I Honored My Heritage
 

I decided to go to Prince Edward Island this summer and see my 96 year old grandmother. She is still bumping along but had a pacemaker put in earlier this year. She sleeps for all but maybe 6 or 7 hours a day and she mostly plays cards and scrabble after that.

My grandmother is a lifelong Catholic. She was raised strongly Catholic in the French Acadian tradition. French Acadians were strong Catholics and were expelled and oppressed by the British when they were expelled from l'Acadie in 1755. They were a neutral people and the Micmac Indians sided with the Acadians and so, with the French refusing to give their allegiance tp the British, the British rounded them up and scattered them, husbands without wives and mothers without children etc. . Here is a little more history

http://canadianhistory.suite101.com/...ians_to_cajuns

My grandmother is strongly Acadian, flying the Acadian flag in her front yard and insisting that Bievenue, the French word for "Welcome" was always displayed at family reunions. Back in my grandmothers day, the protestants and Catholics refused to sell land to one another and there was quite a bit of animosity. Even today, my cousin reports that in the area, the French and Protestants do not wave to each other on Sundays. The area is just recently beginning to have open shops on Sundays.

I was raised far away from all of this, but I was raised Catholic and knew a little bit about my heritage. I always yearned for more of it, but it felt like I was always removed, as my mother married a man (my Dad) who had been raised Church of Christ but did not attend church at all. My upbringing was rather dysfunctional and I was searching.

When I was 19, I got into the United Pentecostal Church. My grandmother called me and told me she was upset that I left the Catholic church, but I was angry because I had not been to the Catholic Church for about two years and had been partying a lot. I felt everyone should praise my changing my life and not criticize it.

The first family reunion I went to...where Mass was always said and Catholicism was always a large part, I refused to go to Mass and I wrote my Grandmother a letter telling her why and it upset her. But I did not go. The next two reunions (every five years), I went to Mass but did not participate not take communion. Religion separated us from both sides. Mine from her and hers from me. It also separated my Mother and I.

This year, I just had a gnawing feeling I needed to go to the Island. My husband and kids were so supportive of the idea that I hopped on a plane and went. I told my mother I was going to go to Mass and take communion for my Gram. I told her it was not because I was Catholic and not because I wanted to be Catholic but because I wanted religion to stop dividing us and I wanted to honor my heritage.

I went to Mass. My Grandmother is too frail to go so she did not know I was going. I went through all the motions, did the sign of the cross and everything I could remember and I took communion. It felt so good to destroy the religion wall that was dividing us all. I felt a great peace and my mind took me back in time to precious memories that had been stolen from me by religious creeds and dogmas, by legalism and rules.

I told my Gramdmother what I did. I wrote it because she can barely hear. She read it about three times and then said "I really admire that". My mother was crying. Then she read it a couple more times and said "Will you sign this? What you wrote?" And so I did.

When I kissed my Grandmother goodbye, I know it might be for the last time. And I know that no matter what happens, I will be happy I honored my heritage and did what was in my heart to do. Religion no longer divides us...at least from my end.

I am home.

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Awesome! :thumbsup

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Love it!

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I think I can understand that ILG.

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Thank you for the positive responses! I did what I had to do, regardless of what anybody thought....but it is still nice to hear positive responses. I just wanted to share my journey and where things have taken me. I feel very good about what I did.

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That video made me cry! I don't know if I understand it completely but it was beautiful.

I think family is important, and I too understand how when one changes their beliefs it creates a wedge between those you love.

Unless you have been there I think it may be hard understand. Sometimes those wedges and barriers are never mended-even when you try to mend them some relationships will just never be the same.

Glad you were able to be with your family and mend those barriers.

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I agree!

Glad you had a great time, ILG!!!

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I think my deep interest in the Anabaptists was perhaps a misplaced interest in my own heritage...but one that seemed more "acceptable" in UPC circles. When you look, there are a number of similarities....an oppression that was undeserved....very large families.....a strong religious heritage and ethic.....a strong emphasis on keeping the original language (even though that was lost on me as my mother rarely spoke French as we were growing up). I was yearning for what was lost....searching for it....feeling it calling me, but I had no idea how to process it or what to do about it.

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The story is one of the classic French Acadian stories about the expulsion from l'Acadie. Evangeline and Gabriel were a young couple who were in love....they were separated when the English came and burned their homes and towns and did not find each other again for many long years. However, their love still held strong after all those years and Gabriel died in the arms of Evangeline when they found one another again.

