Divorce in the church
 

Do you feel church people are harsh toward those in the church under going a divorce?

I have friends who tell me that they felt treated very badly and they were the innocent party.

Yes.

Some treat you like a leper... as if divorce is a communicable disease.

Some come out and let you know right upfront that it is never one sided. "You both made plenty of mistakes"... yeah, thanks for the reminder. One of those mistakes was me telling you my wife left me. Appreciate your compassion. Want your knife back? It's uncomfortable stuck there in my neck.

The Church is the only army which murders it's wounded.

Sometimes they don't murder the wounded, sometimes they seem to simply take pleasure in causing more horrific, disfiguring wounds, and even maiming for life.

To me, brother, it is the same thing. One can be murdered in the church spiritually for good. Divorce is a sad situation and something that is horrible to go through. The Church needs to remember that if it was not for the Lord, we would be in some serious trouble.

I have always treated folks with respect.

The hard thing is the divorce rate is the same in the church as out of the church. Why?

I can't say. I feel bad for anyone that is going through a divorce and can't imagine anyone piling on when they are in need of help.

It is sad that the church now has such a high divorce rate.

I believe that divorce is a wide sin but Christians seem to misplace their feelings on it. Especially in the Apostolic / Holiness movement. We seem to hold down the wounded like Brother Price said. It's sad and again a huge trial that many people in this world face. Just like all sins Jesus can wipe that clean. Wash it in the blood of Jesus and it comes out white as snow.

Unfortunately, some do. It could be as simple as feeling awkward, and not knowing how to behave. Or it could be as awful as deliberately being rude and mean.

Ignorance plays a bigger role than pure malice.

I received much love and support from chuch when I was going through divorce. Sure, there were a few folks who were just the opposite, but the majority of my church family loved and helped me and I was never treated as damaged goods.