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For those who want to know...RULES at my church!

This is not about bashing...please don't to go there...this is just what my church was like and my Pastor wanted it....we didn't think it was necessary so we left! I love them, and I hope nothing but the best for them, I just think fear rules them and to me that is soooooo sad!

Rules...
1. No talking on the phone for more than 10 minutes
2. No friends outside of church, not even family (it was discouraged strongly)
3. No more than three families at a time in your home and not too often, if you had a gathering you are suppose to ask everyone in the church so no one gets offended.
4. No home bible studies without the ministry being there
5. You must attend all fellowships
6. So lunch dates, or shopping with friends even the ones in church...
7. No important decisions made without consulting the pastor...like, buying a car(new, used, how much you can spend)...same with a home or property.
8. You were not allowed to move, unless you had his OK.

Being we are older we did not attend parenting classes or marriage classes so we missed out on a lot of the rules...but over time we learned. This is not everything, but for the moment its enough...I might add more as I think of them.....

So there ya go Thad....

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Originally Posted by Sister Truth Seeker (Post 285120)

This is not about bashing...please don't to there...this is just what my church was like and my Pastor wanted it....we didn't think it was necessary so we left! I love them, and I hope nothing but the best for them, I just think fear rules them and to me that is soooooo sad!

Rules...
1. No talking on the phone for more than 10 minutes
2. No friends outside of church, not even family (it was discouraged strongly)
3. No more than three families at a time in your home and not too often, if you had a gathering you are suppose to ask everyone in the church so no one gets offended.
4. No home bible studies without the ministry being there
5. You must attend all fellowships
6. So lunch dates, or shopping with friends even the ones in church...
7. No important decisions made without consulting the pastor...like, buying a car(new, used, how much you can spend)...same with a home or property.
8. You were not allowed to move, unless you had his OK.

Being we are older we did not attend parenting classes or marriage classes so we missed out on a lot of the rules...but over time we learned. This is not everything, but for the moment its enough...I might add more as I think of them.....

So there ya go Thad....

This is UNBELIEVABLE!!!!

WHY ???

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Originally Posted by Sister Truth Seeker (Post 285120)

This is not about bashing...please don't to there...this is just what my church was like and my Pastor wanted it....we didn't think it was necessary so we left! I love them, and I hope nothing but the best for them, I just think fear rules them and to me that is soooooo sad!

Rules...
1. No talking on the phone for more than 10 minutes TO WHOM?? ANYBODY??
2. No friends outside of church, not even family (it was discouraged strongly) WHY?? DIDN"T JESUS EAT WITH SINNERS?? HOW DID YOU WIN THE LOST ??
3. No more than three families at a time in your home and not too often, if you had a gathering you are suppose to ask everyone in the church so no one gets offended. WHY!! THAT IS NUTS!
4. No home bible studies without the ministry being there WHY??????
5. You must attend all fellowships AND IF YOU DIDN'T /.?????
6. So lunch dates, or shopping with friends even the ones in church...PLEASE CLARIFY
7. No important decisions made without consulting the pastor...like, buying a car(new, used, how much you can spend)...same with a home or property.
8. You were not allowed to move, unless you had his OK.
THAT IS CULT ACTIVITY !!!

Being we are older we did not attend parenting classes or marriage classes so we missed out on a lot of the rules...but over time we learned. This is not everything, but for the moment its enough...I might add more as I think of them.....

So there ya go Thad....

there you go TS!! Qs in RED

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Originally Posted by Thad (Post 285133)

there you go TS!! Qs in RED

1. Pretty much…if you were talking more than 10 minutes your just gossiping! Funny though I had several very long conversations with my Pastor!
2. I don’t know how you win the lost if you don’t fellowship with them, you need to make a friend before they will want to hear your testimony…
3. Yes it is…but thems the rules, and that is why the church does not grow. It has a revolving door too many rules
4. NO home bible studies….I wanted to start a ladies bible study group, was told NO because we need to be there e to be sure you don’t get off track!
5. You were talked to if you did not attend all fellowships…scolded!
6. No daytime activities with friends….idle time…fun time
7. Nothing more here
8. I agree brother that is why we left….it was oppressive….

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Originally Posted by LaGirl (Post 285137)

Wow Wow Wow Wow Wow

Yes yes yes yes yes.....I agree...

That kind of stuff is just plain nuttier than squirrel poop.

Totally uncalled for. Not at all what a pastor or church is supposed to be about.

sounds to me like the pastor has WAY TOO MUCH time on his hands...making up all of those silly rules!!!!!!!

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Originally Posted by chseeads (Post 285173)

That kind of stuff is just plain nuttier than squirrel poop.

Totally uncalled for. Not at all what a pastor or church is supposed to be about.

Well color me surprised, I didn't know that it was the first church I had ever gone too sense I was a kid! I went in gung ho and wanted to please God, but the Pastor came first....which I didn't realize until later!

I miss so much the good parts, but not enough to go back and endure the bad stuff...its not exclusive to my old church either...its a district problem!