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Originally Posted by Phoenix
Ouch. How does thinking you're perfect fit in with being hurt?
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A big "Thank You!" to Rob McKee for sharing this, however, I for one will have to wait for the print edition.
Phoenix: I think, that when "the church" or a minister has wronged an individual it might be common for the one who has done the wrong to feel at least some remorse. In that condition of remorse they will often seek to justify themselves rather than seeking justification in the atoning sacrifice of Jesus Christ.
This self justification will cause them to project their own feelings and thoughts upon those they have wronged. Among these thoughts are things like,
"...Well! I suppose they think they're perfect and that THEY have never hurt anyone!"
Blaming the victim in any way is an act of self justification and will hinder real reconciliation; but it is a way for the offender to offset their remorse and to feel better about themselves without having to resort to real repentance.
**** I have no idea that this speaker in this recording takes any position like this. I also trust that Rob McKee is too kind and gracious to resort to this kind of thing, so I don't want to be thought of as impugning either of these brothers. I am hearing impaired and just can't make out most online audio. These are simply my thoughts in response to Phoenix' question.