Disabled My Facebook Accout
 

Bout a week ago I did something that I had been considering doing for some time now...I disabled my Facebook account.My wife disabled hers and I did as soon as I found out.I had been bothered for a while about how Facebook had turned friendship from an active experience into a voyeuristic passive thing where people feel close but don't have to invest into an actual relationship.The second reason was the need for healthy boundaries.My mother is a very sweet person....but she's got some boundary issues....she's the type that will just unload a whole litany of personal things on you without even really knowing you..well my wife wasn't really prepared for that so it kinda freaked her out understandably.So yeah...there were some boundaries that are needed...the only thing is my mom is a bad facebook addict and she pretends that facebook is the only method of contact so since we deleted our accounts she's been contacting friends trying to "check up on us"...its really gotten annoying because we haven't cut all contact by any means just facebook but from her reaction you would think we changed our names and number and moved to some undisclosed location in the dead of night...anyways...anyone else have similar experiances on facebook?

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I have been considering leaving FB but for much different reasons.
I hate their income producing model of having businesses tie in anything you do with them to your FB page. I recently found out that many online newspapers and websites have turned their comments section into FB comments. Drives me nuts because I might want to comment on a particular article but do not think it is important enough to make that comment a FB post to take up my friends time to see. On a minor note the same thing with sweepstakes. I have enjoyed in the past entering sweepstakes but now a lot of companies make the entry requirement a FB "like".

You would think a few banner ads on FB but more than earn them enough money.

Oh, I also don't respond to any friends who request I meet them someplace or give them some personal data on a calendar through FB because when I have looked at the fine print it usually means you are agreeing to give them access to your personal data.

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My husband and I decided soon after FB came on the scene, that we did not want to be a part of a that kind of social networking. It has the ability to easily destroy relationships, or take you to the place where you have no relationship at all, but just social messaging, but no face to face contact. I have had many people over the last few years cease to correspond with me, even by email, because you can only "reach" them through facebook. I've missed out on some pictures of family events, and so on, and have been the last one to find out "news" someone first posted on FB instead of calling or emailing or dropping by to talk to talk to you.

Yet, we are very, very thankful we chose this road, because we have continued to build strong family relationships, and keep in touch with our families in the traditional way and have not had to be part and parcel to a lot of the nonsense that does happen with FB.

Just my thoughts on the matter.... :)

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Yeah...nobody ever calls me anymore...lol...what's sad and funny at the same time is that so many people would come up to me and tell me how funny my posts were and how much I made them laugh but would never invite us to hang out in real life....I mean coworkers or at church it was like a constant stream of people "Oh Brother Will you are just crazy...tee hee hee"....I enjoy being funny and making people laugh but its like "If im so wonderful how come we aren't friends in real life?"I was just providing entertainment without any investment on their part.

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I love Facebook. For some of us it's a great medium to have contact with others. I don't get out of the house, except for trips to the doctor. Y'all are welcome to come see me, or call me though. :)

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I'm not on facebook. It seems so big brotherish. I'm not saying I never will, but it gives me pause to think of joining.

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I enjoy it but ive always used common sense, i dont post my cell phone, address, pics of my house, places that i work, my work/trade listed is very general,i also dont do any games and have them all disabled ,i dont view things that allow apps to access what little info that is personal on there, to be shared and i didnt change to the new time line either just on principle.i also dont tell people what im doing or where im going for security reasons.

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I don't do Facebook for all of the reasons people posted above and more.

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I use it quite a bit but if you added all the seconds I am actively reading or posting there it probably comes to 4-5 minutes a day (OK, maybe 10-15 on some days).

And I do not have my birthday or employer open to anyone.

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Im thinking about getting back on because there have been so many disappointed that I left....its like I seemed to have really cheered them up at times.....*sighs*

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I like face book but I have limits. I delete "friends" who are always posting foolishness. I post very little, I message people very little. The little I use it is to keep in touch with members of the family that I hardly see at family events. I have boundary issues with the mother-in-law, God bless her, so her "friend requests" go unanswered. She no longer sends me requests, I think she got the idea.:nod

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Yeah I have boundary issues with my mother...she's sweet as she can be but she gets stalkerish...and I post alllll kinds of foolishness...alot of funny stuff and pictures.

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I am on facebook and AFF too much. I need to cut back. Every so often I will "fast" facebook or AFF for a while. I spend too much time in these places, time which could be put to better use.

