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rgcraig 03-07-2012 05:32 PM
Story Tellers - A New Experience For Me
 
I work with this lady that has really got my curiosity up. I actually think she might have some type of syndrome or condition.

No matter who is talking, what the subject is, she tells a story "relating" to whatever is going on. Sometimes its a real STRETCH to see the relationship, but she thinks it relates.

Sometimes it's just a random story. Yesterday, I was minding my own business at my desk and she spoke up and said, "remind me to tell you sometime about the handspring". I said, okay. Then, moments later, there she is standing in my cube and said, "I thought I'd just go ahead and tell you." Then precedes to tell a story about her daughter when she was younger wanting to be a cheerleader and she needed to do a handspring. She went out in the yard to spot her and thought, well, I used to be a cheerleader, so I'll just show her. (this lady probably is 200 lbs more than she weighed when she was a cheerleader) - She goes on to tell how she ran and tried and her arms gave out and she ended up on the ground and she just laid there laughing.

Okay. So, I had to respond with something and we both went back to work.

Random.

Then, this morning I was telling her that we had a drive-by shooting across the street from me last night and she acted concerned a bit, but then went right into TWO stories of back when she was about 8 and someone came up on their porch and her dad goes and gets his gun, etc. etc. She always says, to make a long story short, but it really continues to be long.

Later this afternoon, I needed to go to the restroom, so I was waiting until she got off a conference call to ask her to cover my phone while I stepped out and told her I really had to go.......she actually starts to tell me a story about her now 25 year old son when he was about 4 - running through the house jumping up and down and she asked him, "do you need to go potty". Okay, great story as I'm standing them with my eyeballs floating.

I'm going to keep a log tomorrow of just how many stories she tells in an 8 hr day! I'm amazed and speechless. I don't dare tell her much because my one minute comment would cause her to tell two long stories.

Most of the stories are "back in the day" type stories.

When I first started she was training me on a few things and she'd train a while and story-tell a while. She even pulled up her personal picture folder and I had to view over 200 pictures when her kids were all little. I don't mind pictures and getting to know someone, but show me what your college-aged kids look like. I'm not real interested in your trip to the Grand Canyon 20 years ago. And, explaining all about her mom and dad going with them and their temperaments and things that happened on the trip - - - oh my!!!!

I just wanna work. :girlytantrum

Austin 03-07-2012 05:35 PM
Re: Story Tellers - A New Experience For Me
 
She is a lady who wants attention and friends. Probably someone who is lonely and depressed and wish she could be like other people.
Invite her to church with you and your family.

Cindy 03-07-2012 05:36 PM
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Sounds like Rose on The Golden Girls. :)

rgcraig 03-07-2012 05:39 PM
Re: Story Tellers - A New Experience For Me
 
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Originally Posted by Austin (Post 1146209)
She is a lady who wants attention and friends. Probably someone who is lonely and depressed and wish she could be like other people.
Invite her to church with you and your family.
You would think that, but she seems very content and happy with her family - believe me I know all about them and all their trips and funny things they have said.

Everyone at work likes her - they just do drive by hellos because they know she talks too much. Our boss told me that he addressed it in her review this year (in Jan) and if she's improved any, I sure would hate to see what she WAS like.

I like her, just not sure how to handle all the stories and interruption during the day.

rgcraig 03-07-2012 05:40 PM
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Originally Posted by Cindy (Post 1146210)
Sounds like Rose on The Golden Girls. :)
OMW - - you are right!!!!

berkeley 03-07-2012 05:40 PM
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It is a sign of old age. We have one or two story tellers on AFF.

rgcraig 03-07-2012 05:43 PM
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Originally Posted by berkeley (Post 1146214)
It is a sign of old age. We have one or two story tellers on AFF.
Berk, she's only 44.

rgcraig 03-07-2012 05:44 PM
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She'll even say, stop me if I've already told you this.

Really?

I've actually told her a couple times that she has told me already. She's good about not going ahead and retelling it again, but she'll always have a couple comments about it.

Austin 03-07-2012 05:45 PM
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Yea, here's one of them old age people right now!!!

The Matt 03-07-2012 06:57 PM
Re: Story Tellers - A New Experience For Me
 
Quote:
Originally Posted by rgcraig (Post 1146208)
I work with this lady that has really got my curiosity up. I actually think she might have some type of syndrome or condition.

No matter who is talking, what the subject is, she tells a story "relating" to whatever is going on. Sometimes its a real STRETCH to see the relationship, but she thinks it relates.

Sometimes it's just a random story. Yesterday, I was minding my own business at my desk and she spoke up and said, "remind me to tell you sometime about the handspring". I said, okay. Then, moments later, there she is standing in my cube and said, "I thought I'd just go ahead and tell you." Then precedes to tell a story about her daughter when she was younger wanting to be a cheerleader and she needed to do a handspring. She went out in the yard to spot her and thought, well, I used to be a cheerleader, so I'll just show her. (this lady probably is 200 lbs more than she weighed when she was a cheerleader) - She goes on to tell how she ran and tried and her arms gave out and she ended up on the ground and she just laid there laughing.

