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Chewy 06-05-2007 05:22 PM

Bitterness
 
Can someone please tell me what bitterness is? Does it even really exist?

Are you comfortable calling someone bitter just because they have disagreed with the pulpit?

Could it be that only a small percentage of people labeled as bitter are just disappointed at how things turned out in their life?

Why isn't the thing or person that caused someone that disappointment and further, bitterness what is held in contempt opposed to the person being affected?

ILG 06-05-2007 05:26 PM

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Originally Posted by Chewy (Post 142773)
Can someone please tell me what bitterness is? Does it even really exist?

Are you comfortable calling someone bitter just because they have disagreed with the pulpit?

Could it be that only a small percentage of people labeled as bitter are just disappointed at how things turned out in their life?

Why isn't the thing or person that caused someone that disappointment and further, bitterness what is held in contempt opposed to the person being affected?

Bitterness definately exists, but it has also become a catch-all phrase (they got bitter) for people who disagree with anything that happens and voice it.
So, I do believe there is a real bitterness that people can get....and also that there is a groupthink about people who dissent that they are though of as "bitter". It is sometimes easier to call someone bitter than address the real issue.

TalkLady 06-05-2007 05:51 PM

Bitterness is real or maybe it's just disappointment.

tamor 06-05-2007 05:58 PM

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Originally Posted by TalkLady (Post 142789)
Bitterness is real or maybe it's just disappointment.

I don't think so. One can be disappointed without being bitter.

TalkLady 06-05-2007 05:59 PM

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Originally Posted by tamor (Post 142791)
I don't think so. One can be disappointed without being bitter.

That's true.........I was just saying it can be one or the other.

tamor 06-05-2007 06:07 PM

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Originally Posted by TalkLady (Post 142792)
That's true.........I was just saying it can be one or the other.

Sorry. I misunderstood what you meant.......:haloplug

rgcraig 06-05-2007 06:23 PM

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Originally Posted by Chewy (Post 142773)
Can someone please tell me what bitterness is? Bitterness is when you let a situation that has affected you in your life fester and becomes clouded with revenge, hatred, hardness and unforgiving (all or a combination of some of those)

Does it even really exist? Yes, it really exist.

Are you comfortable calling someone bitter just because they have disagreed with the pulpit?No, I'm not.

Could it be that only a small percentage of people labeled as bitter are just disappointed at how things turned out in their life?Labeled by others wrongly, yes. Are there some that are bitter because of disappointment, yes.

Why isn't the thing or person that caused someone that disappointment and further, bitterness what is held in contempt opposed to the person being affected?Not sure I completely understand this question, but I'd say the other person that might have caused the bitterness at times are clueless how they've made someone feel. At other times, they might have purposely done something knowing it would hurt the other person and cause them to be bitter.

:girlpopcorn

Praxeas 06-05-2007 06:24 PM

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Originally Posted by Chewy (Post 142773)
Can someone please tell me what bitterness is? Does it even really exist?

Are you comfortable calling someone bitter just because they have disagreed with the pulpit?

Could it be that only a small percentage of people labeled as bitter are just disappointed at how things turned out in their life?

Why isn't the thing or person that caused someone that disappointment and further, bitterness what is held in contempt opposed to the person being affected?

  1. Having or being a taste that is sharp, acrid, and unpleasant.
  2. Causing a sharply unpleasant, painful, or stinging sensation; harsh: enveloped in bitter cold; a bitter wind.
  3. Difficult or distasteful to accept, admit, or bear: the bitter truth; bitter sorrow.
  4. Proceeding from or exhibiting strong animosity: a bitter struggle; bitter foes.
  5. Resulting from or expressive of severe grief, anguish, or disappointment: cried bitter tears.
  6. Marked by resentment or cynicism: "He was already a bitter elderly man with a gray face" (John Dos Passos).

IBCrazier2 06-05-2007 06:32 PM

(Hebrews 12:14) “Follow peace with all men, and holiness, without which no man shall see the Lord:
15 Looking diligently lest any man fail of the grace of God; lest any root of bitterness springing up trouble you, and thereby many be defiled;
16 Lest there be any fornicator, or profane person, as Esau, who for one morsel of meat sold his birthright.
17 For ye know how that afterward, when he would have inherited the blessing, he was rejected: for he found no place of repentance, though he sought it carefully with tears.”


Bitterness is caused by hurts or offenses. The end result of not forgiving hurts, is bitterness. The development of bitterness is a gradual and progressive process. There are four steps to bitterness.
a. Hurts.
b. Anger.
c. Resentment.
d. Bitterness.
Hurts happen and we get angry, then comes resentment toward the individual that has hurt us. The final step is bitterness.

IBCrazier2 06-05-2007 06:46 PM

Symptoms of Bitterness.
All of these may not apply to every situation.
1. Insane - their reasoning is not clear or right.
2. Blind - all they can see is the offense or the bad.
3. Revenge - they want revenge at any cost.
4. Cancer - the bitterness eats away at the person like a cancer.
5. Sexual Sins - bitterness and fornication are placed in the same context of the scripture. Bitterness that is allowed to grow will lead to sexual sin on the part of the bitter person (Hebrews 12:15).
6. Irreverence - bitter people do not respect the opinion or counsel of their leaders. They are irreverent and will not listen.
7. Spreads and defiles - bitterness does not abide alone, it spreads and defiles many. (Hebrews 12:15)

RevDWW 06-05-2007 07:19 PM

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Originally Posted by Chewy (Post 142773)
Can someone please tell me what bitterness is? Does it even really exist?

Do I detect a hint of bitterness????? :killinme:killinme:killinme:killinme
Yes bitternees does exist. See Acts 8:23, Rom 3:14, Eph 4:31, Heb 12:15.

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Originally Posted by Chewy (Post 142773)
Are you comfortable calling someone bitter just because they have disagreed with the pulpit?

That in and of itself would not necessarily indicate bitterness, rebellion maybe, but not bitterness.

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Originally Posted by Chewy (Post 142773)
Could it be that only a small percentage of people labeled as bitter are just disappointed at how things turned out in their life?

I would think that if anybody had a good excuse to be bitter it would have been Paul, but he wrote:
Philippians 4:11 - 13 (KJV) 11 Not that I speak in respect of want: for I have learned, in whatsoever state I am, therewith to be content.
12 I know both how to be abased, and I know how to abound: every where and in all things I am instructed both to be full and to be hungry, both to abound and to suffer need.
13 I can do all things through Christ which strengtheneth me. [/quote]

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Originally Posted by Chewy (Post 142773)
Why isn't the thing or person that caused someone that disappointment and further, bitterness what is held in contempt opposed to the person being affected?

Because the bitterness does not come from a thing or action it comes from the heart and mind of the embittered.


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