Did You Scorn Leaving the UPC?
 

After you left, did you often go to forums you knew where UPCers would be and trash the UPC non-stop then after someone pointed out you sounded bitter claim "Oh Im over it and have moved on. I have no stones to throw"?

:heeheehee

Prax - it's "relating their experience," not bashing.

:lol

Re: Did You Scorn Leaving the UPC?
 

Oh right...forgot :icecream

Ha ha this thread brings the funny.

Re: Did You Scorn Leaving the UPC?
 

No...sure didnt...kept to myself...didnt try to convince anyone or defend my actions because ultimately it was my decision and not something that could be related and explained in one simple discussion or conversation.Tried having some honest discussions about it and ended up experiencing all kinds of defensiveness to the nth degree... it was the equivalent of covering your ears going "LALALALALA CANT HEAAAAAR YOOOU" So instead of waste my time I just kept my mouth shut...they went their way n I went mine.

Re: Did You Scorn Leaving the UPC?
 

Prax,

I hope you asked this question in sincerity and not just to laugh and scorn the people who may reply.

When I left, I was hurting so deeply, I cannot even describe it. I came to forums because I needed to talk, needed to make sense of what happened to me.

I would say "ah" and people would jump me like nobodies business and scream and yell about what a bitter, horrible backslid person I was. I had to leave for my own emotional safety. I came back later, after I had healed some and did not talk about anything but "safe" subjects for a long time.

It is very telling to me that every time anyone brings up a "not safe" subject, meaning anything negative about the UPC, like it's ugly hang nail on it's big ugliest toe that is the most obvious fault of the UPC, some people just can't handle the slightest bit of criticism at all. I think that is very sad. For these people, there is no rationality to constructive criticism for they believe that ANY criticism is hateful and spiteful.

I can't help that though. And watch the fur fly from all the people I just described after I post this.

Re: Did You Scorn Leaving the UPC?
 

Prax, not sure I understand the title of this thread. Do you mean did a person scorn the UPC when they left? Asking "did you scorn when you left the UPC" seems odd phrasing.

Re: Did You Scorn Leaving the UPC?
 

I rued the day of ever stepping foot into a UPC congregation. Those are years I'll never get back; years I could have used doing something for God instead of sitting on a pew, because of a suspicious pastor who thought I was assigned by a trinitarian church to subvert and overthrow his congregation with trinitarianism.

Re: Did You Scorn Leaving the UPC?
 

That is what happens when your nickname is "Dante's Inferno"! On a more serious note what do you mean by "instead of sitting on a pew because of a suspicious pastor who tought I was assigned by a trinitarian church to subvert and overthrow his congregation with trinitarianistm"

Did you come from that trinitarian church when you started going to the UPC one? Did you express differences in doctrine that were a cause for him believing that? There has to be much more to this story!

There had to be something that made this pastor think what you said he thought even if just a small thing that his imagination blew up. Give us details!

Re: Did You Scorn Leaving the UPC?
 

I asked because people have left this forum over daily seeing negative posts about the UPC. It's gotten so old and tired even I come here less and less.

It's supposed to be Apostolic Friends Forum but it's become "X-UPCers talk about the UPC"

You are actually the one being defensive over my pointing out that several of the posters here constantly do that.

Most of your accusations don't pertain to me