However, I do interact with people I haven't seen for quite a while, get caught up on what is going on with them, and have prayed for others and received prayer from others here and on facebook.

Also, it has been a good place to post pictures where I know lots of people will see them. And, I get to see what grandkids and others are doing by checking out their pictures and posts on facebook.

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You will be defeating your own reason as to why you disabled your account then.

Seems to me that if you cheer people up on Facebook, you could cheer them up in person? Have a real relationship?

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I resisted social networking through the myspace period but eventually, about a year or two ago, opened a FB account.

It has been wonderful reconnecting with old friends from 20 and even 30+ years ago. In that regard it is magnificent.

It is how intrusive FB has become that makes me not like it now. Not to mention how they are constantly changing things so about the time you feel comfortable with how to navigate around it they change it.

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I guess it all depends on what one would call foolishness. For me, its foul language, distasteful pictures and constant updates of no real significance, for example "Im eating dinner now". I find game requests and the like slightly annoying but they don't make the delete list.

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What do you mean intrusive?

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I find that ALL of the above can make my delete list, especially the constant game requests. I am not that thinned skinned when it comes to this but there are a few I have banished with the delete button who must be playing 30+ games, and sent me requests for each and every one of them (more than once).

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My husband and I are not on Facebook either.
Your reasons sound alot like my reasons.
I think it's very sad that real time with family
and friends are being neglected because of the
time spent in the drama house of facebook.

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:highfive

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I love fb most of the time. Fb doesn't replace a social life for me; it adds to it. I still have the same contact I always did with local friends. On the plus side, I have more contact with distant friends and family than I used to. I do get to see more details of my friends' lives, because of all the pictures posted online. How often do you go to a friends' house and get to set down and peruse their photo albums and really see everything they've been up to or what their kids have been doing lately? Fb makes it easy to keep up in between visits and phone calls.

Fb is best when you learn how to use the privacy settings to limit unwanted *intrusion* and even how to limit what people can see from within your friends list. I have photo albums, for instance, that only my family can see. If I post something controversial, I'm likely to change the audience to a custom list of people I want involved in the conversation, and everyone else is excluded--even if they are on my friends' list.

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I can get insulted and my salvation questioned on facebook as well as on AFF.

I'm on it a lot. You can filter out what people see and what you see of their posts using lists. I have connected with people I thought I'd never see again. Phenomenon of this generation, I guess. Our kids will have always had it around.

I am bad with sending things in the mail, or sending photos to people, so it's been a great resource to share our lives with family. As with anything, it can be overused, but just use it in moderation. Those that are worried about temptations or not trusting their spouse have underlying issues that need to be addressed anyway, in my opinion.

Big brother? They already know everything. Don't kid yourself.

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I think long and deep before I add someone to facebook. I feel bad deleting someone, and I'm not one to cause drama. I have two cousins who get kind of messy in their posts, one I could never delete (we grew up together practically as brother and sister) and the other one I have a feeling if I were to delete her, she'd call my phone and blow up on me. So I just silently imagine their posts don't exist when I see their name. Everyone else on my friend list (I think no more than 50) doesn't saying anything they wouldn't say face to face. However, if I would have facebook drama every other post, I don't think I'd be on facebook very long either.

Just remember, you don't have to delete people to not have them on your newsfeed. Just filter a bit.

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You can always choose to see just the most important posts of a given person which in most cases completely removes them from your wall.

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Precisely!

I've been enjoying FB. Contact with friends from the last 45 years:highfive.

My rule.........if I could not invite you to my home or you wouldn't invite me to yours__________not actually a friend.

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I really do not like FB.

Honesty I think it causes most folk to lose 25% of their IQ points.

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I use it especially for missions.

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I have thought sometimes about joining facebook. I guess seeing power in the hands of the wrong people has made me skittish. I think about how Hitler would have used facebook. And you know that the powers that be in our government aren't very nice. Okay, I sound conspiratorial. Maybe I should just join sometime and enjoy what it has to offer. We'll see.

Only 25? The world has gone mad...and stupid.

At least it makes it easier to determine who to defriend in real life.

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Been on for a couple months. It has increased real life socialization, so far, not decreased. I am enjoying reconnecting with some people I have been out of touch with for 30 years. I recommend using the filters. "Acquaintance" setting can be nice too.