Okay. So, I had to respond with something and we both went back to work.

Random.

Then, this morning I was telling her that we had a drive-by shooting across the street from me last night and she acted concerned a bit, but then went right into TWO stories of back when she was about 8 and someone came up on their porch and her dad goes and gets his gun, etc. etc. She always says, to make a long story short, but it really continues to be long.

Later this afternoon, I needed to go to the restroom, so I was waiting until she got off a conference call to ask her to cover my phone while I stepped out and told her I really had to go.......she actually starts to tell me a story about her now 25 year old son when he was about 4 - running through the house jumping up and down and she asked him, "do you need to go potty". Okay, great story as I'm standing them with my eyeballs floating.

I'm going to keep a log tomorrow of just how many stories she tells in an 8 hr day! I'm amazed and speechless. I don't dare tell her much because my one minute comment would cause her to tell two long stories.

Most of the stories are "back in the day" type stories.

When I first started she was training me on a few things and she'd train a while and story-tell a while. She even pulled up her personal picture folder and I had to view over 200 pictures when her kids were all little. I don't mind pictures and getting to know someone, but show me what your college-aged kids look like. I'm not real interested in your trip to the Grand Canyon 20 years ago. And, explaining all about her mom and dad going with them and their temperaments and things that happened on the trip - - - oh my!!!!

I just wanna work. :girlytantrum
We as human beings feel needs to pass on our learnings and experiences. The closer you get to death, the more you will feel this need. Some people feel it stronger, and younger.

seekerman 03-07-2012 06:58 PM
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Reminds me of the time....

Cindy 03-07-2012 07:24 PM
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Originally Posted by seekerman (Post 1146242)
Reminds me of the time....
:heeheehee

KeptByTheWord 03-07-2012 07:57 PM
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Hey Cindy, I just noticed you don't have your hat!!! :)

KeptByTheWord 03-07-2012 08:01 PM
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RG: I know a lot of people like that, and it does seem to be a problem the older people become. Like my husband's mother... she tells the same story to you over and over and over... LOL...

Hmmm... about how to handle it... well, you could start inviting her to church every time she starts to tell a story... or somehow make witnessing a part of your conversation with her every chance you get... either it will cause her to run the other direction when she sees you coming, or decide she wants more of whatever it is you got that makes you so happy.... and maybe you'll be a soul winner in the process... one or the other... you ought to get some results ....

:)

berkeley 03-07-2012 08:05 PM
Re: Story Tellers - A New Experience For Me
 
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Originally Posted by KeptByTheWord (Post 1146258)
RG: I know a lot of people like that, and it does seem to be a problem the older people become. Like my husband's mother... she tells the same story to you over and over and over... LOL...

Hmmm... about how to handle it... well, you could start inviting her to church every time she starts to tell a story... or somehow make witnessing a part of your conversation with her every chance you get... either it will cause her to run the other direction when she sees you coming, or decide she wants more of whatever it is you got that makes you so happy.... and maybe you'll be a soul winner in the process... one or the other... you ought to get some results ....

:)
RENDA: Oh sweetie, ad just love for you and your family to attend church with me.

LADY: One time at church, when my kids were about 5 and 6 yrs old... blah blah blah. Blah blah blah blah. Blah. Blah blah blah.

KeptByTheWord 03-07-2012 08:11 PM
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Originally Posted by berkeley (Post 1146259)
RENDA: Oh sweetie, ad just love for you and your family to attend church with me.

LADY: One time at church, when my kids were about 5 and 6 yrs old... blah blah blah. Blah blah blah blah. Blah. Blah blah blah.
well.... maybe she'll run out of church stories... :smack

.... tis a difficult situation and I feel for ya, Renda....

rgcraig 03-07-2012 08:27 PM
Quote:
Originally Posted by berkeley

RENDA: Oh sweetie, ad just love for you and your family to attend church with me.

LADY: One time at church, when my kids were about 5 and 6 yrs old... blah blah blah. Blah blah blah blah. Blah. Blah blah blah.
You've got it Berk!

rgcraig 03-07-2012 08:32 PM
One of her sons had a brain aneurism a couple of years ago and is doing good now. Her faith in God is strong. In fact, "long story short", she gave up eating chocolate for the rest of her life because she was so grateful that God touched her son. She felt to show her thankfulness to God that she could give up something that she loved.

Have to admire that.

Jay 03-07-2012 08:46 PM
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RG, I feel for you. I am a person who generally does not like to be around a lot of people, and this person certainly meets that qualification. I generally try to introduce them to someone else, and then they have some else to communicate with, and it decreases my interaction with them to a more tolerable level.

berkeley 03-07-2012 08:49 PM
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Originally Posted by rgcraig (Post 1146276)
One of her sons had a brain aneurism a couple of years ago and is doing good now. Her faith in God is strong. In fact, "long story short", she gave up eating chocolate for the rest of her life because she was so grateful that God touched her son. She felt to show her thankfulness to God that she could give up something that she loved.

