2007, 06:13 PM
The funny thing is, I never thought anything at all about it until my 18 year old son asked me today!

Well see...there ya go again...I was more spiritual than you!! :killinme

Felicity
07-28-2007, 06:14 PM
No, hon...seriously!! I thought they were carnal...of course I was as arrogant as the day is long so there ya go.

But it is inconsistent thinking, I agree...One of the young preachers in our district used secular love songs like "Once Twice Three Times a Lady" (that was one of them) at his wedding, and the pastor he was assisting was so angry with him. He was sat down for several months as a result.

Sheltiedad
07-28-2007, 06:17 PM
How 'bout "No organized sports"... but they would have the most aggressive, competitive softball games on Sunday afternoons and nowadays even have teams in the local community leagues...

Looking down on people who do drugs, but being perfectly fine with borrowing prescription strength painkillers from relatives or friends for their "headache"...

Saying that women should not dress, "Sexy", yet embracing high-heeled shoes which do nothing except extend a woman's leg muscles in a way that causes them to be more attractive.

Pantyhose which only change the tint of a woman's skin and cause her legs to look smoother... but makeup which does the same thing on a different area of the body is somehow wrong.

Claiming that make-up changes the appearance that God gave you, but deodorant is okay when it changes the smell God gave you...

Tanning which changes the color of your skin is okay, but dying your hair is not.

Buying expensive watches as engagement and/or wedding gifts because a ring would be "jewelry".

Preaching against pants on women because they are men's apparel, but allowing women to wear men's socks, t-shirts, sweatshirts, ball caps, etc.

Men who pride themselves on their masculinity but embrace being the "bride" of Christ.

Claiming that the purpose of the church is to use every available means to spread the gospel, but in the same rule-book, disallow the most available means of reaching the masses around the world.

Just a few off the top of my head...

OP_Carl
07-28-2007, 06:19 PM
If we could only pick songs for weddings from the hymnal, what would we pick? It's all in Him?

Barb
07-28-2007, 06:22 PM
One of the young preachers in our district used secular love songs like "Once Twice Three Times a Lady" (that was one of them) and the pastor he was assisting was so angry with him. He was sat down for several months as a result.

When one of the associate ministers in the church I used to attend married a girl from a neighboring church, and the soloist sang an Al Jarreau song, I about fell off the pew!!

Felicity
07-28-2007, 06:27 PM
If we could only pick songs for weddings from the hymnal, what would we pick? It's all in Him?I bought a couple wedding song books that looked good and sat down and went through the songs playing them one by one. They were all new to me and they were slightly contemporary but still very much with the Christian theme.

I chose 3 altogether. Nobody had ever heard them before and I received a number of compliments on the songs that were chosen and sung.

They were not oldie goldies. :)

LaVonne
07-28-2007, 06:30 PM
No secular love songs at our wedding because 1) to me that would be inconsistent and 2) not approved by the majority of church people or pastors in our area -- at that time anyhow and I'm talking 1973.

We didn't either Felicity and we were married in 1991.

rgcraig
07-28-2007, 06:35 PM
I only had secular songs in my wedding.

Another inconsistency - in the 70's when women would droop their hair to make it look short.

RandyWayne
07-28-2007, 06:35 PM
No secular love songs at our wedding because 1) to me that would be inconsistent and 2) not approved by the majority of church people or pastors in our area -- at that time anyhow and I'm talking 1973

This is why we got married in Vegas. So we would not have to deal with people approving or disapproving any "wedding details". This was in 2004.

Lucy Van Pelt
07-28-2007, 06:52 PM
What about these church folks that won't walk into a movie theater, but they own every new DVD released.

Good grief!

Trouvere
07-28-2007, 07:22 PM
You remember the songs at your wedding? I was too nervous.I remember that my husband cried.He has been crying ever since too:slaphappy

rgcraig
07-28-2007, 07:24 PM
You remember the songs at your wedding? I was too nervous.I remember that my husband cried.He has been crying ever since too:slaphappy

Didn't you pick them out?:choir

Trouvere
07-28-2007, 07:26 PM
Didn't you pick them out?:choir

We were married in a country church during revival.I'll Fly Away seemed
so inappropriate.

Sherri
07-28-2007, 08:32 PM
How 'bout "No organized sports"... but they would have the most aggressive, competitive softball games on Sunday afternoons and nowadays even have teams in the local community leagues...

Looking down on people who do drugs, but being perfectly fine with borrowing prescription strength painkillers from relatives or friends for their "headache"...

Saying that women should not dress, "Sexy", yet embracing high-heeled shoes which do nothing except extend a woman's leg muscles in a way that causes them to be more attractive.

Pantyhose which only change the tint of a woman's skin and cause her legs to look smoother... but makeup which does the same thing on a different area of the body is somehow wrong.

Claiming that make-up changes the appearance that God gave you, but deodorant is okay when it changes the smell God gave you...

Tanning which changes the color of your skin is okay, but dying your hair is not.

Buying expensive watches as engagement and/or wedding gifts because a ring would be "jewelry".

Preaching against pants on women because they are men's apparel, but allowing women to wear men's socks, t-shirts, sweatshirts, ball caps, etc.

Men who pride themselves on their masculinity but embrace being the "bride" of Christ.

Claiming that the purpose of the church is to use every available means to spread the gospel, but in the same rule-book, disallow the most available means of reaching the masses around the world.

Just a few off the top of my head...

Sheltie--have you been storing these up just waiting for a thread like this?? LOL!!

RandyWayne
07-28-2007, 08:34 PM
Actually, I was thinking that many ultra-cons are against a whole slew of things because of the exact list in that post. SOME may be, for all practical purposes, be rewriting the book of Leviticus, but at least they are consistent.

tamor
07-28-2007, 08:38 PM
What about these church folks that won't walk into a movie theater, but they own every new DVD released.

Good grief!


I've always wondered about that one. They won't go watch it on a big screen with other folks but will rent or buy it and watch it at home.....:dunno

Sherri
07-28-2007, 08:39 PM
I've always wondered about that one. They won't go watch it on a big screen with other folks but will rent or buy it and watch it at home.....:dunno
I think you're much more likely to watch something a little "questionable" at home than in a public theatre.

tamor
07-28-2007, 08:40 PM
I think you're much more likely to watch something a little "questionable" at home than in a public theatre.

Who me? :noidea

Sherri
07-28-2007, 08:41 PM
Who me? :noidea
LOL!! I wasn't speaking to you specifically!!!!

tamor
07-28-2007, 08:42 PM
LOL!! I wasn't speaking to you specifically!!!!

:sshhh I know. :heeheehee

Michael Phelps
07-28-2007, 09:21 PM
I've always wondered about that one. They won't go watch it on a big screen with other folks but will rent or buy it and watch it at home.....:dunno

The sin lies somewhere in between a plasma screen and an IMAX screen.

tamor
07-28-2007, 09:55 PM
The sin lies somewhere in between a plasma screen and an IMAX screen.

:toofunny ya think? :toofunny