What is the age limit?
 

In your opinion what should be the age limit that a father takes his daughter alone on a week trip, leaving his other daughter and wife behind.

Should it matter if he is a pastor?

Is bonding time for father and daughter the same as bonding for father and son?

Thirty years ago would this question have been an issue? Or has there been so much exposed abuse that we now see a sin in everything?

If you were a Mother would you have an age limit? Is 12 or 13 a time to stop these trips? And what if there is only bonding for one of the daughters and not both? Woudl you think something is not quite right?

Re: What is the age limit?
 

As a father of three daughters I say it should never be an issue.

Of course when we are talking blended families that changes things.

Re: What is the age limit?
 

ANY age is appropriate. Every family is different. Every case is unique.

I am sure there will be some upcoming opinions that differ from mine.

Re: What is the age limit?
 

I took my 17 year old daughter to India with me....we had a great time!

Re: What is the age limit?
 

wow. As the father of a teen aged daughter, all I can say is "wow."

Everybody else in this world is sure messed up. I'm glad my baby girl has been shielded from that. wow.

Re: What is the age limit?
 

Eddie took Ashley to NY with him when she was about 15 or so. They had a lot of fun!

Re: What is the age limit?
 

It shouldn't matter.

Re: What is the age limit?
 

I think we should stop being so critical and not assume something bad. It's none of my business why he would take one daughter and not the other one. None of us need to know all the details of a pastor's family life.

Re: What is the age limit?
 

Unless there are other things that bring conduct into question I don't think there is any age limit. I never went on a trip with just my daughter when she was growing up that I can remember but would have thought nothing of doing so had the situation arose.

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It should never be an issue unless there is something else that is giving concern.

Re: What is the age limit?
 

I think that is the problem today. Many are cast as being "guilty" of something they would never even consider, causing eyebrows to be lifted. As I stated earlier years ago this would never have been given a second thought.

But on the flip side I am also hearing of many cases where incest was going on in the family and being covered up.

Although for me, singling out one child over another would give me great concerns. Not just from the angle of "something" might be wrong, but showing favortism is never a healthy family thing. Remember Joseph?

Re: What is the age limit?
 

It's a bit more complicated than that and not always favortism. In my case my middle daughter is always game to go "work with daddy". While the others cry foul sometimes, they really don't want to help pull the weeds or do the work daddy does.

I tell them life ain't easy - It's a Hard Knock life! :thumbsup

Re: What is the age limit?
 

Oops. Remember Isaac and Rebekkah. :gotcha

Jacobs parents started it.

Then Jacob had this major dysfunctional deal long before Joseph. 12 sons and 4 moms. 2 wives and 2 servants. This unfair favorites stuff came way back when he worked for Rachael because she was a "hottie"





We are in a hyper anxiety world.
In womens ministry, we see women who did not hear from their dadies that they were lovely and valued and had to drink and hear it in bars when they left for schools.

A godly dad is protection. He is a covering. He protects her little heart and protects her physically and shows her that and it is what she will seek in a husband.
in the OT, we see more proactive protection by brothers also of their sisters.

Re: What is the age limit?
 

don't feel there should be a problem, my dad took me to Florida - Clearwater Beach and Disney World when I was 21 and six months before I was married.

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Perhaps it isn't favoritism at all. Could it not be simply that one daughter would not have enjoyed what they were going to be doing? I know w/ my children there are some things that Dad does w/ all because they all enjoy it. Then there are some things that Dad does w/ only one, because only one enjoys it. But when all is said and done, it balances out.

Sinatra