Why did you have children?
 

Why did you have children?

Because I see them as my blessing.I grew up the youngest of five and was born to my parents in their forties.I spent much of my life living like an only child.I was
super excited every time I found out I was expecting a child.Its great to have a family life.If I could have had ten I would have.Children are great and when they
grow up they make great friends as well.

One cannot understand love until they have become a parent.

By the way, if you are planning to avoid having children, please refer to the sister poll to this one.

You mean the love of God?

I can't believe the love I have for my kids, and if I love them this much-imagine God's love for me!!


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To replenish the earth like the Bible said?






Real reason - to complete our family. Both children were planned and God blessed us with a healthy boy and a girl, so we stopped at two. That way we didn't have to buy a mini van!

I'll probably still be alone in my old age and holidays, but at least I have beautiful memories, videos and pictures to look at - lol!!!!

None of the poll answers apply to me.

That is probably a better way of saying it. I know I understand the Love of God much better. But I also love my wife more too. I understand my love for my wife better.

something about seeing that baby for the first time...it just changes you.

The first one was a surprise beyond words. :)

We were married 3 months when we found out that we were expecting.
She was the girl I wanted. Continues to be to this very day. She is my favorite daughter born in Louisiana.

The 2nd one was the one who would round it out.

We already had a girl and wanted a boy. He was prophesied to us. We named him before any ultrasound or anything because the man of God told us when he would come and that he would be a boy.
I was raised with 2 brothers and I had wanted a girl. I got my girl and it was time for a boy. I never understood how wonderful it is to teach a young boy to be a man.
He loves everything about being a rough and tumble boy and yet he never fails to open doors for his mom and sisters.
He is my favorite son.

The 3rd one came right on the heels of #2. 20 months later.
Kelly Clarkson sings a song about her. Miss Independent. :) When I ask if I can help her with something I already know the answer... "No sir... I got it" :)
She is one amazing young lady. She is headstrong like her mama. :)

When we first got married I saw that as something that needed to change. My wife and this little one has helped me see that we ALL bring something very different to the table and the key is to hone what we are for the use of the kingdom rather than trying to make everybody into the same people.
She is my favorite daughter born in Texas.

2 were shockers beyond belief and one was fully expected. All 3 are some amazing individuals which make me proud all the time.

My oldest prayed for an hour on her own the first time when she was 3... and I mean wailing... she is one of a kind. She is 14 and starting to play the keyboard for our chruch more and more.

My second loves the altar. He loves to pray and cry before the Lord. He is 11 and is going to be a preacher and a trucker and about 10 other things. :)

My third loves her daddy. She had trouble praying standing up (as in church service etc). LOL... funny thing but she just couldn't pray unless she was kneeling. She was excited the other day that she was finally able to pray standing up. Interesting little battle she had there but she whipped it and dad rejoiced with her.

They all keep their rooms clean... well... they clean their own rooms... they tend to have to be told to do so sometimes.

They clean the kitchen after each meal.

Mom is having to work right now (as well as dad... of course) and they keep the clothes washed, dried and put away.

They love to help me with my garden. Well... the younger 2 do... :)

They simply know how to be an integral and working part of a household.

Well... you made me start talking about my kids and I tend to go on and on about them.

Children are a wonderful blessing and a formidable responsibility. I love them all and thank God for their presence in my home and life.

Love kids....wanted a dozen... said I would settle for six. Had three girls three years in a row and probably would have continued to have kids if God hadn't stepped in and said... "ok, enough now....you're gonna kill yourself" I never did anything temperate.

It is a lot more overwhelming than I ever imagined, but like Ferd... I don't think you ever know/understand love until you have kids.

To complete our family, and "be fruitful and multiply." Even before becoming a Christian, it was my desire as a woman to become a mother. Now I wish I was able to have 10 more!

I love my kids.

I offer nothing but appreciation for your feeling in this area.

I thank my Good Lord that my wife does not feel this way. :)

I think that 3 is a wonderful number.

I thought 2 was a wonderful number until about 9 years ago. :)

Yeah, what she said - and that i think it is God's will....

I think it probably is too.

I later tried for more after an illness, but I was unable to conceive again. I just took it as it was not God's will for me. I wish we still had the big families that they used to.

So true!

