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Originally Posted by LooneyLucy
...I think the real problem "in the church" is that there is not enough marriage training? or teaching? whatever you want to call it. Women marry preachers many times, just because they are a preacher no matter what the man looks like, just for the prestige of being married to a preacher. Then the man gets this beautiful wife and if he does not know how to connect with her on an emotional level, their intimate life will be VERY minimal. Face it, men need sex. If he goes years without gettin it at home, he will find it somewhere. Too many of my friends have gotten divorced in the last 2 years, leaving 20+ years of marriage and their "preacher" husbands, either he cheated or her.
He wants sex, but doesn't know how to give his wife the emotional aspect to make her want it, and since he doesn't fulfill her emotionally she looks for another man to fulfill her in that manner.
Men are DUMB in most marriages, they think it's all about the mechanics, when in reality it's about that emotional connection.
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This is a pretty insightful post.
Though as a man, I think that boiling down the issue to men being dumb is a little ... Well, dumb
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Complex systems fail in complex ways. Both men and women have to work hard to understand each other's "systems". It does NOT come natural - which I find baffling, by the way. So much of it isn't about intelligence. It's about emotion and to a large extent, hormones, of course
. Trust me, it would be easy for us to call the woman's perspective "dumb." Just sayin'.