It is a beautiful song. I'm glad it made you cry....it's one of those tear jerker kinds.

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Thanks PO! On the trip, my mother and I did something I have wanted to do all my life as well.....we took the ferry (five hours) to Iles de la Madeleine, which is a tiny completely French speaking island. I used to watch the ferry leave from my Grandmother's house (she is right on the sea) and wish, wish, wish I was on it. Now, I have been!

It was very interesting to try and communicate when you don't really know the language, but it was fun to try. Of course my mother was better at it than I was since she spoke French until she was about 11 years old. At that time, they moved to an English speaking area and although my grandmother kept trying to make the children (14 of them eventually!) speak French, they quit because it was not "cool". Kind of sad about that.

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A fulfilled wish - glad you got to ride the ferry and for FIVE HOURS! Awesome!

Did you take pictures of the scenery? That would have been nice to see.

And I agree, it is sad. French is a beautiful language!

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I admire this for you. I was raised in the Roman Catholic tradition, so like you my conversion to oneness pentecostal caused a huge rift between my family and me.

After 25 years, I'm still not at the place where I'm ready to embrace my RCC heritage, and may never fully be. Maybe I'm still too bound by my own dogmas that I can't manage to not be offended by how far their liturgy and traditions/practices have strayed from Christ and the power of the first century church. But even as I write this, I'm convicted about how far WE (as UPCI/ALJC/Independent OP congregations) have drifted from Christ and the power of the first century church.

It's taken decades, but I'm finally in a place where I have a "decent" relationship with my parents, but it is not the same and may never be. I am, however, in a place where I can appreciate their perspective whether they appreciate mine or not. So, I guess that's growth. I'm pretty sure my mom would have a tizzy if I actually took communion (seeing that I'm "dead to the church").

I appreciate your testimony. God bless!

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Here are some.

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I appreciate your testimony too. I left the UPC 5 years ago now. Last year, at the reunion, I was not ready to do anything like this. So, I just have been feeling it this year. It's kind of one of those windows of opportunity that you have to take if you feel okay about it. I had not taken Catholic communion for 25 years, so it was a huge thing. Even in the Catholic church I prayed "Wow, I feel wierd...should I be doing this?".....and again, that peace came that I had felt a number of times before saying "Yes, this is right."

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Oh man, beautiful pictures. Just what I expected. Now, a question - why is your hair so short?! J/K!!!!!!! :toofunny It's a very good picture of you!

I've had this video in my bookmarks for a long time. I play it over and over. Thought you might like it. The music is beautiful and the scenery is lovely. I would love to visit France!

Leaves On The Seine

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cqU8F...yer_embedded#!

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P.S. It was not an issue at all....me taking communion. I know some Catholics might not like that, but for my family, they are not exclusive when it comes to communion...at least none of them that I am aware of.

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Parce qu'il a été coupé!

Google that!:bliss

I'll have to look at the video later but I will!!!

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I know you are saying, "it was cut", but I can't decipher the whole thing. LOL! Apparently, YES, it was cut! :toofunny

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Very nice video, PO!

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What a beautiful example of what real love is - there is peace in your family. Thank you for sharing your story.

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And thank you for your pleasant response!

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ILG,

Thank you for posting this. When I left the UPC it was very hard on my family. I have been trying to find a way to honor my parents because they did teach and mold me into who I am today. Even though I don't hold to the pentecostal beliefs anymore I am going to try my best to appreciate their beliefs and do what I can to honor their heritage.

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Thanks DG. I am very pleased with the positive responses I have gotten when I posted this...I wasn't sure what to expect, but, when you feel you need to do something, I guess it doesn't matter what people think....still....the positive responses are a nice support.

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I don't agree with my Dad or Mom on some biblical issues,but I love them the same,I won't change my views for them,but I don't argue with them or act disrespectful to them.One can disagree without being disagreeable.

People should try to get along with their families.Because family is important.

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ILG, what a beautiful testimony!!
I love the pics-that part of Canada is beautiful.

I did something similar to what you did to honor my heritage. Though it was a private act, it brought some pieces of my life back together and brought a lot of healing, and though the healing has been slower for my family, it is still becoming obvious that there are bridges being mended there, as well.

:heart

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Sometimes a private act is all that is possible. Sometimes I think any act is impossible. That is why, when I realized it was possible for me to do this, I felt strongly that I should. Any other year in my life, it would have been impossible to do it.