None of the categories fit my reasons for wanting children:
1. I wanted to see if my husband and I could really make a baby.
2. I wanted a daughter so that I could have a great relationship with her as I had with my mother and sisters. I also wanted to make my In-laws mad because they wanted me to have a boy [the last to carry on the name].
3. I wanted to have a son because I knew he would love me as my brother loves his sisters and his mother.

I actually wanted three and have always felt a little miffed that the in-laws talked my ex into a vasectomy, but then...I was ever so glad when we divorced and he remarried;)!

Blessings, Rhoni

P.S. Deal with it...it is the truth!

I have two children. I always wanted to have 4 or 5 but it didn't work out that way. I had a very hard time physically taking care of the two I have. I would have loved to be one of those people that had a good number of kids. I think family is one of the greatest gifts that God gives us....provided of course that Mom and Dad are both capable and devoted Christian people. Somehow, we seem to have forgotten that children are an heritage of the Lord. I am not at all opposed to birth control....I think that banning it would be a great mistake. However, I'm afraid that the complete availability of it and the total acceptance and EXPECTATION that it WILL be used in our culture is sad. People who have large families are looked at as if there is something wrong with them. I think birth control should be used as a benefit to what we are trying to accomplish in this world and not a detriment. My Mom has 13 brothers and sisters and it is one of the neatest things. Although my Grandmother could have used a little birth control for her sanity. My grandfather, who was a fisherman and left for weeks at a time simply told my grandmother that "God will provide" when she cried asking for a break in having children. But, my mother and her siblings have the greatest gift of each other.

This is a good post!

I remember having friends with three children and it was always difficult to have them over because of the confusion and the amount of food consumed. They had difficulty socializing with the three children. What I admired most about this couple was the way they took all three of the children into the prayer room before service and prayed together as a family.

My mother had 5 children and although I have never desired that many, I don't know what I would do without all of my siblings. We can fuss with each other and talk about each other but when hard times come we rally round each other and support each other. Family is all you have in this life and if the relationships are bad...life is bad also.

You didn't have the option of - Every type of birth control was adverse to my body.

The limit was seven options.

May I ask what it was about abstinence, barrier methods, and surgical sterilization that were adverse to your body?

I have children because my wife wouldn't leave me alone!!! :D

:slaphappy:killinme:slaphappy

Somehow I think that we only getting one side of this story. :)

She forced me!!! :D

And you never forgave her... right?

Oh no, Brother. I forgave her immediately, just like the Bible says! :D

Too many personal women things to talk about in public. Let's just say we found a solution and my husband now sings soprano. :D

I can say that I have never been tolerate of medication of any kind, even aspirin. It I take one aspirin I will have to lay down and go to sleep.

You are a fine Christian gentleman.

:)

We didn't "HAVE" children. Our boys are adopted.

Sometimes I think people might put more thought into their reasons for having a family when they adopt then most folks do when they give birth. Not always - but often :) I know we did! We thought about it, talked about it, prayed about it and then prayed about it some more!

In the end, we just decided that that we had enough love to give that we wanted to share that with children that would become our own. God blessed us so much when He placed each of our sons in our home. They are both a perfect fit. And they are definately the greatest gift we've ever received!!

Amen! This was definately true for me. I don't exactly know why I wanted a child, but I'm glad God blessed us with one.

Amen! Adoption is the ultimate act of love!

:lalala Pressing On, please don't feel like you have to answer this question!!!! There are some things that would be just TMI!!!!
:blush

It doesn't have to be like that.

It sounds like she is very sensitive to contact with a variety of inorganic chemicals, and anesthesia.

That would be a plain and simple way of explaining it without getting into the world of 'female TMI.'

I am very sensitive to inorganic chemicals and anesthesia.

And probably opposed to abstinence being married and all - :slaphappy

I agree that adoption is an act of love, but not any more so than married couples who conceive their children in love.

Ultimate love is those mothers who die in childbirth so their child can live.

Blessings, Rhoni

I wasn't opposed to it!!!! I couldn't talk him into. He said it didn't make any sense. :killinme

Well of course it doesn't make sense...

Good grief.

:slaphappy

You know..... she looked at me.....I looked at her....:winkgrin.



Blessed is the man that quivers when he is full.

It's because I told him that I wanted to have more experience in accidence. He just misunderstood me. :killinme

Well, actually, it wouldn't be proper for me to go into detail here. Haven't you figured out how or why that happens yet? :D