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Uncle Joe

07-11-2011 07:46 AM

False Confession

What should parents do if their child confessed to something he did not do to avoid worse punishment for "lying" because of their strict policy on honesty?

Example, you asked your child if he did something wrong and he says "Yes, I did" because he was fearful you would not believe him if he said "No, I didn't" and get even worse punishment for what you think is "lying" because you told him he would get him into even more trouble if you thought he lied. Then you later found out your child did nothing wrong.

Hoovie

07-11-2011 08:10 AM

Re: False Confession

Like real adult life, i think there needs to be some evidence before meting out punishment.

scotty

07-11-2011 08:13 AM

Re: False Confession

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Originally Posted by Hoovie (Post 1079860)

Like real adult life, i think there needs to be some evidence before meting out punishment.

Agreed. I can know (in my mind) one of my girls has done something but if I can't point it out or have evidence then they just get the age old warning "you better not let me catch you"

Cindy

07-11-2011 08:18 AM

Re: False Confession

How old is the child?

Hoovie

07-11-2011 08:19 AM

Re: False Confession

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Originally Posted by scotty (Post 1079861)

Agreed. I can know (in my mind) one of my girls has done something but if I can't point it out or have evidence then they just get the age old warning "you better not let me catch you"

I have done that too... But usually would have talk about "how we can keep this from happening again - since we both know this is unacceptable... " Sounds noble anyway! Lol

scotty

07-11-2011 08:32 AM

Re: False Confession

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Originally Posted by Hoovie (Post 1079863)

I have done that too... But usually would have talk about "how we can keep this from happening again - since we both know this is unacceptable... " Sounds noble anyway! Lol

And nothing wrong with being noble, lol. :thumbsup

With three girls, (as Im sure you know with multiple children) its not always easy to decern which one may have been the culprit. And your sure not going to get a straight answer, lol. And they make pacts with one another, the youngest is usually the informer of the group, she will inform me of which of the other two may have done it. Now as the youngest has gotten older and mischievous herself the other two have dirt on her that allows them a new immunity from her.

acerrak

07-11-2011 08:45 AM

Re: False Confession

probably whoop their bottum, or ground them. either or.

we do lesser punishment for being honest, it doesnt matter how the lie comes it is still a lie.

my daughter has a bad habbit of this and i come down on her hard for it cause she is a repeat offender.

Uncle Joe

07-11-2011 08:59 AM

Re: False Confession

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Originally Posted by acerrak (Post 1079868)

What if she didn't think you would believe her if she told the truth and thought you would punish her any way? A case where she is doomed if she does and doomed if she doesn't.

Cindy

07-11-2011 09:01 AM

Re: False Confession

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Originally Posted by Uncle Joe (Post 1079875)

What if she didn't think you would believe her if she told the truth and thought you would punish her any way? A case where she is doomed if she does and doomed if she doesn't.

How old is she, and is this the first offense?

If she is 12 or over, explain to her once trust is broken it is hard to earn back. And a lie has consequences, whatever her reason was.

Sister Alvear

07-11-2011 09:02 AM

Re: False Confession

raising children can get so complicated....

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