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bdlooney 06-27-2007 02:15 PM

What Would You Do???
 
My wife is currently in an accelerated LVN Nursing program that requires her to attend clinicals a few days a week. Her mother made her a few scrub skirts to bypass the whole pants thing.

Today, while in clinicals at a local hospital, she encountered a nurse that once lived (how do I say this?) a "traditional" Holiness Pentecostal lifestyle. (ex: Dressess, uncut hair, no makeup, no jewelry) This nurse and other nurses began to mock my wife becuase of her religious stance. They said things like, "You won't last living that way." and "Your beliefs are outdated." etc... The charge nurse was in the area and allowed nurses under his control to badger my wife concerning her religious beliefs. They continued this in harsher terms than I am able to adequately describe. My wife did not run but maintained that she chooses the life she lives and she chooses this one.

My wife is not a wimp, is fully persuaded of her stance and is perfectly capable of "enduring hardness as a good soldier of Jesus Christ." Normally I am one to let it roll off my back. But when this is done to my wife I want to do something instead of doing nothing and feel like I am letting my wife be run over.

My question: Would you attempt to take action if this were done to your spouse? Do you think that it would be wise or a "good witness" for our faith?

Your thoughts please...

Ferd 06-27-2007 02:38 PM

Dont get in the way of her getting her education. the only thing that would do is make life more difficult for her.

Given time, and the right spirit, your wife's antagonists will hang themselves....

CC1 06-27-2007 02:55 PM

That behaviour is despicable. In my experience if she can be coolheaded enough to act like it doesn't bother her and laugh it off it will probably cease.

If they "get her goat" so to speak and she appears upset and flustered it will probably continue.

As you know I think her conviction is not biblical but it is her conviction and those other people should respect that.

revrandy 06-27-2007 03:07 PM

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Originally Posted by CC1 (Post 169974)
That behaviour is despicable. In my experience if she can be coolheaded enough to act like it doesn't bother her and laugh it off it will probably cease.

If they "get her goat" so to speak and she appears upset and flustered it will probably continue.

As you know I think her conviction is not biblical but it is her conviction and those other people should respect that.

Good Post...just count it all joy... as Paul did...

Tell her to stay strong and God will shut the mouths of the Lions...

ChTatum 06-27-2007 03:07 PM

I concur. Let her demeanor continue to be Godly, not rendering evil for evil.

revrandy 06-27-2007 03:09 PM

I noticed towards the end of your post this was more about your response...

I would just encourage her to follow her convictions... and keep your cool...

Chewy 06-27-2007 03:26 PM

This is really an easy one. I would give the same answer to someone asking how they can get a pesty kid to stop bothering them.

I would suggest your wife write out what has been going on and ask that it be put in her file with HR. Then go about her business doing her best to ignore them. They are only trying to get under her skin and get her to respond. They will be frustrated if she just ignores them as she would a pesty kid yelling "LOOOKITLOOOKITLOOOKITLOOOKIT ME!!!!"

ALVIN 06-27-2007 03:29 PM

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Originally Posted by bdlooney (Post 169936)
My wife is currently in an accelerated LVN Nursing program that requires her to attend clinicals a few days a week. Her mother made her a few scrub skirts to bypass the whole pants thing.

Today, while in clinicals at a local hospital, she encountered a nurse that once lived (how do I say this?) a "traditional" Holiness Pentecostal lifestyle. (ex: Dressess, uncut hair, no makeup, no jewelry) This nurse and other nurses began to mock my wife becuase of her religious stance. They said things like, "You won't last living that way." and "Your beliefs are outdated." etc... The charge nurse was in the area and allowed nurses under his control to badger my wife concerning her religious beliefs. They continued this in harsher terms than I am able to adequately describe. My wife did not run but maintained that she chooses the life she lives and she chooses this one.

My wife is not a wimp, is fully persuaded of her stance and is perfectly capable of "enduring hardness as a good soldier of Jesus Christ." Normally I am one to let it roll off my back. But when this is done to my wife I want to do something instead of doing nothing and feel like I am letting my wife be run over.

My qiestion: Would you attempt to take action if this were done to your spouse? Do you think that it would be wise or a "good witness" for our faith?

Your thoughts please...

As one who does not hold to the tenets of a "traditional" Holiness Pentecostal lifestyle, I would say that religious beliefs are not the issue here at all.

There are some people with class, and some without any at all. It would appear that your wife met some people without class, but conducted herself with class. Bravo for her!

The problem with going to war with people without class is that, in the heat of battle, onlookers can't tell who is who. It's like wrestling with a pig. You both get dirty and the pig enjoys it.

As far as addressing the workplace issue, you'll have to decide whether creating a hostile work environment is worth the satisfaction of seeing the delinquent supervisor, and a few cackling hens, reprimanded.

Trouvere 06-27-2007 03:35 PM

She is warring with a mocking spirit.That is all.Stand firm and be a christian to them.I have been a nurse since 1992 and I could care less what anyone says
about how I dress.The traditional nurse wears a white dress/hose and clinic shoes anyway.The real work world will be easeir than the school thing.Tell my sister to hang in there the money is worth it.

Ferd 06-27-2007 03:37 PM

and once again, YOU do nothing but support your wife.


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