Wedding rings
 

On another thread someone put something about wedding bands and it got me thinking. I have been in and around many churches both liberal and conservative. In every church that I have attended rings have been preached against but some of the churches will wear wedding rings. The funny thing is they always refer to them as wedding bands. So my question is why would it be wrong to wear rings but its ok to wear wedding bands. Isn’t a wedding band a ring? Isn’t it jewelry? Are they trying to justify it by calling it a wedding band?

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It has always been a wedding RING to me. The only ones I have ever heard call it a "band" are strong holiness preachers and the occasional jeweler when talking strictly about the guys ring.

From our wedding.
http://i174.photobucket.com/albums/w...ingRings-1.jpg

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If you are "conservative" you preach against "jewelry" and that includes all rings.

If you are "moderate" you will preach against jewelry but differentiate between jewelry that is ornamental and that is functional. A watch is OK because it is functional i.e. it lets you know what time it is. A wedding band (might be called a ring but band makes it not sound like other types of rings) is OK because it is functional i.e. it displays marital status.

If you are "liberal" you will say that a person's "real" adorning is their attitude and the love displayed by them and not the outward stuff like combing of hair or the wearing of clothes and jewelry.

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I haven't heard that distinction made. A ring is a ring. However, some churches ask that you don't wear any "unnecessary" jewelry, and only wear a wedding ring/band. A wedding band is a ring without any gemstones or rocks...I think. So maybe they mean it has to be plain? I'm not sure.

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goes like this: engagement ring, wedding band

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Why does anybody need a ring to display marital status? If you need to tell the world you are married then wear a big (long sleeve) shirt that says "I am married"

Better yet, act married.

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I have to laugh when the term "unnecessary jewelry" is used, as if there is such a thing as "necessary jewelry"

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Why is it anyone's business?

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Right, if you act married then you don't need a sign, or a ring.

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No ones needsd suits or fancy ties either. :highfive

We haven't wore wedding rings for years, not a big deal. I work with mostly women, they know I'm a commited married man. One co worker said "he's the most married man I know" If one acts married it will show.

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How exactly do you act unmarried?

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Several times while I was pregnant it was assumed by those in the medical community that I was an unwed mother because I wasn't wearing a wedding ring.

"Avoid the appearance of evil" comes to mind.

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There is actually, they are called "handcuffs", sometimes a person just has to wear them

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What's funny is somoene preaches against rings while wearing a wrist ring that happens to tell time. :)

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Even more humorous is when that same man brags about how expensive it is or what kind it is and how hard it was to find one that complied with his particular standards.
It's black, so it's not jewelry. It's only jewelry if it's a gold or silver watch.
Really. Then can I have a wedding band if it's black plastic? It'd cost a whole lot less than that "wrist ring" of yours. :foottap

When people in my "no ring" church got engaged, the man gave the woman a bracelet watch--one that looks exactly like a bracelet unless you see the tiny watch face. Didn't matter if it was gold or not. But no rings.

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So how many of these anti-wedding ring/band preachers drive around in Lincolns of Cadillacs? The PRINCIPLE used (if it ever actually is in a UC church) that would be used to preach against big gaudy expensive jewelry could certainly be the same principle used to preach against anything gaudy such as luxury cars where someone is trying to tell the rest of the world that they are worthy of more honor then most.

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Nonesense!

Many women/men can tell you they acted married and was still hit on, even with a ring. So without a ring they would have appeared fair game.

I wish the OP could get a grasp of what that scripture really means.:foottap

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Thank you!

There are two occasions I will wear a jacket and tie: Wedding, Funeral. Nothing else. The tie is the most useless piece of decoration I have yet encountered.

A watch at least tells time and a wedding ring at least is a "taken" marker, but a tie? Useless uncomfortable thing around the neck. And jacket? Jackets are for when it is cold, nothing more.

Suit-tie, yet another stupid tradition.

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:happydance Now JA tell us what you really think. :heeheehee

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I have a wedding ring to tell the world I am married and show my commitment, but do not wear a watch. It was agonizing at first but I just learned to use my cell phone when I need to know the time -which of course would get me in trouble with any pastor who preached against them. lol

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LOL don't go preaching against watches, RW. There are several preachers out there that need not only to wear one but to look at it more often than they do. :heeheehee

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A pregnant woman without a wedding ring looks evil?

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Just act single. Do I need to explain more?

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It looks unwholesome. It makes people think you are an unwed mother. But you are probably a man and don't have to deal with that.

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Are you saying it is a sin to drive a lincoln, or only if you preach against wedding rings?
I know many that ALLOW wedding rings and drive lincolns, and mercedes. Does that bother you?

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Why do you even wear them to weddings and funerals?

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Would you agree luxury cars are an adornment? Hard not to.

What are your thoughts on wrist rings that have a clock on it?

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Please don't say wearing a wedding ring/band is a heaven or hell issue.

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If they "allow" wedding rings and drive any sort of luxury car they are being consistent. If they preach against both, they are being consistent. If they still drive such a car and preach against rings as being "adornment" they are not.

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How do you "act" married?

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Oh, please. :rolleyes2

I like wearing a ring that shows I'm attached. It means something to me--and to my husband. In fact, I think it's a bit funny that UC's who believe so strongly that women should have a symbol of authority on their heads (uncut hair) don't also apply that logic to having a symbol of attachment on their hands.

How weird that you don't want to "tell the world you are married." I think it would hurt my feelings if my husband felt that way. And how does one "act married?" If you mean "act moral", then I would say that single Christians have to do that, too, so what are you talking about exactly????

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Or preach against it wearing colorful adorning tie.

What some gave up in jewelry made up for it in clothes.

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Look confused, bewildered and tired! :heeheehee

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That was the main reason that Jeff and I bought rings. My Dad's church didn't allow them either, but when I was pregnant with Hannah, I was so embarrassed--I knew that it looked like I was unmarried and pregnant. :blink

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I love jewelry, but now I only wear my wedding set.

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:highfive

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:toofunny

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The principle is the same in both cases or with expensive clothing as well. If you follow a principle you find that there are little to no inconsistencies when talking about things like this.

I fully expect rdp to show and give his 2 cents on the subject.

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wedding rings and bands are considered "functional" jewelry like a watch. They are not looked at as the women trying to adorn themselves (as long as the lady or man doesn't go too far with the diamond!)

I say if you attend a church under a pastor who preaches against all rings, including wedding rings, then you should follow that or find another place you can submit. Submission is so important as you can't be lead by someone you won't submit to.

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Jewelry is pretty, but I can't stand to wear it. I don't even wear a watch. I've never had a problem with anyone asking if I was married or not without a ring. Jewelry makes me feel claustrophobic. LOL!