HELP!!! question for you all.
 

I have a mother with Alzheimer's. She has started having health issues. She lives with one of my sisters and now my sister is having some issues. She has a young daughter with problems and a son who is pretty much taking over the house.
I do not live close but I have several bothers who do. I have sister that lives out of state and she has been going to help out a few times a month.
I love our church. Love the area we live in except for the crime and the higher cost of living. I have been feeling torn between if I should try to move back to the area and help my sister or not.
Personally I do not like Ohio, lots of old nasty memories there. There is a good church and lots of people we know and love there though.
If you were faced with a similar situation what would you do?
Would you move back and be there to help? or would you stay put and go back once a year for a week or two to help then? or would you just stay put and not worry about things?

Just curious what a few others might do in this situation.

Please feel free to say. Honestly, I need some ideas.

=) thanks

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I'd lean towards helping Mama.

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Depends- How would it affect your support for your family (job). Is there any way that your family can raise money to help your sister with the care of your mother or find a assisted living apt. that specializes in caring for people with your mother's condition? We have that in our town. There are also services that will come into the home and care for people in thier homes here. I would proceed very carefully. Talk with your wife at length and your siblings. I have faced a simular situation . Dont make any knee jerk decisions based on the emotions of the moment.

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I agree with Blubayou.

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If you are in a good place in terms of stability and having a good church (which I think is important for your family and will pay tremendous dividends in the future), how feasible would it be for your mother to move either in with you or close to you in one of the kinds of places discussed above.
From what you have said about your sister's situation, her house may not be the best place for your mother now anyway. If your sister is overwhelmed with a daughter having problems and if her son "is taking over the house", your mother may be better able to enjoy her twilight years elsewhere.
It appears that you may be better able to help without having to return to a place that you don't want to be in the first place and may not be the best place for your family.

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That was my thought also... my mother and her sister bounced my grandmother from Texas to Arkansas until they were unable to take care of her anylonger.

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I do not know what to say but I will be praying for you to be lead by the skillfulness of God´s hands...God is more that able to show you exactly what is best...sometimes we get in a maze and just can´t see straight but He is far above us and HE HAS promised to lead the way...Love you folks...

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Exactly what I am hoping for. Thank you

Re: HELP!!! question for you all.
 

Wow, jax, we have experienced this same type of situation. We made the move and, of course, it has forever altered the lives of the people who remain. I understand choices you have to make.

Make your choices out of love (God's love) and not out of fear.

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What are your brothers doing to help?