Have to admire that.
She Catholic?

rgcraig 03-07-2012 08:51 PM
Well, I'm the new kid on the block, so that won't be happening. Also, we have to work together. I think that her feelings would be very hurt if I tried to suppress her too much. This morning I went around another way, so I didn't have to walk by her cube and she actually said something about it. Lol!

berkeley 03-07-2012 08:52 PM
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Originally Posted by rgcraig (Post 1146293)
Well, I'm the new kid on the block, so that won't be happening. Also, we have to work together. I think that her feelings would be very hurt if I tried to suppress her too much. This morning I went around another way, so I didn't have to walk by her cube and she actually said something about it. Lol!
Ah. She just needs someone to talk to. Suck it up and be her "friend." :)

rgcraig 03-07-2012 08:52 PM
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Originally Posted by berkeley

She Catholic?
Sounds like it, but no she's not.

Jay 03-07-2012 08:56 PM
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She is likely to be a nearly pure sanguine. That means that she is automatically 'friends' with everyone she meets. You happen to be the lucky person who sits closest to her in the office. Eventually, when she can not be there you will likely find that your days begin to drag.

KeptByTheWord 03-07-2012 09:05 PM
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well... since you're the new kid on the block... maybe this is your orientation...

:girlytantrum

rgcraig 03-07-2012 09:08 PM
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Originally Posted by KeptByTheWord (Post 1146305)
well... since you're the new kid on the block... maybe this is your orientation...

:girlytantrum
Might just be!

I can tell others are used to her stories.....they tend to walk away and leave me with her. Ha!

rgcraig 03-07-2012 09:11 PM
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Quote:
Originally Posted by Jay (Post 1146300)
She is likely to be a nearly pure sanguine. That means that she is automatically 'friends' with everyone she meets. You happen to be the lucky person who sits closest to her in the office. Eventually, when she can not be there you will likely find that your days begin to drag.
I doubt that - - I can get more done in the hour she's gone for lunch than some mornings.

There have been a couple times that she's gotten completely silent, no typing even and I walk by and she's got her head down on her chest taking a little nap. I tip toe away because I know it would embarrass her if she knew I saw her.

I think she does have some reassuring issues - - so, maybe I can help her there.

berkeley 03-07-2012 09:13 PM
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Invite her over for some fried chicken and sweet tea.

rgcraig 03-07-2012 09:15 PM
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Originally Posted by berkeley (Post 1146315)
Invite her over for some fried chicken and sweet tea.
Naw, that's okay.

I'm doing Weight Watchers right now and she said she was interested in doing it with me (and one other lady there), but yet she eats all day and talks about Gigi's caramel cupcakes! And, then there have been several food stories to listen to too.

Everyday is an adventure to say the least!

Jay 03-07-2012 09:19 PM
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She definitely sounds like a sanguine. Does she lose things easily?

Cindy 03-07-2012 09:20 PM
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Bless her heart.

rgcraig 03-07-2012 09:22 PM
Quote:
Originally Posted by Jay
She definitely sounds like a sanguine. Does she lose things easily?
Haven't really noticed that.

rgcraig 03-07-2012 09:23 PM
Quote:
Originally Posted by Cindy
Bless her heart.
Lol - that's a true southern expression!

KeptByTheWord 03-07-2012 09:26 PM
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How's Weight Watchers working for you?

rgcraig 03-07-2012 09:26 PM
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Originally Posted by KeptByTheWord
How's Weight Watchers working for you?
Good - down 10 so far.

berkeley 03-07-2012 09:27 PM
Re: Story Tellers - A New Experience For Me
 
Quote:
Originally Posted by Jay (Post 1146320)
She definitely sounds like a sanguine. Does she lose things easily?
I think she's an American.

Jay 03-07-2012 09:27 PM
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Is she well organized? The state of her desk may yeild some clues there. Also, if she is the mood to chat and you have time, mention a funny story about forgetting things. This should help.

Jay 03-07-2012 09:28 PM
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Originally Posted by berkeley (Post 1146329)
I think she's an American.

American=the first hybrid.

rgcraig 03-07-2012 09:30 PM
Quote:
Originally Posted by Jay
Is she well organized? The state of her desk may yeild some clues there. Also, if she is the mood to chat and you have time, mention a funny story about forgetting things. This should help.
She is not organized. She has noted how organized I am and even cleaned up her cube since I've been there. My cube is always neat even when I'm working on a project. Everything has its place.

berkeley 03-07-2012 09:38 PM
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Originally Posted by rgcraig (Post 1146336)
She is not organized. She has noted how organized I am and even cleaned up her cube since I've been there. My cube is always neat even when I'm working on a project. Everything has its place.
OCD


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