Where is Wenona?
 

Hey Sister Wenona what happened to you? You got married and deserted us.
Come back and share some things.

Still on Honey Moon? :happydance

I'm sure this is a good sign...;)

She's been here. She posted off and on under a new user name. I forget now what it is.

Williamsbaby I think is the user name.:tiphat

Yes, that's it! :ty2

I read a few posts from her but she must be super busy...Williams baby.You gotta love it!!!

Williamsbaby...you are missed! I will have to add though, that I fear those of us moving on and getting married because it seems we remake our identity to conform to his identity [females]. I am not sure this is a healthy thing...I know it never has been for me.

The thing I fear the most is that I will no longer have my own identity and that it will be dependent on someone else. I just found myself and I don't want to lose me again...

Blessings, Rhoni

Amen Sister Rhoni,
Strong personalities can swallow us up.When we first got married our pastor told this to my husband.He told him to let me be me and he has.Its been a great twenty years.I have been able to develop into something different than just a role.Wife,mother,girlfriend are just titles.I am so glad I have a name.lol..:)

Trouvere,

Yes, I remember the first time after approx. 15 years that I actually heard my name "Rhonda", I had always been the kid's mother, the Pastor's wife, and it was refreshing to know I was still in there. As strong a person as I am thought to be...I have a tendency to wrap myself, physically, emotionally, and mentally, all around the man of my life and lose myself. I don't want to ever do that again. I want him to love me for who I am and not 'expect' me to be who he thinks I should be. Does this make sense? I think a strong, secure man, can do this and not be less of a man or think me less of a woman. Or am I dreaming?

Blessings, Rhoni

Sister I think some people are selfish.They want to take up someones time and make them their servant and those with a servants heart can be taken by it.It can be that we don't serve the Lord anymore but serve a different God of a different kingdom...the kingdom of man.I have seen this happen to men as well as women.The world the counseling world uses is codependant.Some feel their happiness depends on another person.I am sure you are very familiar with the man or woman who finds out shockingly that another person is not going to give them all the complete happiness the story book fairy tale prophesied.That true happiness comes from our relationship with Jesus and that its a heart healthy relationship.If you have come full circle and now have developed into what Jesus would have you to be in your relationship then you are ready for someone else in your life.Sadly some people never learn and thats why there is PROZAC.

LOL...you got that right! I remember Sis. B referring to me as having a "servant's heart" and what I found out is that it was closer to co-dependency. I have come full circle and do know that no man, or church can make me fulfilled and complete...but I find my only true and lasting happiness at the feet of Jesus...and thank God I need no meds to survive!

Blessings, Rhoni

Have a blessed day O Wise One...ever think about becoming a counselor...well, LOL, I guess you are, aren't you;)! Love, RC

Blending my identity was the hardiest battle I had when I got married. Of course, I was not the typical new bride!!!!!! My husband in his wisdom did not push me to do this, and I did not feel pressured to do it, but it was a natural response to married life. But, it was a great inner struggle, because I was leaving my comfort zone, and going into territory I had never traveled before.

Sis Weona more than just got married. She also gained additional kids on top of her three...and, I assume, she still works.