How do you deal with a gay friend?
 

How do you deal with a fellow Christian who is gay?

The Bible is clear that this is sin. And I have a feeling that the conversation of "if this is sinful, why did God make me gay?" is going to come up soon. And I want to handle it rightly.

Has anyone else been through this before? Any tips? Speaking in love and directly from the Bible are in my arsenal now. I just want to make really sure that if/when the conversation comes up, I handle it with love and the right spirit.

Re: How do you deal with a gay friend?
 

I'm not sure I have the answer to your question, but will just share my thoughts on the subject.

One might feel a desire to watch porn, or have extramarital affairs, or be single and have sequential partners, but because of what the bible teaches about sex and marriage, we will have a better life if we don't act on those feelings. We don't always understand why people have the feelings they have, but the goal is to pattern our lives after the bible instead of our feelings.

I believe that the Bible is blueprint for having a good life now, along with a good eternity.

Re: How do you deal with a gay friend?
 

I completely agree with all of that.

Re: How do you deal with a gay friend?
 

Not sure what you are agreeing with. With being gay or the arguments against such behavior?

Just wondering.

Re: How do you deal with a gay friend?
 

It's not your burden to bear. Don't even try. Homosexual orientation is wrapped tightly with the persons identity. You may tell the person that you don't agree with the sin, etc.
What he or she will hear is "I reject you!"

Buena suerte.

Re: How do you deal with a gay friend?
 

I worked on a job with several gay males and a lesbian. My wifes old boss was a lesbian. We found it was best to treat them like you would any other person living in sin. Show the love of Christ, be friendly, dont lecture, just because you don't loudly proclaim your disgust for their life style and sin doesnt mean you agree with it.

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Monterray - I agree with Amanah's sentiments.

Everyone else - I do not and have no intention of treating this person differently. We are ALL sinners. I just want to do my best to handle the conversation that I see on the horizon.

Re: How do you deal with a gay friend?
 

Let God handle it.

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Sorry, that didn't answer your question, did it? :)

I think you are on the right track, based on your latest post. Treat him or her like any other friend. If and when "the conversation" comes up, you can certainly give your opinions on the question, but certainly allow for differences of opinion.

It's puzzling to me that many gay people are Christians, as it does seem to be against the Bible's teaching, but who knows? Maybe they're right, when they interpret things differently. It's their life, and they do what they feel they have to. They are gay, and there is no changing that. (Except, apparently, very rarely -- and then I have to wonder if the "delivered" gays were not strictly gay but bi-sexual, and simply choose to focus on the opposite gender through their own will power. Just my hunch.)

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I agree and practice this.