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Ever meet any bubble people?

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People that don't want anyone near them?

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Yes, I hugged one at church this past Sunday.

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I saw a movie about a bubble boy once... Does that count?

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Bubble people are like porcupines.

They tend to hurt anyone that tries to get close to them.

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How'd they handle that?

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I've got somebody in my church that's a bubble person.

I don't know how to overcome this issue.

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very stiffly.

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Were they mad at you for hugging them?

I've got a person that gets mad when anyone tries to hug them or shake their hand.

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Just get really close to their face when you talk. They'll like that...

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I dont' know if she was mad. I left after I hugged her.

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Not everyone grew up in a Leave it to Beaver household.

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Well, I don't know many people who like somebody in their face.

I know I don't.

But this is different. This person is averse to any sort of congeniality at all.

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What's that supposed to mean?

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I have a daily confrence call and one of the people I need information from every single day is a bubble person!


you talk about driving me NUTS!

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It's like they have their own little world, and they view other humans as oustiders.

The person I'm talking about rolls their eyes a lot. They view everybody else as a bother.

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It means that inside that bubble is probably some pretty horrendous pain.

Doesn't make the reaction right, but it does explain it.

I'm not a huggy touchy sort of person. I'll go out of my way to avoid crowds, especially in church, because everyone wants to shake hands and quite a few people want to hug too. I hate coming across as cold so I try to avoid it at all costs. I'm pretty uncomfortable in any sort of group of people.

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There are reasons some people respond the way they do.

Some folks did not grow up with lots of love and hugs and happiness.

We can cut them some slack, look beyond their bubble, and show them the love of Christ by His grace.

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Sounds like this person has more than a bubble around them. They sound downright harsh.

When I think of folks with bubbles, I think of those that just don't like to be touched much. I think it starts when they're babies. There are those that will lean away from you when you hold them. They just don't like the close contact. Most babies lean into and snuggle into you....bubble babies don't.

My sister is a bubble person, but she's not cold or unfriendly or weird. And it's not a germ thing either, she just doesn't like to be touched. :dunno

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I go in and out of being a bubble person.

Something I used to do, and wonder if it was subconscious due to my occasional awkwardness when being hugged, is I would return the hug, and reach my arm up around their neck in such a way as to sort of choke them. A brother once mentioned it to me, as, "You must have a problem with hugging, every time I give you a hug my windpipe gets knocked by your arm." I felt bad, apoligized, and now try to do a "handshake-hug combo", it keeps me from the awkward body contact, and puts my hugging arm at their back, "One pat-two pats- 'Good to see you'- break."

It's not easy being a recovering bubble person.

-Bro. Alex

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maybe there are some undiagnosed autism or augsberger things going on in this person? Or maybe they've been hurt deeply in the past. If that's the case, then it may take you a very long time to earn their trust. Be patient. Show the Love of God to them thru you and your actions and words. Respect their space.

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they have a lot of fine points....just hard to get close to. :)

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That AMEN you're hearing is from my house.....Billy was no Wally.:sad

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EA I take you are talking about more than just not liking to be hugged. It sounds like this person does not let people close emotionally as well as physically.

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That's what I'm thinking....they're crossing the line from being in a bubble, to aggressively protecting their boundaries.

Is it an attention-getter? Or do they really feel that strongly about being approached or touched?

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I don't like to be hugged either. In fact I feel the skin attempt to physically move away from the points of contact (if it is a person of the same sex).

And furthermore, I expect people to respect my feelings (once they are made aware of them).

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Not everyone is "touchy-feely." There's nothing wrong with that. It doesn't sound like Edward's example is just opposed to hugs, though. :coffee2

My poor husband, when we go to family reunions on my mother's side--they are all huggers. It doesn't matter if they are your 5th cousin twice removed, and they don't know you from Adam--if you're at the reunion, you must be family, and you will be hugged. :D

Jeff's pretty tolerant, though.

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When I was young I WAS SO PAINFULLY shy.I always wore my coat inside because it covered me and it was like a protective armer.I would sit in the back of the class and watch every one and enjoy the activity on the outside looking in.I wanted to get involved but was to afraid to so I spent many years missing out on things because every one thaught I was stuck up and that I thaught I was better than every one else.During this time period I would become close in my heart for certain poepleexcept those who I liked never knew I liked them because I couldnt get the couredge to let them know.As time passed God helped me with this problem,but I cant be the center of attention in a large groupb or my legs goes all rubbery,and I feel like Im going to pass uot and get sick to my stomach and break out in cold sweats its awful to me.when I got to an age when I had to sing in church I thaught I was going to have a heart attack and die right there on the platform,but they let me turn to rthe side so that I could get started and then Jesus would be with me and everything was fine unless I got off key.Things are better now but even though I want to be loved and hugged in church I still have the tendancy to stiffen when Im showing affection in church.There have been poeple who have cared enough to push through all that and I have become very close to them.The reason behind this story is because the bubble poeple want to be reached they just dont know how to be the first to reach out and sometimes it takes awhile but you have to keep pushing its for that souls own good! God wants you to keep pushing and that bubble person wants you to keep pushing also.Those poeple feel bad every time they make the other person feel rejected because that is not thier intent at all.

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I for one, am thrilled we have decided, as movement, to disregard the clear teaching of Paul, and disobey the 5 scriptures demanding that we brethren greet one another with a holy kiss.

There are far to many scriptures we can dig up and impose upon our women folks to be bothered by this directive to us men.

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Love this post! I think I'm gonna steal this quote for Facebook. lol

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If you do - correct the "to" to "too" - - lol!

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You know, maybe they aren't trying to hurt. They may be hurting. It could be a defense mechanism.

It might be that you aren't dealing w/ a bubble person, but w/ someone who has rejection issues.

They could be keeping people at bay for fear of being rejected. ( w/ these feelings stemming from something in their past )

It could be, ( in their mind ), reject others, before they are rejected. I've known someone like this and it isn't always easy to overcome this mindset. But, with God all things are possible.

Sinatra

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Thank you for this post.

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One other thought, children of divorce often have issues with rejection.

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Yes, it was a blessing to read.

May God give his children wisdom to discern the right time and the right way to approach all things even the bubble people.

Ecc 8:5-6.... a wise man's heart discerneth both time and judgment. Because to every purpose there is time and judgment, therefore the misery of man is great upon him.

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Ya know some people are easy to hug and others I have a hard time with it myself.

I wasn't raised in a huggy kissy family and it gets uncomfortable sometimes, but I think I have learned not to spend so much time thinking about it.--You do it, and go on.

I have had someone tell me they dont hug, while I was hugging them in front of many people, it was embarrassing and so I never tried it again-I almost avoid her now she made such a big deal about it. Fortunately I do not see her much.

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Like many things, I have wondered why, as a non-hugger, I need to just "deal with it", yet huggers are never required to respect MY wishes?

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I think you are dealing with an unsaved person. Work on getting them saved and then maybe you can deal with their issues.

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I was like this until about two years ago. God worked a miracle in my life and changed me. I was 27 years old before I ever started honestly opening up to people.