Can people forget?
 

There have been 5 years of my posting on these forums;
1. FCF
2. NFCF
3. The island
4. AFF

Many of you have voiced opinions in posts to me that you value my transparency, others think I let my feelings fly too much, and others think I have issues with men and authority figures.

Now is your chance to tell me what you really think...go for it. I am listening.

Blessings, Rhoni

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Sister Rhoni is alright in my book.I don't take all of this stuff too seriously.

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Rhoni


I voted

I will never forget the posts Rhoni has posted

I have enjoyed you and your post over the years on these different forums, your a bright and out spoken woman and I love you for it! :friend

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I appreciate you Rhoni! Glad you are in the Lone Star State and doing well.

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Thank you for your honesty. I know that others don't share your opinion and I am all right with that. I chose anonymity so people would feel free to post their true feelings.

I worried that this might hurt my feelings...but I decided to use it as a learning tool. I need to know what areas to work on in my life and if people would be honest without being cruel then it will work.:friend

Love & Blessings,
Rhoni

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I appreciate you both. I will have to be honest and say, "I am in the state of Texas, but I am still not sure about liking it, or that it is home yet, but I am working on it".:tease

Blessings,
Rhoni

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Now, I don't want stroked or pats on the back here folks...honesty, honestly!

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Post more post more

just let me have the same freedom


=)

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Well, I'll try but you know how narcissistic I am:tease

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I know that is what scares me


:ursofunny

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Rhoni- I appreciate your posts and usually read them with interest. I could not be as transparent as you are, but that does not mean you should not be. You are one of the posters on this site, that make it an interesting, thought provoking site.

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physician heal thyself


sorry I just could not refuse


:ursofunny

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I like you Sister Rhoni, except when you're painting me with a broad brush and trying to insult me. :tease:friend

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Rhoni I love your posts and am glad you do! Continue on no matter what some say we love you around here!

Me on the other hand, I am going to bed early and discontinuing my posting for the night.. I am having cold chills (this IS NOT the way this is supposed to work its supposed to be opposite LOL) and am so tired I cant see straight... think I did too much today...

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I think you post what you feel when you feel it. Usually that turns out okay. However, sometimes that might not be a good thing and you end up regretting what you posted and ask for it to be deleted.

Like you said on the other thread you do post with your feelings and that's why some give you a hard time perhaps. Is it Rhoni or Rhonda - lol!

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Bro. Eastman,

There is some transference happening...you remind me of some of my past ALJC and UPCI acquaintences...but I don't want to hurt you so I'll try to be more careful. Please forgive me for insulting you...:friend

Blessings, Rhoni

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I can tell you're real scared of me:tease:tease

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Sis,

There were so many years I didn't feel as if I had a voice and I stuffed all my feelings. To be honest...I am glad I have feelings now...makes me know I am alive. BTW - Thank you for the compliment.

Respectfully,
Rhoni

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:ursofunny Rhonda gets her feeling hurt and would never say the things Rhoni says:friend

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Exactly! That's what confuses people. :ursofunny

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Rhoni,

Since you asked, I'll respond.

Regardless of what you may think, I do not dislike you. I don't agree with you all the time, and I"m not shy to voice my disagreement, but don't confuse disagreement with dislike.

If I could offer one suggestion, it would be this - when people disagree with you, you often respond very harshly and in an insulting manner.

For instance, when I agreed with Rico on another thread, you managed to insult and alienate us both by saying something to the effect of "Have a thought of your own instead of patting idiots on the head".

You're a counselor, you realize that this statement completely shuts down all meaningful dialogue from that point forward.

And, then when people decide to no longer discuss the issue, you assume that you have intimidated them. Not the case.

I think you are a very transparemt woman (not a bad thing!), and I also believe, by your own admission, you are searching for something, and sometimes the combination of restlessness and transparency create the illusion of narcissism.

When people point that out, especially more than one, it might be a good thing to do some soul searching.

And that advice applies to me too, lest you think I"m picking on you!!!!!!!!!!

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LOL! Well, at least you're one of the few who has the intestinal fortitude to apologize which is more than I could say for most folks around here. Btw, I'm not an "ultra-con", I'm only a conservative with moderate leanings. ;)

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MP, Absolutely correct analysis! :friend

1. The reason I post so harshly is because I take things personal and turn it inward. I have problems with self -esteem.
2. My favorite word is "Idiot" and I get myself into trouble using it...but sometimes...J/K:tease
3. You are correct...my searching and restlessness does cause me to appear narcissistic, but believe me...I am not.

Anyone tell you that you'd make a good therapist? Well, you would. You do understand though, I can tell others but cannot heal myself...I go to God because I don't have anyone to go to because of what I do...I have peers and it would be a dual relationship. At times, AFF is my only outlet.

Thank you for your honesty.

Blessings, Rhoni

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I agree with Bro. Easty that you are one of the best to apologize when you feel you need to!

Advice to Rhoni (not Rhonda) - forget the posse - - they are long gone and there's no one here that is intimated by you.

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Bro. Eastman,

Sometimes my honesty condemns me...LOL. Anyway, I am a moderate with conservative leanings...my only issue is with 'dress standards' and 'control'/unnecessary and unBiblical control!:tease

Blessings, Rhoni

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Rhoni,

This is what some have already been trying to tell you.

It was what some were trying to tell you on the missionary thread too, but you were not in the mood to hear.

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Renda,

The truth is...I don't think anyone left here is intimidated by me...I think I just intimdate ultra-conservative men [posse] that have issues with a woman with brains [not education, but a woman that can think for herself and give an honest opinion]. The posse preferred damsels in distress that needed them. I just needed them to shut up and quit calling my Pastor, the idiots/ I mean conservative cowboys. :tease:tease:club

Blessings, Rhoni

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Well, you know how Pharoah's heart was hardened until God took his firstborn...well:friend

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Uh oh, you're not pregnant are you???????????:ursofunny

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Careful there.......:ursofunny

I honestly do not think the word is intimidated. They respected your brains and your education - they just didn't appreciate some things about you.

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Stop it - she only posted about wanting a kiss. :snapout

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Well, all this talk about first born, etc...........:ursofunny

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Yes, they don't like to be confronted by a woman. I am sorry I just can't do that false 'submit' stuff any more and they know it. I don't fear them. I don't allow myself to be manipulated and controlled by them...unless I choose to and I don't:evilglee

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My name is not Sarah:snapout

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I think i hit a nerve!:crazy With myself:aaa

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No one is asking you to - that's the past that YOU have to get over. :friend

You are a valued poster here that everyone likes - be real, know we care and be yourself.

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Phil 4:14-16 right...I have to keep reminding myself.:friend Thank you for reminding me Renda

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I have no problem with the stuff you have posted. There is no need for me to forgive you when you haven't offended me.

I find your transparency refreshing and inspiring. Continue to be as transparent as want to be and know that your example is one that others are striving to move towards.

However, I will not remember everything you have posted. People can and will forget many things.

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not a bit sis
I was the youngest of 8 and the ones I am closest to are my mom and my two sisters. Women don't scare me. Except when they are mad. =)
Then I just swing wide of you all.
Actually I am better at getting along with women than men because that is who I spent most of my time around as a kid. My brothers were all much older and had families. My oldest sister did not marry till she was 29 and the younger one was still at home, though adult, when I was still young. So I have learned a few tricks of the trade to help me get out of trouble if I get into it and to keep my skin if they got angry about something.

=)

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I enjoy reading your posts. I know I haven't been around here that long but I have thought your post to be thought provoking and you have voiced much wisdom. So I vote for you to keep posting....but if you ever tick me off I'll let you know :club