Alternative engagement tokens...
 

for non-jewelry wearing Apostolics?

Re: Alternative engagement tokens...
 

as long as they are not valuable they might be accepted
otherwise a greedy preacher might chastise them for not giving the money to the church. :heeheehee

Re: Alternative engagement tokens...
 

They could get a tattoo with each others name on it! jk....

Maybe a patch they wear on their shirt that says "Married"?

Re: Alternative engagement tokens...
 

serious ideas appreciated....thanks!

Re: Alternative engagement tokens...
 

not so much thinking of a symbol to show the world "we're married" but just a gift

Re: Alternative engagement tokens...
 

Ah, i see. by token i thought u meant something they could wear to show the world they were taken. if you just mean a gift then just about anything sounds acceptable...

Re: Alternative engagement tokens...
 

I've heard of beautiful watches with diamonds on them given by many Apostolics. You know, watches are accepted, but rings aren't. :)

Or perhaps on a more serious note, you could each exchange Bibles. I've heard of that being done too.

Re: Alternative engagement tokens...
 

I think exchanging meaningful gifts is nice. We exchanged small, engraved Bibles and we both wrote notes in the front for each other. We still have those and treasure them, even though we bought rings later.

If you wear watches, you could always do that in place of rings. The bonus is that watches can be engraved on the back.

Here are some good suggestions from The Wedding Channel:

a beautiful jewelry box
a bottle of extravagant perfume
an antique hair ornament
a pretty journal
a leather desk set
an exquisitely bound book, personally inscribed
a monogrammed handkerchief
an antique desk clock
an engraved money clip
A bi-plane ride for two, complete with old fashioned goggles
A special photograph in a frame
A love letter written on a beautiful card
An original poem or love song
A tree sapling (traditional in Bermuda and the Netherlands)
Joint personalized stationery
A book of love poetry, inscribed
Tickets to your favorite opera or sports event
A cassette or CD compiled of favorite love songs

--Link

Re: Alternative engagement tokens...
 

Great ideas, Miss B!

Re: Alternative engagement tokens...
 

Your post sparked an idea, Miss B. ... My husband loves trees. Our anniversary is coming up. Perhaps I should get him a tree sapling for an anniversary present. That would be pretty unique, I think.... We could plant the tree in a special place with a nice park bench close by. It would be a nice memory for years to come.

Re: Alternative engagement tokens...
 

:thumbsup

Re: Alternative engagement tokens...
 

I liked the ideas Miss B gave! :)

Really like your anniversary idea too!! :nod

Re: Alternative engagement tokens...
 

Are there still churches that forbid rings now days? I was not aware of that. If I may ask, what would be the difference in a ring and an expensive watch with diamonds? If it is against the rules for rings, why not have a CHEAP Wal-Mart watch or rather use a cell phone that has a clock on it? When we got married, I got a cheap gold band and for the engagement I got a white Bible. I now have a 2 piece ring set with a diamond that was given to my husband to give to me. I cherish both and have never felt convicted of wearing either. I guess the story of the Prodical son would not go over so well in the church today.

Re: Alternative engagement tokens...
 

It's called inconsistency. A band around your finger is a sin. A band around your wrist is ok ...if there's a small clock attached to it.

Re: Alternative engagement tokens...
 

Yup!

Re: Alternative engagement tokens...
 

A watch is jewelry, so to not exchange wedding rings because it's jewelry but instead do watches is kinda silly.

Re: Alternative engagement tokens...
 

I do not wear a watch. My girlfriend does not wear a watch. Most of the saints in our church do not wear flashy or jeweled watches.

Re: Alternative engagement tokens...
 

I'm sooo confused. I thought u were a girl all this time

Re: Alternative engagement tokens...
 

:laffatu

Re: Alternative engagement tokens...
 

My Dad taught against wearing jewelry and he didn't wear anything else gold, bejeweled or fancy, either. Not even belt buckles. Some people are consistent.

Me...I'm like a magpie, attracted to all the shiny stuff. :heeheehee

Re: Alternative engagement tokens...
 

The no jewelry position doesn't seemed to be strongly supported by scripture.

Re: Alternative engagement tokens...
 

I don't think it is, either, other than under the clause of modesty and moderation or not being extravagant. However, if someone teaches against jewelry (rings/earrings/bracelets/necklaces, etc), I appreciate their being consistent and not being gaudy in other ways.

Re: Alternative engagement tokens...
 

Actually the scriptures strongly support a pro Jewelry position.

Even Jesus himself wears jewelry, what is the anti-jewelry crowd going to do, scold Jesus for wearing jewelry?

Is the legalistic crowd going to send Jesus to hell for wearing a beard and jewelry?

Re: Alternative engagement tokens...
 

Where did Jesus wear jewelry?

Re: Alternative engagement tokens...
 

In the Bible

He is the king of King and he wears a crown of jewels he also wears a golden sash, that is also jewelry.

a golden girdle (Revelation 1:13)
a golden crown (Revelation 14:14)

The whole city of Jerusalem is made of precious stones which are used in jewelry

The whole city is made of Gold, the angels also wear golden sashes, the candlesticks are made of Gold.

The city has gigantic pearls.

There are many other scriptures in the Old Testament.

Re: Alternative engagement tokens...
 

A new church for starters.

Re: Alternative engagement tokens...
 

:heeheehee